Which is worse- Snapchat, Instagram, or tiktok? 12 year old
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Anonymous
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12 year old,- 13 year old, seems, basically, the same ‘age corallation’ wise to me.
DD has Snapchat and tiktok. I told her, at first, NO to Snapchat and Instagram , musically (tiktok) seemed harmless; she somehow persuaded me to get Snapchat by asking me to it on my own phone and she showed me the fun features and to get me more use to the idea she has it on her phone ... should I be a stickler about not getting Instagram? And to Get off of Snapchat and tiktok too? Which is worse? ... I haven’t downloaded “my spy” ware yet but I will. I just learned about VPN and now realize it’s why I cannot track her on Qustodio or Life360. My spy says it tracks Snapchat. I am so behind/ beyond all of this technology. I know my DD (12) is good kid but... How do you keep up with all this technology? Do both you and your spouse Both monitor, check, discuss “phone” social media stuff with your kids? My husband mainly leaves it to me unless there is an issue of some sort -then it’s my fault in conjunction with DD fault. |
Anonymous
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Instagram is almost certainly the safest of the three but regardless don’t just let them download it and go at it; go into each app’s privacy settings and lock it down so not just anyone can search for them and send friend invites, view their uploaded content, etc. If they want to add a friend from school change the setting back temporarily to allow it and then lock it back down as much as possible.
Basically just make sure they can’t directly interact with anyone you don’t know. The default setting for any social media platform will facilitate this, so always lock down privacy settings on every relevant app and check it every so often to ensure the settings are still what you expect them to be. |
Anonymous
| I agree with the PP about locking it down–you do need to be very aware of what is happening; however, I'm not sure I would download spyware. I feel that it breaks the trust factor and only worsens the situation, but you do what you need to to feel comfortable. |
Anonymous
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Instagram is FULL of porn. Videos and photos with full nudity
It also has cutting and anorexia and suicidal people all over it posting very disturbing content At least snap chat is not introducing them to adult content in the same way |
Anonymous
Tiktok has this content also. |
Anonymous
Read the news from this past week about fcps high schools and snapchat. No. Social. Media. For. Elementary. Kids. Or. Middle. Schoolers. |
Anonymous
OP this is your answer. |
Anonymous
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OP here- Thank you, I’m going to cut them all off. I would love to send them to her friends parents but I can’t handle both backlashes.
If I take all this off now (she only has snapchat and tiktok), I’m afraid she’ll do something vicious back. DD is spiteful. Then what about YouTube and Netflix, can we track those? What a mess. |
Anonymous
| My DD saw porn on you tube. It was my fault. I didn’t put oarent controls in time. Just FYI. |
Anonymous
| What are good monitoring/restricting apps or services. Access to “everything” for kids is unhealthy and I, am unsavvy tech user, can’t find solutions - beyond circle for aI-fi at home. |
Anonymous
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To really get parental controls beyond "all or nothing" the controls are all specific to the device.
If you google "parental controls on Android" or "Chromebook" etc. you will get specific directions for the device she's on. Hope this helps. |
Anonymous
| Tiktok is in trouble for illegally tracking and collecting data on children. |
Anonymous
| Snap chat shows your location too. |
Anonymous
You can turn that off |
Anonymous
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Instagram is the easiest to monitor. I keep my dd’s Instagram logged in on my phone all the time so I can see what she’s seeing, Keep an eye on the explore feed, searches, and dms.
Snapchat should never be in the hands of a kid, and not even a teen you can’t trust 100% |