How hard to find a 1/2 time boyfriend in early 40s?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t get A FEW cats up there, no way.

You’re just some angry incel who married badly- and it shows why the person who knows you best won’t tpuch you.

OP here: you have it all wrong. DH has low testesterone and I did not know until after marriage. There are also major other reasons why the marriage is sexless. I told HIM eight years ago to get a mistress. I was serious. I am now sick of living like I am dead and finally in the position to divorce. Years ago it was impossible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can’t get A FEW cats up there, no way.

You’re just some angry incel who married badly- and it shows why the person who knows you best won’t tpuch you.

OP here: you have it all wrong. DH has low testesterone and I did not know until after marriage. There are also major other reasons why the marriage is sexless. I told HIM eight years ago to get a mistress. I was serious. I am now sick of living like I am dead and finally in the position to divorce. Years ago it was impossible.

Yeah, I'm talking to OMG guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can’t get A FEW cats up there, no way.

You’re just some angry incel who married badly- and it shows why the person who knows you best won’t tpuch you.

OP here: you have it all wrong. DH has low testesterone and I did not know until after marriage. There are also major other reasons why the marriage is sexless. I told HIM eight years ago to get a mistress. I was serious. I am now sick of living like I am dead and finally in the position to divorce. Years ago it was impossible.

Uh, you did have sex before marriage, right?

How could you not know he had low T, or some kind of sexual dysfunction, if he wasn't trying to have sex with you every day before your marriage, when usually people are going at it like rabbits?

Telling a low T guy to get a mistress was a waste of time. If he has low T, he won't want to have sex with anyone.

I have to say I hope you are in therapy. There are clearly a lot of unresolved issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can’t get A FEW cats up there, no way.

You’re just some angry incel who married badly- and it shows why the person who knows you best won’t tpuch you.

OP here: you have it all wrong. DH has low testesterone and I did not know until after marriage. There are also major other reasons why the marriage is sexless. I told HIM eight years ago to get a mistress. I was serious. I am now sick of living like I am dead and finally in the position to divorce. Years ago it was impossible.

Uh, you did have sex before marriage, right?

How could you not know he had low T, or some kind of sexual dysfunction, if he wasn't trying to have sex with you every day before your marriage, when usually people are going at it like rabbits?

Telling a low T guy to get a mistress was a waste of time. If he has low T, he won't want to have sex with anyone.

I have to say I hope you are in therapy. There are clearly a lot of unresolved issues.

OP here: yes, we did before marriage but not much. Long distance for much of it masked a lot of things, including this.

[Anonymous]

OP - would you be interested in married men, i.e. be an AP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - would you be interested in married men, i.e. be an AP?

No. I would not stay in a marriage even if I had an AP. And if I am single, no, I do not want a married man. I would like someone divorced with kids that does not want to intertwine a romantic relationship with his kids...a similarly minded person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - would you be interested in married men, i.e. be an AP?

No. I would not stay in a marriage even if I had an AP. And if I am single, no, I do not want a married man. I would like someone divorced with kids that does not want to intertwine a romantic relationship with his kids...a similarly minded person.

But why do you care if he's married? That makes it more likely he will just want periodic sex with no romantic attachment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - would you be interested in married men, i.e. be an AP?

No. I would not stay in a marriage even if I had an AP. And if I am single, no, I do not want a married man. I would like someone divorced with kids that does not want to intertwine a romantic relationship with his kids...a similarly minded person.

But why do you care if he's married? That makes it more likely he will just want periodic sex with no romantic attachment.

Because if he’s that unhappy he should just get a divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - would you be interested in married men, i.e. be an AP?

No. I would not stay in a marriage even if I had an AP. And if I am single, no, I do not want a married man. I would like someone divorced with kids that does not want to intertwine a romantic relationship with his kids...a similarly minded person.

But why do you care if he's married? That makes it more likely he will just want periodic sex with no romantic attachment.

Because if he’s that unhappy he should just get a divorce.

Also, OP stated on first page that she wanted monogamous sex. That’s not tupically the deal when you’re an AP - often the many is still having some sex with the wife.

[Anonymous]

I think it will be fairly easy OP; My divorced friend wants a boyfriend who comes over every night of the week and spends all his free time with her--but that seems to be fairly hard to come by. If she would settle for a half-time boyfriend, she would have more selection.

Most single middle aged guys are either divorced with kids, and/or working hard at their jobs, or have their own lives/ hobbies and they really don't have time to date "full time" unless they are actively looking for a new "full time" relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can’t get A FEW cats up there, no way.

You’re just some angry incel who married badly- and it shows why the person who knows you best won’t tpuch you.

OP here: you have it all wrong. DH has low testesterone and I did not know until after marriage. There are also major other reasons why the marriage is sexless. I told HIM eight years ago to get a mistress. I was serious. I am now sick of living like I am dead and finally in the position to divorce. Years ago it was impossible.

Why did you have kids with him if you knew years ago?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - would you be interested in married men, i.e. be an AP?

No. I would not stay in a marriage even if I had an AP. And if I am single, no, I do not want a married man. I would like someone divorced with kids that does not want to intertwine a romantic relationship with his kids...a similarly minded person.

But why do you care if he's married? That makes it more likely he will just want periodic sex with no romantic attachment.

Because if he’s that unhappy he should just get a divorce.

Also, OP stated on first page that she wanted monogamous sex. That’s not tupically the deal when you’re an AP - often the many is still having some sex with the wife.

LOL just find one of the many married guys with a dead bedroom and problem solved, she gets exclusive sex with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can’t get A FEW cats up there, no way.

You’re just some angry incel who married badly- and it shows why the person who knows you best won’t tpuch you.

OP here: you have it all wrong. DH has low testesterone and I did not know until after marriage. There are also major other reasons why the marriage is sexless. I told HIM eight years ago to get a mistress. I was serious. I am now sick of living like I am dead and finally in the position to divorce. Years ago it was impossible.

Why did you have kids with him if you knew years ago?

Because OP is clearly a Narcissist who only looks out for herself and what she wants. She is an emotionless bot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can’t get A FEW cats up there, no way.

You’re just some angry incel who married badly- and it shows why the person who knows you best won’t tpuch you.

OP here: you have it all wrong. DH has low testesterone and I did not know until after marriage. There are also major other reasons why the marriage is sexless. I told HIM eight years ago to get a mistress. I was serious. I am now sick of living like I am dead and finally in the position to divorce. Years ago it was impossible.

Why did you have kids with him if you knew years ago?

They were both one time accidents birth control fails after like one time in a blue moon both times . Kids were never planned

[Anonymous]

Maybe I missed it, but has any woman come on this thread yet to verify that what OP wants is possible and they have that exact situation themselves? If so, how are they able to verify the man has been monogamous with them, like what OP wants?

Men will give you part time aex all day, but ive never heard of a man doing that AND pledging monogamy. Wouldn’t that be just like a marriage to him?? Where’s the upside in that for him, what does he have to gain from that type of arrangement?