Why do some women have a hard time accepting a guy didn’t want to marry them?
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Anonymous
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But the same guy married someone else.
They have every excuse timing, turning 30 , or afraid of heartbreak . Instead of just accepting she wasn’t the one for him, but that doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with them. Is this a self esteem thing? I truly don’t understand. |
Anonymous
| Cool story, bro. |
Anonymous
| Their vaaaaast sense of entitlement makes it difficult to take rejection gracefully. |
Anonymous
Lol. Well, some OPs ask a question, some PPs don’t like the answers, so then threads such as this come about. |
Anonymous
| Um, well in my experience it's because the guy took 5+ years to figure out she wasn't the one, but also spoke about "eventually getting married" to keep her from leaving. So she lets herself be emotionally vulnerable, doesn't have the opportunity to date other men, and invests time and energy only to discover that he really didn't care about her enough to let her go. |
Anonymous
Has nothing to do with the question asked. |
Anonymous
Yes, it does. They have a hard time accepting it, because that's not what he said. The women aren't the ones who come up with the ideas about timing, turning 30, whatever; that's what these guys told them. And maybe the men believed it themselves; maybe they thought there would be some magical moment when they'd wake up, look at the woman they like well enough, and finally think, "I can't live without her." But then, they finally break up, and he realizes she was the wrong woman, rather than it being the wrong timing. I still agree with the OP, though. Whatever he SAID at the time, the reality is that if she had been the one he wanted to marry, they would have gotten married. They just weren't right together, and that's what she needs to accept. |
Anonymous
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Sometimes the guy proposes, but the female might be in college - not turning him down entirely, but wanting to wait. Then, when graduation comes, and they have grown - they might still be in love, but realize their relationship isn’t practical, long term.
I have friend who was proposed to three times, but I don’t begrudge her for it - she has a magnetic personality, people like her. Except the occasional really bitchy, sour, bitter woman. |
Anonymous
| From a guy’s perspective, my wife of six years often talks about guys who didn’t propose to her and wonders why. |
Anonymous
Or if she broke up with him, he might not be willing to risk it again. |
Anonymous
Is this about actual proposals or what an outsider (who may or may not know the couple)/stranger guesses or wants to believe? |
Anonymous
| Massive egos not wanting to accept rejection? Combine that with feeling lead on and you get all kinds of rationalizing to feel better about wasted time. |
Anonymous
Yes it does. If a guy or girl (I've seen both) pretends like they want to marry you for five years then leaves, that's gonna be hard to accept and legit grounds for resentment. Just like someone saying they are going to give you a job offer, so you turn down other job offers, only to have them back out for no new reason. And btw it's truly shitty to do this to a woman or man in their waning fertile years-34-40. I would put it right up there with cheating, frankly. Completely selfish and narcissistic. Hasn't happened to me but has happened to good female and male friends. They were scarred. Moving in together too soon can lead to this bad inertia, I think, even though I was guilty of this too and just got lucky. |
Anonymous
Or maybe not. But if it makes you feel better.... Why are you trying to spin something mentioned in another thread? Why are you so focused on one of the PPs of that thread? Perhaps that is just one example of the many reasons a proposal won’t come your way? Maybe tend to the OCD and go from there. |
Anonymous
| Women stand at closed doors for much too long. |