Can an affair ever end well?
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Anonymous
| I mean what if we just want exactly the same thing and nobody finds out? Can it end well? |
Anonymous
| Sure it can. Everyone deserves happiness!! Even you! |
Anonymous
| Yes, but it requires likeminded individuals. You also have to be smart and discrete. There are many ways to make a mistake and have things end poorly. |
Anonymous
| If you never make a mistake and no one ever finds out, and no one gets pregnant or an STD, and neither of you is ever troubled by the deception, and neither of you wants more from the relationship than the other, and you both want to end it at the same time...sure. But there are a lot of "ifs." |
Anonymous
| One of my friends husband thought he was being real careful. After work he would go park his car somewhere, and the AP would pick him up. That way his vehicle was never at her house. The gps tracked his car, his wife only had to wait to see who dropped him off. Got the plate number, and followed her back to her home for a nice little chat. LOL They stayed married but he knew he wouldn't be able to get away with cheating again. The sad thing is she will never feel the same about him again, he threw a lot away. |
Anonymous
Why did she stay with him? |
Anonymous
| Car GPS. Cell phone trackers. Private investigators. There are answers to these things. But being discrete can be tricky. |
Anonymous
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It's pretty difficult to be discrete if your spouse is used to you generally going straight home after work. Even if you say you have a late night at work once a week, there are GPS trackers like Find Friends on the iPhone. It would obviously be really suspicious to suddenly cut your spouse off from that app.
I guess you could meet on a work trip or have your AP come to your house if you work from home one day (really douchey, but theoretically possible). |
Anonymous
Older couple nearing retirement. Good lifestyle, no inclination of wanting a job, another man, not having to worry about health insurance. I think after weighing it she figured he wasn't worth all that. And down the road she could end up a happy widow. |
Anonymous
This x 100. It can and for me it did (in the past, non-discovered). But, it's really, really hard to predict who is like-minded. Men and women rarely affair for the same reasons, and even if they did, in theory, agree on NSA, people's feelings can change. All that being noted, my guess is that far more cheating goes undiscovered. |
Anonymous
There's no way to be discrete if someone is on to you and adamant about catching you. If it gets to that better to divorce then date. Being a liar and cheater is a horrible way to live. |
Anonymous
Believe it or not, most people who are cheated on stay in their marriage. You would likely never know any of it went down, even with fairly close friends. |
Anonymous
| I agree with the previous poster. It no doubt occurs far more often than one would expect. That said, if you or your AP suddenly alter routine (without viable explanation, etc) it will not go unnoticed. |
Anonymous
Many women stay because of the kids and lifestyle. They often know about the cheating. |
Anonymous
or because they love each other and the H is sorry, actually goes to counseling to figure out what is wrong with him and changes. |