How hard to find a 1/2 time boyfriend in early 40s?

[Anonymous]

I am wondering how difficult it would be to find a half-time boyfriend...or do people not do that? I am early 40s, planning a divorce, and have kids. I do not want to remarry. What I would like is a man to spend time with when I am not with my kids. I do not want to get married again and I do not want to mix a boyfriend with my kids. Maybe I will feel different about that in 10-15 years. I feel that maybe I would find a divorced man with kids who felt the same way (wanting to spend time with a woman but not involve kids). Is this possible or unrealistic? Yes, I am attractive and in the DC area.

[Anonymous]

Try online dating. It’s hard. I’m divorced and two kids and right now don’t plan to remarry.

[Anonymous]

Whether you will be able to date again should not factor into your decision to divorce.

The fact that you seem to be unable to be alone suggests you have some issues that need to be addressed.

Fix yourself, then determine if the marriage is saveable.

[Anonymous]

Tinder. My divorced friends have no problem finding guys. They have to sleep with them though.

[Anonymous]

There are plenty of men out there who just want to have a good time with no commitment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whether you will be able to date again should not factor into your decision to divorce.

The fact that you seem to be unable to be alone suggests you have some issues that need to be addressed.

Fix yourself, then determine if the marriage is saveable.

OP here: I am fine being single forever—as I mentioned. I am not looking to “date”—that is a straight-up boyfriend. That is not what I am looking for. I want a monogamous casual thing a few times a month...pretty much sex only or hanging out at home. I am not interested in going on dates. My concern is that men will want more. I don’t. I have hated being married and it should not have happened. Not salvageable. You did not understand my post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are plenty of men out there who just want to have a good time with no commitment.

OP here: good. This is what I wanted to hear. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Yes, 40's divorced dad here. This is me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whether you will be able to date again should not factor into your decision to divorce.

The fact that you seem to be unable to be alone suggests you have some issues that need to be addressed.

Fix yourself, then determine if the marriage is saveable.

OP here: I am fine being single forever—as I mentioned. I am not looking to “date”—that is a straight-up boyfriend. That is not what I am looking for. I want a monogamous casual thing a few times a month...pretty much sex only or hanging out at home. I am not interested in going on dates. My concern is that men will want more. I don’t. I have hated being married and it should not have happened. Not salvageable. You did not understand my post.

Monogamous is unrealistic

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, 40's divorced dad here. This is me

OP here: thanks for chiming in. I was hoping to hear this. My husband and I will both be seeking the same thing after a divorce and I wondered if other men would feel the same. I am glad to hear it. Was thinking divorced dads might have the same idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whether you will be able to date again should not factor into your decision to divorce.

The fact that you seem to be unable to be alone suggests you have some issues that need to be addressed.

Fix yourself, then determine if the marriage is saveable.

Shut up, you twit. What normal person wants to be alone? Op is smart to think about this now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, 40's divorced dad here. This is me

OP here: thanks for chiming in. I was hoping to hear this. My husband and I will both be seeking the same thing after a divorce and I wondered if other men would feel the same. I am glad to hear it. Was thinking divorced dads might have the same idea.

I am not saying it exists or is sustainable in the long run but it's what I want.

[Anonymous]

My partner. Keep him away from me part time. He is at work the rest of the time. He is attractive and need tlc. Win-win-win.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whether you will be able to date again should not factor into your decision to divorce.

The fact that you seem to be unable to be alone suggests you have some issues that need to be addressed.

Fix yourself, then determine if the marriage is saveable.

OP here: I am fine being single forever—as I mentioned. I am not looking to “date”—that is a straight-up boyfriend. That is not what I am looking for. I want a monogamous casual thing a few times a month...pretty much sex only or hanging out at home. I am not interested in going on dates. My concern is that men will want more. I don’t. I have hated being married and it should not have happened. Not salvageable. You did not understand my post.

This is my situation currently. Been in a monogamous relationship with a great guy for almost a year. We’re both busy with work and kids and life and hobbies we we get together maybe once or twice a week to hang out and have sex. It’s a step up from a FWB but a step down from an actual boyfriend. It’s the perfect situation. We do talk and communicate daily and I care about him deeply but we just hang out and have fun. No deep feelings on either side. Regular sex with a great guy as the schedules permit is the perfect situation. I’m 45 and I met him on Bumble.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whether you will be able to date again should not factor into your decision to divorce.

The fact that you seem to be unable to be alone suggests you have some issues that need to be addressed.

Fix yourself, then determine if the marriage is saveable.

OP here: I am fine being single forever—as I mentioned. I am not looking to “date”—that is a straight-up boyfriend. That is not what I am looking for. I want a monogamous casual thing a few times a month...pretty much sex only or hanging out at home. I am not interested in going on dates. My concern is that men will want more. I don’t. I have hated being married and it should not have happened. Not salvageable. You did not understand my post.

This is my situation currently. Been in a monogamous relationship with a great guy for almost a year. We’re both busy with work and kids and life and hobbies we we get together maybe once or twice a week to hang out and have sex. It’s a step up from a FWB but a step down from an actual boyfriend. It’s the perfect situation. We do talk and communicate daily and I care about him deeply but we just hang out and have fun. No deep feelings on either side. Regular sex with a great guy as the schedules permit is the perfect situation. I’m 45 and I met him on Bumble.

OP here: thanks for this! Exactly what I will be looking for!