This. It’s so tacky to expect your guests to cover the costs of their plates. They’re you’re guests. Any gift is generous. And I’m from NY. |
Maybe the people on here saying $100 is plenty are from WI? I cannot fathom giving $50 for a wedding gift. I would spend more for a shower. |
Whoa. Some of these numbers are large. When niece married in 2012, we gave $250 plus threw a home get together for her and new husband.
Everyone else - extended family members/friends we usually gift $100 I will say I'm definitely not DCUM financially comfortable. I make mid 5 figures so no way would I be shelling out $500+ for a gift. |
I think WASPs just don’t give much cash for wedding gifts—or any cash whatsoever. I have two friends who were appalled at the idea that anyone would give cash for a wedding present, and surprise, they were also both boarding school kids with summer houses in Maine.
Everybody else does tend to give cash. Catholic, Hindu, Jewish, Muslim, Baha’i: bring on the cash!! |
Crap are we giving 1k now!? |
Wow like others I am shocked at these numbers. I come from a pretty wealthy family and extended family is all decently well off, professional, and I’m originally from the dc area. Would have fallen off my chair if an aunt or uncle gave me $1000? We had one family friend give us $500 and I was shocked. Ain’t and uncles bought nice things off our registry that probably added up to 150-200 and I thought that was very generous. Definitely sounds cultural! |
No. |
Your family is just cheap. |
I said $100 and I live in NYC suburbs. |
Well we were 24 and 25. We threw our own wedding and it was lovely. Most couples we knew threw their own weddings. We weren’t broke but we didn’t make 100k combined, had student loans. Lots of our friends gave $100 and that was awesome! But we did pay more per person than that on food and open bar. Seems crazy that an aunt and uncle couldn’t even cover their plates at a wedding. It’s stingy unless you can’t afford more. We wanted people present and didn’t care about gifts. |
$250 check. |
Haha, no. We had our wedding in WI - even the locals gave $200 along with the coasties. think the cost side was $100pp easy. |
Nothing beats my Inlaws cluelessness or cheapness of grabbing an old vase, quickly wrapping it up while all 4 of them headed out to a big wedding in a big city downtown. Cheap and clueless AF.
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This. When I married in 2004, DH’s random relatives I never met gave us $180 and closer relatives (like aunts and uncles) gave $360. Grandparents gave a few thousand. |
This is what i just found from Dec of '23
For those that are giving thousnds, Im guessing your last name is Jones. Good grief. THE ETIQUETTE She offers these guidelines to wedding-goers wherever they might be: A distant relative or co-worker should give $75-$100; a friend or relative, $100-$125; a closer relative, up to $150. If you are wealthy, are you expected to inflate the gift? No, Cooper says |