How to deal with the ex-wife?

[Anonymous]

The guy I'm seeing has a close relationship with his ex-wife. They have no children. They go out to dinner occasionally, see movies together, text, and he even has a picture of her in the house. I am generally okay with their relationship and not threatened by it, but I do think it is unusual. I am not trying to be the petty girlfriend that swoops in and makes demands, so I guess I'm just asking for other peoples' perspectives.

Would you feel okay with a situation like this if you were dating a man who was so close to his ex?

[Anonymous]

Weird.

[Anonymous]

How long have they been divorced? Why did they divorce? Are they in daily contact? 3x a week?

[Anonymous]

They sound emotionally entangled and he isn’t ready to move on.

[Anonymous]

If kids were in the picture, yes. Without kids in the picture, nope!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How long have they been divorced? Why did they divorce? Are they in daily contact? 3x a week?

Almost 2 years. They split up because they felt like they were better friends than spouses. And I'm not sure of how frequently they're in contact. I try not to pry when he's texting someone, but I would assume it it's not daily, it's every other day.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How long have they been divorced? Why did they divorce? Are they in daily contact? 3x a week?

Almost 2 years. They split up because they felt like they were better friends than spouses. And I'm not sure of how frequently they're in contact. I try not to pry when he's texting someone, but I would assume it it's not daily, it's every other day.

They are friends they split up for gosh sakes. Let them be friends or move on and let him find another suitable mate if you can’t handle their friendship.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How long have they been divorced? Why did they divorce? Are they in daily contact? 3x a week?

Almost 2 years. They split up because they felt like they were better friends than spouses. And I'm not sure of how frequently they're in contact. I try not to pry when he's texting someone, but I would assume it it's not daily, it's every other day.

They are friends they split up for gosh sakes. Let them be friends or move on and let him find another suitable mate if you can’t handle their friendship.

And you should make friends with the ex wife too!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How long have they been divorced? Why did they divorce? Are they in daily contact? 3x a week?

Almost 2 years. They split up because they felt like they were better friends than spouses. And I'm not sure of how frequently they're in contact. I try not to pry when he's texting someone, but I would assume it it's not daily, it's every other day.

They are friends they split up for gosh sakes. Let them be friends or move on and let him find another suitable mate if you can’t handle their friendship.

I said I was generally fine with it! It's just new for me, so I was asking for others' perspectives. I'm not in any way saying they can't be friends. Calm down.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How long have they been divorced? Why did they divorce? Are they in daily contact? 3x a week?

Almost 2 years. They split up because they felt like they were better friends than spouses. And I'm not sure of how frequently they're in contact. I try not to pry when he's texting someone, but I would assume it it's not daily, it's every other day.

They are friends they split up for gosh sakes. Let them be friends or move on and let him find another suitable mate if you can’t handle their friendship.

And you should make friends with the ex wife too!

I wish I could! He won't tell her about me. He says she's not entitled to know everything about his life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How long have they been divorced? Why did they divorce? Are they in daily contact? 3x a week?

Almost 2 years. They split up because they felt like they were better friends than spouses. And I'm not sure of how frequently they're in contact. I try not to pry when he's texting someone, but I would assume it it's not daily, it's every other day.

They are friends they split up for gosh sakes. Let them be friends or move on and let him find another suitable mate if you can’t handle their friendship.

And you should make friends with the ex wife too!

I wish I could! He won't tell her about me. He says she's not entitled to know everything about his life.

Yea, that’s not a good sign. You are his side piece.

[Anonymous]

I would not be okay with that

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How long have they been divorced? Why did they divorce? Are they in daily contact? 3x a week?

Almost 2 years. They split up because they felt like they were better friends than spouses. And I'm not sure of how frequently they're in contact. I try not to pry when he's texting someone, but I would assume it it's not daily, it's every other day.

They are friends they split up for gosh sakes. Let them be friends or move on and let him find another suitable mate if you can’t handle their friendship.

And you should make friends with the ex wife too!

I wish I could! He won't tell her about me. He says she's not entitled to know everything about his life.

Okay, things just got shady.

[Anonymous]

OP, kick him and her to the curb. I'll date you. I don't have any exes, so no worries about me being friends with ex lovers.

[Anonymous]

This is very weird.

Sooo.....
Let me get this straight.
He has an ex-wife whom he has no mutual children with.

And they text, dine out together AND see movies together??!
Yet for some odd reason, he cannot tell her about seeing you?

This is just really shady.
In all honesty, I wouldn’t question what is going on -
I would just leave this guy & all his weird issues alone.

Something definitely is not right here.