shared family beach house - issue with damaged item

[Anonymous]

OP doesn't really know what the cousin's arrangement with his/her mom is - maybe he is allowed to take his parents' items from the 'owner's shed', and taking the board was an honest mistake.

OP shouldn't store items in that are so valuable to her that even after being promised full replacement, she still feels resentful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So the cousin broke something he was not supposed to touch and only offered to pay 1/2. After reluctantly agreeing to pay up, ran off to his mommy complaining to get you in trouble because he did not get his own way.

Cousin didn’t break anything. Cousin’s friend’s kid broke it and cousin conveyed what the friend was willing to pay. Then OP is a jerk to cousin who did nothing wrong. I can see why cousin complained to mom.

Have you read the entire thread? Cousin used the boogie board when he wasn't allowed to (it was in the special shed. Not the "everyone can share these items" shed. And one of his friend's kids broke the boogie board.

How do we know the rest of the family isn't talking about the cousin and how cheap THEY are and not respectful of the rules?

When you are the beneficiary of such a nice situation, it pays to get along and graciously overlook annoyances like this.

When you are the beneficiary of such a nice situation, it pays to follow the rules and not borrow items you know are not to be borrowed. If you break the rules and the item gets broken while in your care, you offer to pay full amount for item. Cousin had a free week at a beach house too. They can replace the boogie board at full cost.

Especially, don't go running to Mommy and complain. Should OP's DH now run to his Daddy and complain?

At the end of the day, one of the house's owners is now upset with OP and her husband. That's not a great position to find yourself in, over nothing. It simply wasn't worth the 50 percent more for a used boogie board to not graciously accept the offer and move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
At the end of the day, one of the house's owners is now upset with OP and her husband. That's not a great position to find yourself in, over nothing. It simply wasn't worth the 50 percent more for a used boogie board to not graciously accept the offer and move on.

That Aunt should know to stay out of it. What is stopping OP's DH from running to their Daddy and having Daddy call Cousin and yell at him for only offering 50%?

Cousin was wrong. Cousin didn't even offer to pay for broken item at 100%. Cousin got called on it. Cousin didn't like it so had to whine to his mom (or Aunt. it was).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
At the end of the day, one of the house's owners is now upset with OP and her husband. That's not a great position to find yourself in, over nothing. It simply wasn't worth the 50 percent more for a used boogie board to not graciously accept the offer and move on.

That Aunt should know to stay out of it. What is stopping OP's DH from running to their Daddy and having Daddy call Cousin and yell at him for only offering 50%?

Cousin was wrong. Cousin didn't even offer to pay for broken item at 100%. Cousin got called on it. Cousin didn't like it so had to whine to his mom (or Aunt. it was).

Nope. Aunt is one of the owners and perfectly justified to think that generously opening up the home to guests means that they should stop the squabbling and be appreciative.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is penny wise and pound foolish as the aunt could start charging you rent the week you stay.

On what basis?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
At the end of the day, one of the house's owners is now upset with OP and her husband. That's not a great position to find yourself in, over nothing. It simply wasn't worth the 50 percent more for a used boogie board to not graciously accept the offer and move on.

That Aunt should know to stay out of it. What is stopping OP's DH from running to their Daddy and having Daddy call Cousin and yell at him for only offering 50%?

Cousin was wrong. Cousin didn't even offer to pay for broken item at 100%. Cousin got called on it. Cousin didn't like it so had to whine to his mom (or Aunt. it was).

This would be as inappropriate as not accepting the 50 percent in the first place.

No one thinks cousin looks good in this situation, but cousin didn't post here to hear from us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
At the end of the day, one of the house's owners is now upset with OP and her husband. That's not a great position to find yourself in, over nothing. It simply wasn't worth the 50 percent more for a used boogie board to not graciously accept the offer and move on.

That Aunt should know to stay out of it. What is stopping OP's DH from running to their Daddy and having Daddy call Cousin and yell at him for only offering 50%?

Cousin was wrong. Cousin didn't even offer to pay for broken item at 100%. Cousin got called on it. Cousin didn't like it so had to whine to his mom (or Aunt. it was).

Nope. Aunt is one of the owners and perfectly justified to think that generously opening up the home to guests means that they should stop the squabbling and be appreciative.

This. It's usually best to overlook the technicalities of who's right in a situation like this. Allowing a petty annoyance to blow up into a drama is bad form.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
At the end of the day, one of the house's owners is now upset with OP and her husband. That's not a great position to find yourself in, over nothing. It simply wasn't worth the 50 percent more for a used boogie board to not graciously accept the offer and move on.

That Aunt should know to stay out of it. What is stopping OP's DH from running to their Daddy and having Daddy call Cousin and yell at him for only offering 50%?

Cousin was wrong. Cousin didn't even offer to pay for broken item at 100%. Cousin got called on it. Cousin didn't like it so had to whine to his mom (or Aunt. it was).

Nope. Aunt is one of the owners and perfectly justified to think that generously opening up the home to guests means that they should stop the squabbling and be appreciative.

Yes aunt, Cousin‘s mom is part owner. However husband‘s father is also part owner. I think $275 is not worth it to create a family feud. But Cousin went whining to his mom? That’s just pitiful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
At the end of the day, one of the house's owners is now upset with OP and her husband. That's not a great position to find yourself in, over nothing. It simply wasn't worth the 50 percent more for a used boogie board to not graciously accept the offer and move on.

That Aunt should know to stay out of it. What is stopping OP's DH from running to their Daddy and having Daddy call Cousin and yell at him for only offering 50%?

Cousin was wrong. Cousin didn't even offer to pay for broken item at 100%. Cousin got called on it. Cousin didn't like it so had to whine to his mom (or Aunt. it was).

This would be as inappropriate as not accepting the 50 percent in the first place.

No one thinks cousin looks good in this situation, but cousin didn't post here to hear from us.

Exactly. People blaming the cousin are missing the point entirely. If cousin were posting, we would all say that he should pay full price and apologize. Even in the most generous interpretation that cousin thought it was a shared item, he should still offer to pay. But since he didn’t, Op should have accepted half and not left valuable things there anymore.

[Anonymous]

OP, is your Aunt the queen bee of the family? I'm guessing yes, since she actually felt the need to call you up and get in the middle of this non-situation. Don't cross her (or her kids). And don't count on your FIL, he will just crumble under her pressure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
At the end of the day, one of the house's owners is now upset with OP and her husband. That's not a great position to find yourself in, over nothing. It simply wasn't worth the 50 percent more for a used boogie board to not graciously accept the offer and move on.

That Aunt should know to stay out of it. What is stopping OP's DH from running to their Daddy and having Daddy call Cousin and yell at him for only offering 50%?

Cousin was wrong. Cousin didn't even offer to pay for broken item at 100%. Cousin got called on it. Cousin didn't like it so had to whine to his mom (or Aunt. it was).

Nope. Aunt is one of the owners and perfectly justified to think that generously opening up the home to guests means that they should stop the squabbling and be appreciative.

Yes aunt, Cousin‘s mom is part owner. However husband‘s father is also part owner. I think $275 is not worth it to create a family feud. But Cousin went whining to his mom? That’s just pitiful.

Again, no one excuses the cousin.

Interesting though that DH's dad isn't backing them up in this situation. Perhaps he agrees with the aunt.

[Anonymous]

#firstworldproblems

[Anonymous]

It is unfortunate but in this case I would have graciously taken the 50% and let it go/and just mark do not use in future.

Is a family relationship and who is most right here falling out worth it. Absolutely not. You should have take. The high road. I would call cousin and say you over reacted as only used two days, special color, special shed. Not worth coming between all of you and just move on.

[Anonymous]

Why didn't cousin pay one half and the parent of the child who broke it pay the other half? Is the parent of the child paying anything for the damage or is cousin footing the bill? Maybe the new rule should be "family only" no guests allowed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:#firstworldproblems

Seriously. I can't even imagine spending $275 on a boogie board when you can get one at Sunsations for $40.