Do you know any men who have given up career goals it education to be with a woman?

[Anonymous]

I can't think of any in my life, but know multiple women who have done this. How about you?

[Anonymous]

My husband did as he married young, had a family young so he couldn't get his education and a good job..

[Anonymous]

I cannot understand your thread title.

[Anonymous]

Nope.
Telling, isn't it?

[Anonymous]

Yes. My husband gave up college in order to work 2 jobs to support his family when his now-ex became pregnant.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Spent a decade as a trailing spouse. Divorced and started from the bottom.

[Anonymous]

No.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't say my DH "gave up" his career for ME, but he dialed way back at work once we had kids. He SAH for a few years and now works from home so that he can be the default parents, do pick ups and drop offs, etc.

[Anonymous]

Yes I know two men who are trailing spouses and followed their wives' careers around the country.

[Anonymous]

It's more of a challenge for men, since they are judged on their careers more than women.

[Anonymous]

Yes, quite a few. Here's three off hte top of my head:

One - Brown grad who had a good career - who now stays home with the kids because his wife, exec director of a nonprofit, travels a lot for work.

Another who is the trailing spouse for a State Dept diplomat

Another trailing spouse for a State Dept diplomat

There are others as well - but these are the first three who came to mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes I know two men who are trailing spouses and followed their wives' careers around the country.

OP you'll also see this in the foreign service for State Department, Commerce, etc.

[Anonymous]

No, I don't know any.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, quite a few. Here's three off hte top of my head:

One - Brown grad who had a good career - who now stays home with the kids because his wife, exec director of a nonprofit, travels a lot for work.

Another who is the trailing spouse for a State Dept diplomat

Another trailing spouse for a State Dept diplomat

There are others as well - but these are the first three who came to mind.

+ literally dozens and dozens and dozens

A huge number of Foreign Service executives are women. If those women are married, then their spouse has given up his own career 99.9% of the time.

The ignorance and naivete of posts like this in a city like DC is appalling, tbh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope.
Telling, isn't it?

Yes, it tells you women have the option to give up their career if they can find a man willing to marry them, but men don't have the option to marry money, they are expected to earn and be the breadwinner.