Anyone else shocked when couples divorce?

[Anonymous]

I'm shocked by how many couples have divorced/are divorcing in our school pyramid.

I'm surprised when they date or move in with other parents in the area.

I'm surprised they can afford to maintain separate households--particularly when there's a SAHM and the husband doesn't earn a big salary.

And I'm surprised when seemingly "perfect" couples split. I know you never can tell what goes on behind closed doors, but some of the cheaters have really surprised me.

I'm not judging. I'm just truly shocked by the high numbers and blatant cheating followed by shacking up...in very public ways in our area.

I know people say divorce is contagious, and I'm wondering if that's what is happening in my area.

Anyone else noticing similar patterns? Are you surprised, or is this the new normal?

[Anonymous]

I really do not know why anyone would even care. No, I am not shocked. No, I don’t notice. No, I don’t care.

-woman (married who would like a divorce at some point)

[Anonymous]

I’m surprised that there have been so few divorces, to be honest.

[Anonymous]

How old are you OP? I’m 40 and I only know of two divorced couples and both could’ve been easily predicted.

[Anonymous]

I’m actually more surprised when a Partner leaves a firm.

[Anonymous]

Given how hard marriage is, no, I'm not surprised.

[Anonymous]

People were shocked when my ex and I got divorced. Given how terrible our marriage had been and how unhappy I was, it hurt that so many of my supposed friends were surprised.

[Anonymous]

I'm surprised more people aren't divorced given how many people seem to have no love marriages.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked by how many couples have divorced/are divorcing in our school pyramid.

I'm surprised when they date or move in with other parents in the area.

I'm surprised they can afford to maintain separate households--particularly when there's a SAHM and the husband doesn't earn a big salary.

And I'm surprised when seemingly "perfect" couples split. I know you never can tell what goes on behind closed doors, but some of the cheaters have really surprised me.

I'm not judging. I'm just truly shocked by the high numbers and blatant cheating followed by shacking up...in very public ways in our area.

I know people say divorce is contagious, and I'm wondering if that's what is happening in my area.

Anyone else noticing similar patterns? Are you surprised, or is this the new normal?

why?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Given how hard marriage is, no, I'm not surprised.

I hat that argument, marriage is as hard as you make it.

[Anonymous]

People are going to flip when they find out I have been separated since 2017.

Only my close friends know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People are going to flip when they find out I have been separated since 2017.

Only my close friends know.

I don't understand. If you are separated, then you should be living apart. Wouldn't your friends notice? What am I missing?

[Anonymous]

Middle school aged? It’s classic. I have been separated since 2015, no one but my close friends know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Middle school aged? It’s classic. I have been separated since 2015, no one but my close friends know.

How?

If you aren't living together, don't people notice?

Also, fwiw, kids talk. That's how I know about the latest one. So don't be sure people don't know...especially if your kids know. Chances are they have told their friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Middle school aged? It’s classic. I have been separated since 2015, no one but my close friends know.

How?

If you aren't living together, don't people notice?

Also, fwiw, kids talk. That's how I know about the latest one. So don't be sure people don't know...especially if your kids know. Chances are they have told their friends.

I have a son...they don’t talk. Girls...definitely talk. We attend events together, DH traveled often before and people easily buy the excuse he is “away”.