At what age did your friends start divorcing?

[Anonymous]

I just turned 40, and most friends of the same age have 5-10 year olds. Is this when the divorces begin? My social media seems filled with it lately, as well as a few close friends, all in the last couple of months.

[Anonymous]

My friend who got married at 23 divorced at 25. We are all now 45. I know the divorces are going to start soon.

[Anonymous]

Early-to-mid 40s is when the middle age rash of divorces begins in earnest. However, if you can make it into your early 60s still together, you are in a sweet spot.

[Anonymous]

It is never too early or too late to start hating each other!

[Anonymous]

Early to mid-40’s, or around 15-20 years of marriage. Seems to correlate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Early-to-mid 40s is when the middle age rash of divorces begins in earnest. However, if you can make it into your early 60s still together, you are in a sweet spot.

Those almost twenty years between 41 and 59 are treacherous territory, particularly since the men still retain a bit of their youthful charm and good looks combined with the aphrodisiacs of money and power. Notably, many women at this age similarly possess the money and power, and still retain a bit of their youthful good looks. However, society has conditioned us to find the wrinkles, gray hairs, and less firm skin and body tone of women in their 40s and 50s somehow less 'charming' then that of men of similar age and aging appearance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Early-to-mid 40s is when the middle age rash of divorces begins in earnest. However, if you can make it into your early 60s still together, you are in a sweet spot.

Those almost twenty years between 41 and 59 are treacherous territory, particularly since the men still retain a bit of their youthful charm and good looks combined with the aphrodisiacs of money and power. Notably, many women at this age similarly possess the money and power, and still retain a bit of their youthful good looks. However, society has conditioned us to find the wrinkles, gray hairs, and less firm skin and body tone of women in their 40s and 50s somehow less 'charming' than that of men of similar age and aging appearance.

Oops!

[Anonymous]

In our group after 2nd/last baby turned 2. Or after kids were elem-middle school. So mid-30s first group. Mid-40s second.

[Anonymous]

Mid 40s here and this makes sense. We are coming out of the baby years when it was all hands on deck and when there was no sex in the regular sense

Now there is lingering resentment from my wife about all the things I did wrong, we haven't rekindled the romantic side and frankly we are spiralling away from each other. And yes, as a successful man, it is easy to see alternatives out there and the potential of never having an intimate life again is stifling.

[Anonymous]

I have no divorced friends. Honestly I don't.

[Anonymous]

Quit divorcing..it's not kind to your kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have no divorced friends. Honestly I don't.

Same. Maybe we are too young? We are all roughly 40.

[Anonymous]

The ones who married in their early 39 s got divorced at 30.

[Anonymous]

Was shocked/surprised when kids reached MS I learned of 4 separations/divorces. Completely out of the blue as far as I was concerned.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mid 40s here and this makes sense. We are coming out of the baby years when it was all hands on deck and when there was no sex in the regular sense

Now there is lingering resentment from my wife about all the things I did wrong, we haven't rekindled the romantic side and frankly we are spiralling away from each other. And yes, as a successful man, it is easy to see alternatives out there and the potential of never having an intimate life again is stifling.

There is no excuse ever to have an affair. Get a divorce, give her the house, a good settlement and child support/alimony and move on.