Moving things from a kiss goodnight on the sidewalk to coming up to my apartment

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Maybe he’s excited about OP and didn’t want to wait all week. If he put his daughter to bed and she was sleeping, AND he has 50-50 custody, I think it’s ok.

Agree. No harm done.

So you wouldn't mind basically a stranger coming into your house when your kid was asleep?? I would be pissed if I were the mom.

[Anonymous]

So you wouldn't mind basically a stranger coming into your house when your kid was asleep?? I would be pissed if I were the mom.

have you never used a babysitter? the kid is 7, and dad spent time with her, and then she went to bed, babysitter there, and he went on a date.

OP, you cannot extrapolate from this one incident whether or not he is a good or involved father and neither can anyone else here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

So you wouldn't mind basically a stranger coming into your house when your kid was asleep?? I would be pissed if I were the mom.

have you never used a babysitter? the kid is 7, and dad spent time with her, and then she went to bed, babysitter there, and he went on a date.

OP, you cannot extrapolate from this one incident whether or not he is a good or involved father and neither can anyone else here.

No I meant if the date had come upstairs after the dad relieved the babysitter

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When you say custody, you mean visitation? This is the red flag for me. He should be spending time with his child during his visitation not hiring babysitters to try to get in your pants.

Why do you assume visitation? He has fifty fifty custody.

I was trying to make a distinction between full custody and some other arrangement which happens to be 50/50 - dude should be dating on the other 50, not his 50. That's the red flag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

So you wouldn't mind basically a stranger coming into your house when your kid was asleep?? I would be pissed if I were the mom.

have you never used a babysitter? the kid is 7, and dad spent time with her, and then she went to bed, babysitter there, and he went on a date.

OP, you cannot extrapolate from this one incident whether or not he is a good or involved father and neither can anyone else here.

No I meant if the date had come upstairs after the dad relieved the babysitter

Guys we were at my place, not his! I would never feel comfortable going into a guys house when his kid was asleep and hooking up on the fourth date! And his baby sitter was his sister, so the kid was still with family. But I do kinda agree about he should be seeing dates on the nights he doesn't have custody. At the same time, I feel like it's nice he balanced seeing me after his kid was asleep.

[Anonymous]

"Wanna come on up?"

[Anonymous]

I have a 7 year old DC, and she goes to bed at 7:30. I don't see it as an issue that he left his sister, the child's most likely loving aunt, monitor her while she slept so he could go on a date on the weekend, likely the most convenient time for the OP. It is possible to balance having a child and a social life. OP, may I ask what time was your date?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When you say custody, you mean visitation? This is the red flag for me. He should be spending time with his child during his visitation not hiring babysitters to try to get in your pants.

Why do you assume visitation? He has fifty fifty custody.

I was trying to make a distinction between full custody and some other arrangement which happens to be 50/50 - dude should be dating on the other 50, not his 50. That's the red flag.

That’s not a red flag. That’s showing up for a relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When you say custody, you mean visitation? This is the red flag for me. He should be spending time with his child during his visitation not hiring babysitters to try to get in your pants.

Why do you assume visitation? He has fifty fifty custody.

I was trying to make a distinction between full custody and some other arrangement which happens to be 50/50 - dude should be dating on the other 50, not his 50. That's the red flag.

That’s not a red flag. That’s showing up for a relationship.

Wrong

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

So you wouldn't mind basically a stranger coming into your house when your kid was asleep?? I would be pissed if I were the mom.

have you never used a babysitter? the kid is 7, and dad spent time with her, and then she went to bed, babysitter there, and he went on a date.

OP, you cannot extrapolate from this one incident whether or not he is a good or involved father and neither can anyone else here.

No I meant if the date had come upstairs after the dad relieved the babysitter

My XH is perfectly capable of protecting our daughter from his date, if she came to his place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a 7 year old DC, and she goes to bed at 7:30. I don't see it as an issue that he left his sister, the child's most likely loving aunt, monitor her while she slept so he could go on a date on the weekend, likely the most convenient time for the OP. It is possible to balance having a child and a social life. OP, may I ask what time was your date?

8.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jesus Christ, #youtoo?

It’s 2019. Put on your big girl pants.

X2 million. I’m not getting metoo’d.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a 7 year old DC, and she goes to bed at 7:30. I don't see it as an issue that he left his sister, the child's most likely loving aunt, monitor her while she slept so he could go on a date on the weekend, likely the most convenient time for the OP. It is possible to balance having a child and a social life. OP, may I ask what time was your date?

8.

New poster here, yeah, I’m pretty unforgiving about people spending time with their kids but leaving a sleeping child with their aunt seems pretty reasonable and a sensible way to fit in a Sat night date. Plenty of other opportunities for OP to see if he seems to be shirking responsibilities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:3 dates? invite him over for dinner.

4TH date eat him for snack

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:3 dates? invite him over for dinner.

4TH date eat him for snack

oh yes this woman loves those crème filled treats