Husband is overly attached to his mom

[Anonymous]

Yikes! You knew what you signed up for. No complaining and crowdsourcing now.

Deal with it or divorce. That simple.

Your mommas boy husband is not changing and certainly not for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP what are you doing about? Have you spoken with your husband? What has been his reaction?

Op here. He thinks I am biased against his mom and it’s disrespectful of me to accuse him of being controlled by his mom. I often correctly figure out hes mae a decision because his mom advised him or told him to and when I call him out on it he gets angry and says I’m picking on him.

Basically he trusts his mom and likes to defer to her. The idea of saying no to her is unbearable to him and he’s screamed at me when I’ve asked him to do something differently or tell his mom no.

For example, his mother wants us and our puppy + she and her husband and their dog, to travel together to NC for thanksgiving in one car. She has decided this and he has agreed. I do NoT want us all to travel together since we are staying together in the beach house anyway and would like some privacy.

He and she have already determined the itinerary she has determined we do not need two cars since we’re heading in the same direction.

What the actual F? Your relationship is super screwed up, and the mom thing is only a small part of the problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is over 4 years old people.

Well in that case, OP - tell us - did you end up staying with him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is over 4 years old people.

Well in that case, OP - tell us - did you end up staying with him?

15:30 on page 5 resurrected this old post with a similar problem and is asking for DCUM’s advice.

[Anonymous]

She never liked you, but you knew that prior to marriage and still proceeded. That's on you now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP when you married him you knew this. How were you expecting to deal with it? Do that.

Op here. To be fair, we were 26/27 when we married and I thought he’d grow up and over it.

That's not really young.

[Anonymous]

If u rlly love him stay w him, if u don't find some1 better

[Anonymous]

Since this is such an old post, I’d love to know if OP left this smothering, awful situation

[Anonymous]

Op, you are not young. And I doubt you have the backbone to leave your sad pathetic sack of a husband, which makes me so sad for you. Reading your post, I just feel so f**cking grateful that I have always been strong enough to advocate for myself and I would NEVER tolerate such a disgusting repulsive toxic dynamic in my relationships. Husband wants to take toxic in-laws on a trip and I don’t want it?? I don’t go, PERIOD. So easy. Let him go alone, no way in FCK I’m going.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi I have same problem my husband his 48 his mom like 68 they hang out like 3 times a week his mom lives like 50 minutes away from his house most likely he the one fixed everything around his mom house his mother been single maybe 30 years and they fight a lot to since she's single she's the man in her house I guess I told him one time you both should stay together and get married you don't need me as your wife he yell at me I stay at home cause I'm not comfortable around them I don't want any conflicts that's was my husband says me and my husband we argue a lot he likes to yell at me I can't conversation with him cause every time I do he thinks I start the fights I'm pretty much alone myself I don't have friends no family around I stay home everyday every night I don't know if my mental health is normal he doesn't talks to me all the time he lives to stay his computer most of time and play his phone a lot watch videos he doesn't have time to me he ignore me most of time he only talk to me when he needs something he eats most of his time in his computer room I eat in the table he says I can't change him the way he is I won't say anything before we start the fight do u think I'm the problem in the relationship cause he says I'm crazy I need help can someone advise me what should I do
Thank you for reading

You need a job and divorce

[Anonymous]

Never marry a mommas boy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never marry a mommas boy.

Or if you do, live on another continent

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yikes! You knew what you signed up for. No complaining and crowdsourcing now.

Deal with it or divorce. That simple.

Your mommas boy husband is not changing and certainly not for you.

What a nasty and unhelpful comment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi I have same problem my husband his 48 his mom like 68 they hang out like 3 times a week his mom lives like 50 minutes away from his house most likely he the one fixed everything around his mom house his mother been single maybe 30 years and they fight a lot to since she's single she's the man in her house I guess I told him one time you both should stay together and get married you don't need me as your wife he yell at me I stay at home cause I'm not comfortable around them I don't want any conflicts that's was my husband says me and my husband we argue a lot he likes to yell at me I can't conversation with him cause every time I do he thinks I start the fights I'm pretty much alone myself I don't have friends no family around I stay home everyday every night I don't know if my mental health is normal he doesn't talks to me all the time he lives to stay his computer most of time and play his phone a lot watch videos he doesn't have time to me he ignore me most of time he only talk to me when he needs something he eats most of his time in his computer room I eat in the table he says I can't change him the way he is I won't say anything before we start the fight do u think I'm the problem in the relationship cause he says I'm crazy I need help can someone advise me what should I do
Thank you for reading

tl;dr

Also, my 5yo can write better than you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yikes! You knew what you signed up for. No complaining and crowdsourcing now.

Deal with it or divorce. That simple.

Your mommas boy husband is not changing and certainly not for you.

What a nasty and unhelpful comment.

It's not wrong, though.