Anyone else shocked when couples divorce?
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Anonymous
| If I had to guess, I'd say a lot more people would be divorcing if it cheaper to have separate households. I think a lot of people hang on too long simply because they can't afford to make a change. |
Anonymous
Boys talk. |
Anonymous
| Agree that kids may or may not talk. One of my sons closest friends didn’t tell any of the kids at school for a year. |
Anonymous
| I'm a little shocked at the wave of divorces that happened around 32-33, no kids. All college educated, not quick marriages, married around 27-30. Low risk group, but there were a surprising number of them. |
Anonymous
That's sad. I suppose it underscores how painful, confusing and shameful it feels for kids when their parents split. |
Anonymous
Look...mine did not even know his close friend’s Dad had visitation rights revoked for the last six months. |
Anonymous
| Nope... 40 to 50 percent of married couples in the United States divorce. The divorce rate for subsequent marriages is even higher. |
Anonymous
+1 Same - but many of those couples I thought were dumb matches to start out with. They’ve got unions floundering despite being DINKS who are under no real stress. I have found that a lot of these marriages were inertia marriages. They were together forever, made the dumb decision to cohabitate too early, which led to overly integrating each other into the others life, despite obvious incompatibilities. Cohabitation is rarely used as the period of discernment that people claim it is going to be. It’s usually just a couple of poorly matched people who get further and further involved. |
Anonymous
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Where are you, OP?
Hardly any divorces in our McLean pyramid. |
Anonymous
PP you replied to. Sure, if one person in the marriage is a doormat, then that will work just fine. No, marriage is hard work. When there are mental health disorders, health issues, job losses, it's even harder. We've had all three. |
Anonymous
Really? I was married to a doctor who had a DWI and did jail time. He still thought he was god. Should I have stayed with him? You know nothing. |
Anonymous
You don't think neighbors and others notice? there is no way you have been separated 4 years and no one knows. |
Anonymous
I remember a boy in 7th grade telling me his parents were getting divorced. We weren’t close friends and I had no idea how to respond so I was like “um, ok”. In retrospect he probably wanted to get it off his chest and not keep it a secret. |
Anonymous
| When my oldest hit 6th grade several of his not-so-close friends divorced. The first one I was shocked (ran into the wife at school, who told me), the second had a younger sibling who is close with our second child and they told us directly, and the third I heard about from someone else and was thrown for a loop. All 3 within the first few months of 6th grade. I remember checking in with my DH and making sure we were ok and I wasn't taking him for granted. He laughed! Married 20+ years, 3 kids, no plans for divorce |
Anonymous
| I am surprised by friends who are divorcing. This has happened all of a sudden this year. I am mid-40s. |