Successful Career Women Are - Doomed Personally?

[Anonymous]

By any measure, I have succeeded in a male dominated profession. I also am a Mom. My husband is more successful from a financial stand point but works less hours and I am still expected to do 80% of anything kid related. He resents my job, my travel and my success. How to navigate?

[Anonymous]

Perhaps it's not your job, travel, and success that are the problem?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Perhaps it's not your job, travel, and success that are the problem?

I am open to looking at it a different way but anytime I have to work late or travel, my husband says things like “I don’t understand why you work”, “can’t you quit that job”, “it’s too much for you to be not home”. We have a nanny that stays until 7:30 pm.

[Anonymous]

Act like a Man. it’s pretty simple. Just keep pursuing your career. Ask him to daddy track his career.

[Anonymous]

I feel like marriage is not as beneficial for women as as it once was. Society has tricked us into valuing it so we can keep procreating.

[Anonymous]

No. Your husband is the problem.

[Anonymous]

I don't know, if you have a family that you never see is that really success?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know, if you have a family that you never see is that really success?

I see my family plenty. My kids get up at 5:30 am...I get up with them. I leave for work 3 hours later. I wake up to feed the baby 2-3x a night. I am home by 6:30 pm most nights and it’s another 2 hours before eldest goes to sleep. DH prefers to sleep in and gets off work by 4:30/5:00 but goes to the gym or hangs with his friends until DCs are asleep. He has to do morning and bedtime when my work conflicts.

[Anonymous]

Track the amount of awake hands on time that each of you spend with the children. Present that while you discuss why he feels you are not home enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Track the amount of awake hands on time that each of you spend with the children. Present that while you discuss why he feels you are not home enough.

He is never with the kids alone unless I am traveling or have other work commitments and even then he has the Nanny stay or has his Mom come. We have discussed and he bascuasays I don’t need to work and should take care of the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like marriage is not as beneficial for women as as it once was. Society has tricked us into valuing it so we can keep procreating.

Unless you married Marty Ginsburg, then it’s good.
Most men are selfish as f$ck - it’s just take take take, want want want.
Let him cry a puddle of tears at night if he needs.
Enjoy your child - the time goes by fast!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Track the amount of awake hands on time that each of you spend with the children. Present that while you discuss why he feels you are not home enough.

He is never with the kids alone unless I am traveling or have other work commitments and even then he has the Nanny stay or has his Mom come. We have discussed and he says I don’t need to work and should take care of the kids.

Ignore his whining and continue on. If the man treats you like this you especially don’t want to give up your career.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Track the amount of awake hands on time that each of you spend with the children. Present that while you discuss why he feels you are not home enough.

He is never with the kids alone unless I am traveling or have other work commitments and even then he has the Nanny stay or has his Mom come. We have discussed and he says I don’t need to work and should take care of the kids.

Ignore his whining and continue on. If the man treats you like this you especially don’t want to give up your career.

+1

[Anonymous]

What you're describing isn't normal, no. I'm successful and my husband supports my career. He doesn't like me traveling and is annoyed when I am home late. But he has never asked me to quit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like marriage is not as beneficial for women as as it once was. Society has tricked us into valuing it so we can keep procreating.

You know who I blame? Society.