Moving things from a kiss goodnight on the sidewalk to coming up to my apartment

[Anonymous]

Woman here. Had third date. He didn't kiss me the first two dates. Kissed me on the third date. We kissed for a while. First a few kisses in the restaurant (a booth) then outside the restaurant for a long time.
He walked me back to my place. We stood outside and kissed again. But it felt like he was ending the date. Like he wasn't kissing me and trying to linger and not say goodnight. He was saying goodnight and that he wanted to see me again, but it felt like he was ending the date. I totally would have been up for him coming up to my place and us fooling around more, but I've never been good at asking guys to come up. Now I'm here wishing he was in my apartment and wondering what's up. Should I have just asked him up? Is he not into me (he seemed very into me when kissing me). Did he not want to come up? As the woman I feel shy asking guys up for the first time and I didn't really feel like he was angling to be asked up, because he wasn't just, ya know, kissing me and lingering. If he'd kissed me, and kept kissing me, and just kinda... Didn't leave....I maybe would have asked him up. But the goodbye felt....a little rushed.

Is he not into me? Tips on how to transition from sidewalk to apartment?

[Anonymous]

Use your words !

[Anonymous]

Ps it’s me too and you have to be explicit with your invitation

[Anonymous]

Yeah I know. If he'd just....stayed and kept kissing me....then I think I would have said something along the lines of "it's cold out here - want to come in for a little bit?" But...he said goodnight etc. I'm not sure he wanted to come up. But....he seemed into missing me and said he wanted to see me again.

Man....I wanted to hook up with him and now I'm home alone!

[Anonymous]

"Want to come up for a glass of wine?" would work.

[Anonymous]

Netflix and chill. Works every time.

[Anonymous]

Jesus Christ, #youtoo?

It’s 2019. Put on your big girl pants.

[Anonymous]

This is the sort of thing that either happens or it doesn't.

There is no way to manipulate someone else into being attracted to you. You either have that spark together or you don't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is the sort of thing that either happens or it doesn't.

There is no way to manipulate someone else into being attracted to you. You either have that spark together or you don't.

Op here yeah I'm not really talking about how to make a guy like me

I'm talking about the awkwardness of how to ask someone up.

But maybe that's it. If he was into me, like I said, he could have given me more of an opportunity to ask him up by just kissing me, continuing to kiss me, and not saying good night.

[Anonymous]

He's trying to read your mind, you're trying to read his mind... If only there were some way you could communicate your feelings to each other!

[Anonymous]

Women need to verbally extend the invitation to go back to your place.

Any decent gentleman is not going to invite himself into your place. A good man won’t put that pressure on a woman.

[Anonymous]

Seek help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Woman here. Had third date. He didn't kiss me the first two dates. Kissed me on the third date. We kissed for a while. First a few kisses in the restaurant (a booth) then outside the restaurant for a long time.
He walked me back to my place. We stood outside and kissed again. But it felt like he was ending the date. Like he wasn't kissing me and trying to linger and not say goodnight. He was saying goodnight and that he wanted to see me again, but it felt like he was ending the date. I totally would have been up for him coming up to my place and us fooling around more, but I've never been good at asking guys to come up. Now I'm here wishing he was in my apartment and wondering what's up. Should I have just asked him up? Is he not into me (he seemed very into me when kissing me). Did he not want to come up? As the woman I feel shy asking guys up for the first time and I didn't really feel like he was angling to be asked up, because he wasn't just, ya know, kissing me and lingering. If he'd kissed me, and kept kissing me, and just kinda... Didn't leave....I maybe would have asked him up. But the goodbye felt....a little rushed.

Is he not into me? Tips on how to transition from sidewalk to apartment?

grind as you hug see if his little head gets big

[Anonymous]

Woman here. TLDR. Just bring him up to your place if you're interested.

[Anonymous]

3 dates? invite him over for dinner.