He asked me out for Friday but still hasn't set s time?

[Anonymous]

Should I text to see if still wants to see me tomorrow or just make plans with another guy?

[Anonymous]

Why don't you ask?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why don't you ask?

Because I don't want to seem desperate.

[Anonymous]

A simple text, “See you tonight 7 @x?” doesn’t seem desperate to me, just mature and proactive. He changed his mind fine, you move on, but you’re not sitting there guessing. If he doesn’t respond to your text within an hour, then that’s also your answer.

[Anonymous]

It's not desperate to ask if you are still on and what time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why don't you ask?

Because I don't want to seem desperate.

You seem like you are 12

[Anonymous]

2 approaches

Give him until noon and then make alternative plans. If he contacts you after you have made other plans: "Sorry, I hadn't heard from you on a time or plans and something else came up, so I made other plans. Is there another night we could get together.

The downside to that approach is it sounds like it's not your first rodeo and maybe you have been stood up so much, you assume it's happening again. The alternative is to text him and say: Hey, just wanted to see if we are still on for tonight. I was invited to do something but I made plans with you first. Hadn't heard anything on time or place, so wanted to make sure before I said no to the invitation.

If you aren't all that into him, just text him and say, sorry, I had something come up and I can't make tonight. Can we reschedule?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:2 approaches

Give him until noon and then make alternative plans. If he contacts you after you have made other plans: "Sorry, I hadn't heard from you on a time or plans and something else came up, so I made other plans. Is there another night we could get together.

The downside to that approach is it sounds like it's not your first rodeo and maybe you have been stood up so much, you assume it's happening again. The alternative is to text him and say: Hey, just wanted to see if we are still on for tonight. I was invited to do something but I made plans with you first. Hadn't heard anything on time or place, so wanted to make sure before I said no to the invitation.

If you aren't all that into him, just text him and say, sorry, I had something come up and I can't make tonight. Can we reschedule?

Both terrible. Just text and ask what time works.

[Anonymous]

I find that men in general are not good at this sort of thing. Don't take it personally. Really- we would all like to be swept off our feet but men just don't. If you like him, go for it. Make the plan. If not, be straight forward and tell him that you need more definition. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Doctors confirm appointments for their patients everyday. Are they desperate? No. Confirm the time. Don’t play games.

“Are we still on tonight? If so, what time do you want to meet?”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why don't you ask?

Because I don't want to seem desperate.

You seem like you are 12

Exactly. Only the desperate are worried about being seen as desperate.

And dont text people. Call them. Texting in courtship is weak bull&#it. A male opinion here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find that men in general are not good at this sort of thing. Don't take it personally. Really- we would all like to be swept off our feet but men just don't. If you like him, go for it. Make the plan. If not, be straight forward and tell him that you need more definition. Good luck!

Umm. “men aren’t good at this sort of thing?” “swept off our feet?”
It’s not rocket science or romance, it’s a basic level of being polite and organized.

The man who invites but can’t commit to a time by the day before is the man who ends up being the husband who never remembers birthdays or other occassions. It’s also hugely disrespectful of your time; it implies that you are supposed to hang around and be available whenever he is available and that you have nothing else to be planned as important as whatever is going on in his life.

Personally, I would send a text saying that you are trying to make other plans for Sat and wonder if you are still getting together and if so, what time and where to meet? Sometimes life does truly overwhelm people, and I would make the effort once on the chance that this is the case. If he replies with info and apologies, go, but if it’s not a strong date just end it there.

[Anonymous]

Oh Jesus. Did you propose a time? You are BOTH going on the date right? Speak up ladies!!!!

[Anonymous]

“Did we ever set a time for tonight?”

[Anonymous]

Well I can already tell you this relationship is going to fail if you ever even get to that point. How old are you? Are you over 50 and still think the guy has to do everything? Or are you just super inexperienced?