Can an affair ever end well?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's pretty difficult to be discrete if your spouse is used to you generally going straight home after work. Even if you say you have a late night at work once a week, there are GPS trackers like Find Friends on the iPhone. It would obviously be really suspicious to suddenly cut your spouse off from that app.

I guess you could meet on a work trip or have your AP come to your house if you work from home one day (really douchey, but theoretically possible).

That is really dumb. Many people have home surveillance. Your nosy neighbors etc. Remember Chris Watts neighbor showed the investigators his tape of him backing up his truck into the garage?

Best advice - don't do it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:One of my friends husband thought he was being real careful. After work he would go park his car somewhere, and the AP would pick him up. That way his vehicle was never at her house. The gps tracked his car, his wife only had to wait to see who dropped him off. Got the plate number, and followed her back to her home for a nice little chat. LOL They stayed married but he knew he wouldn't be able to get away with cheating again. The sad thing is she will never feel the same about him again, he threw a lot away.

Why did she stay with him?

Believe it or not, most people who are cheated on stay in their marriage. You would likely never know any of it went down, even with fairly close friends.

Many women stay because of the kids and lifestyle. They often know about the cheating.

or because they love each other and the H is sorry, actually goes to counseling to figure out what is wrong with him and changes.

Yep that too. All different scenarios. Also, one never knows what the AP will do. If they get mad or jealous they often let the other spouse know. I've seen that as well. Or they end up bringing a wacko into their lives. My client (long story) broke into her AP's house while they were on vacation. I don't know what she was looking for but we knew it was her. My client was seeing my old roommate's sisters husband. I was also friends with their babysitter, lol so I got info. from all sides. Both couples ended up divorcing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's pretty difficult to be discrete if your spouse is used to you generally going straight home after work. Even if you say you have a late night at work once a week, there are GPS trackers like Find Friends on the iPhone. It would obviously be really suspicious to suddenly cut your spouse off from that app.

I guess you could meet on a work trip or have your AP come to your house if you work from home one day (really douchey, but theoretically possible).

Exactly. So easy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's pretty difficult to be discrete if your spouse is used to you generally going straight home after work. Even if you say you have a late night at work once a week, there are GPS trackers like Find Friends on the iPhone. It would obviously be really suspicious to suddenly cut your spouse off from that app.

I guess you could meet on a work trip or have your AP come to your house if you work from home one day (really douchey, but theoretically possible).

Exactly. So easy.

You can get caught that way as well.

[Anonymous]

Several affairs in in my 30s. All ended when we both wanted to take it to the next level and I wasn’t willing to leave my wife and young kids. So, not exactly well but no choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: Several affairs in in my 30s. All ended when we both wanted to take it to the next level and I wasn’t willing to leave my wife and young kids. So, not exactly well but no choice.

You were never worried about a STD? Why did you even get married to begin with?

[Anonymous]

Been with mine for a year and very happy.
Not ideal but it worked for us and we both have kids.

[Anonymous]

For an interesting take on this read Graham Greene's "The End of the Affair."

[Anonymous]

My ex married the woman he had an affair with. So far, they’d say it ended well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ex married the woman he had an affair with. So far, they’d say it ended well.

Same. I wasn’t married, but my ex-BF married the girl he cheated on me with. She was cheating too — she was engaged.

[Anonymous]

Mine did. Been married almost 15 years.

[Anonymous]

My best friend married his AP, she left him for a woman.

Ended the best way possible.

[Anonymous]

One of my relatives had an affair with his friend's wife. They've been together for many years, but I don't think it's all roses. I never knew how they met, but his daughter told me some years back. Now I understand why her son hates him, never comes over.
If something happens to one of them it will be sad because they've burned a lot of bridges.

[Anonymous]

Mine won't end well.

[Anonymous]

My dad had an affair with his sister in law (my aunt). They got married after they both divorced from their spouses (my mom and uncle), and they have been together for twenty years.