How hard to find a 1/2 time boyfriend in early 40s?

[Anonymous]

Maybe I missed it, but has any woman come on this thread yet to verify that what OP wants is possible and they have that exact situation themselves? If so, how are they able to verify the man has been monogamous with them, like what OP wants?

Men will give you part time aex all day, but ive never heard of a man doing that AND pledging monogamy. Wouldn’t that be just like a marriage to him?? Where’s the upside in that for him, what does he have to gain from that type of arrangement?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe I missed it, but has any woman come on this thread yet to verify that what OP wants is possible and they have that exact situation themselves? If so, how are they able to verify the man has been monogamous with them, like what OP wants?

Men will give you part time aex all day, but ive never heard of a man doing that AND pledging monogamy. Wouldn’t that be just like a marriage to him?? Where’s the upside in that for him, what does he have to gain from that type of arrangement?

He doesn’t have to worry about getting an STD for a temporary period of time however long the arrangement last order that is six months or year or two years whatever, duh. I would think some monogamy in exchange for regular sex would be attractive to someone who has maybe limited time to chase other women due to their own busy life without the pressure of a woman acting like they wanted to move in or get married. Not like marriage at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe I missed it, but has any woman come on this thread yet to verify that what OP wants is possible and they have that exact situation themselves? If so, how are they able to verify the man has been monogamous with them, like what OP wants?

Men will give you part time aex all day, but ive never heard of a man doing that AND pledging monogamy. Wouldn’t that be just like a marriage to him?? Where’s the upside in that for him, what does he have to gain from that type of arrangement?

From a man's perspective, it's not like a marriage because he can bail on it at any time at no cost to him.

What he has to gain - somewhat frequent, reliable access to sex. No hassle from her for "more" - or so OP says.

I might say yes to that, but if I found an FWB who didn't insist on monogamy, I'd pull the plug on OP.

[Anonymous]

OP, you sound a bit off and unhinged. Men usually run away from crazy unless a woman is extremely hot and/or provides phenomenal sex on a regular enough basis. I can’t imagine that you’re that hot otherwise you wouldn’t have ended up miserable and with a low testosterone dud in the first place.

What’s redeeming about you that you think would entice anything but the most rejected of men to put up with all your constraints and crazy?

[Anonymous]

Hi OP,

I totally have this. It’s funng to hear you describe our relationship this way! We are together about half time, his place or mine, or on trips. It’s great! We do love each other and he hangs out with my kids now too, but only sometimes. We are very happy and feel zero pressure to do anything. We just take our time and enjoy our time together.

Good luck to you. : )

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi OP,

I totally have this. It’s funng to hear you describe our relationship this way! We are together about half time, his place or mine, or on trips. It’s great! We do love each other and he hangs out with my kids now too, but only sometimes. We are very happy and feel zero pressure to do anything. We just take our time and enjoy our time together.

Good luck to you. : )

I should add we are both divorced, and monogamous. It’s great, and I am so surprised to read some of the comments on this thread suggesting a half time relationship but full time commitment isn’t possible. It is and I think it is very common among divorced people with kids. How else would we find a relationship?? I don’t want the whole catastrophe of someone else’s messy life, nor do I want to extend the geopolitical boundaries of mine to include him. At least not yet! Maybe in 5+ years, if he is still around...

[Anonymous]

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