Forum Index
»
College and University Discussion
What's with the constant put down here of hardworking kids as "Striver" kids"?
![[Post New]](/jforum/templates/default/images/icon_minipost_new.gif){kind=icon}
Anonymous
|
There used to be a time when the Protestant work ethic used to be appreciated and emulated in this country.
We used to tell our kids, "No matter what your situation in life, take it in stride and work hard and you will get past the hump" Now working hard and persevering is an insult? There is also a racist element to this put down. I've seen it used frequently on Asians. Sad state of affairs. |
Anonymous
|
I'm also interested in the definition being used here for "striver." I took it to be a put down by wealthy parents of kids whose future is more or less assured no matter how well they do in school - and to distinguish them from those who have to excel academically to get ahead.
|
Anonymous
| It's not just on here, it's on all the boards. I just saw someone on the money board being called a "pathetic" striver. |
Anonymous
I honestly think they feel threatened and maybe a little jealous? |
Anonymous
| DCUM gonna DCUM. |
Anonymous
|
You folks do realize that everyone on the internet won't see things your way?
The "striving" that I see criticized is usually attached to some belief that only kids who get into some small list of around 20 colleges are acceptable and the rest are garbage. Bring that attitude to the table and you will be slammed. I personally have criticized the choosing of activities to appeal to some admissions committee rather than to the actual student's interests. Yes, the racism is disappointing. |
Anonymous
|
On DCUM striver refers to someone who is obviously smart, ambitious, hardworking and maybe a little calculating.
Somehow it is preferable to behave as if it all comes naturally and without breaking a sweat. It smacks of privilege to me too. |
Anonymous
| I rail against people who design a kids' whole childhood (i.e.,their SUPPOSED interests, extra-curricular activities, summers) to line up with a pre-destined path that will push them into some future that is impressive to wealthy others. That allow their children to take so many AP's that it requires insufficient sleep, caffeine (or worse ) for children to get a GPA that puts them ahead of their peers in the eyes of HYP. It is not healthy, and it is not being done for pro-social reasons. It is being done to beat out others. |
Anonymous
| Seeking status is different than working hard towards some worthwhile goal. It is pathetic when it stems from an insecurity (or desire to win) that is driving all decisions (instead of the health of the child involved). |
Anonymous
|
A striver is like a try hard.
They don't just work hard, they talk about working hard, they complain when they don't get "what they deserve", they have no clue that many kids work harder and are smarter even if their grades don't show it, they don't understand that most of their accomplishments are luck/situational instead of hard work, they work for money, they are followers, etc .... Why would you want to be a striver? Nobody likes a stiver or a try hard. |
Anonymous
| I work with some try-hards. They’re the ones who get stuff done. None of the rest matters. |
Anonymous
| Jealousy, and sometimes an outlet for anti-Asian feeling. |
Anonymous
+1 and insecurity. |
Anonymous
That’s cute. Varsity Blues showed us a minor glimpse into how rigged and unfair life is against strivers. Connections, money and caste order trumps any striving. Of course you’ll cling to outliers and keep faith, but deep down you know it’s true. |
Anonymous
You don't' know what a try hard is then. |