Niece's wedding gift-how much?

[Anonymous]

Same. Definitely cultural. We give $100 for birthdays so weddings would be much more. Depending on proximity of relative $500-$1,000.

I gave my brother $2K when he got married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am single in my mid 30s and make 6 figures in a cheaper COL than DC. My brother got married last August and I gave $150. If I had a partner or kids I probably would have done $250. Anything above that is too much unless your whole family is wealthy or it is cultural.

Honestly that's really low for a brother amount, especially since you make good money and aren't in college. I only have one sister and gave 1k, which was a lot, but I thought $500 would be normal ( I gave $500 gift at shower and $500 for wedding). $150 seems like an amount for a cousin that you don't like.

That being said, neither of our sisters gave us anything for our wedding or our shower. Not even a framed picture, but they were in their 20s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I married aunts and uncles each gave us $1-1.5k. But we are catholic from nyc area so expectations might be higher.

This and that was 15 years ago.

[Anonymous]

My niece got married in 2019, and we gave her and her new husband $1000, but we are a family of 5. Also, her mom is my older sister, and she was always generous with gifts to me growing up, so it was my chance to be generous to her. For my niece's bridal shower, we gave a $250 KitchenAid mixer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I married three years ago, my aunts/uncles gave $100. Wondering if $1,000 is a typo??

When I married 20 years ago, $100 was a cheap gift. Sorry.

My eyes are popping. Is everyone here rich and/or from a culture that gives almost overly generous gifts, as a rule?

When *I* got married 20 years ago, $100 was fairly standard but $50 didn't seem cheap to me, and I was pleasantly shocked with cash or gift equivalents of $200. We had family and friends all over the map in terms of both class and race, but this was DC.

Now I give like $100-150 for most, but would give $250 for a niece. We are still in DC and have a HHI of $125k. I didn't think we were being cheapskates.

I almost fainted when my godfather gave us $500 when our kid was born 8 years ago. No one else gave us remotely that. Mostly $25-100, a couple others higher. I can't imagine getting $1000 for a wedding! I mean, great, if you can! But that can't possibly be the standard even for a close relation, unless you're wealthy or come from one of a few cultures.

As others mentioned, it depends on how much you can afford. Your gifts are generous. Our income is about $300k so we’d give $500. We would not give $1k, but OP said money is not as issue.

OP- give $1,000 if you can. I think it’s a really lovely gesture that your niece will be thrilled to receive!

[Anonymous]

If I have incurred flight, hotel, car rental, etc, $100 per person, so for my family of 3, $300.

For local weddings, $500.

[Anonymous]

I’d give $1000 bc we are close to our nieces and can afford it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I married three years ago, my aunts/uncles gave $100. Wondering if $1,000 is a typo??

When I married 20 years ago, $100 was a cheap gift. Sorry.

It was cheap 10 years ago when I got married too. But was totally okay for under 25 year olds to give

I got married in 2004 on the east coast. $100 was the standard cash gift. One person gave me $200. We have masters degrees. His side is white collar. My side is blue collar. $200 gift was from my side.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:$1000

+1

[Anonymous]

We just gave our nephew $300. We also need to pay for four kids to attend college. Once I don’t need to support my four kids, I will be able to afford a larger gift amount. You can’t be cheap if you don’t have the money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How much money would you give to a niece for her wedding? We are very set financially, but do not want sister in law to feel she has to reciprocate equally when our children marry. Just wondering what a nice amount would be.

$100.00 is plenty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am single in my mid 30s and make 6 figures in a cheaper COL than DC. My brother got married last August and I gave $150. If I had a partner or kids I probably would have done $250. Anything above that is too much unless your whole family is wealthy or it is cultural.

You seem cheap. You can do much more. Aren’t you embarrassed??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How much money would you give to a niece for her wedding? We are very set financially, but do not want sister in law to feel she has to reciprocate equally when our children marry. Just wondering what a nice amount would be.

$100.00 is plenty.

If you actually attend the wedding- $100 is so cheap. You’re likely costing the bride and groom a lot to attend, especially if you bring your family.

[Anonymous]

I am from a working class Italian-American family. Not rich- even in my generation almost no one went to college.

Most of my aunts and uncles gave between $500-$1000 for my wedding ten years ago. Yes it’s extremely generous but also culturally appropriate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How much money would you give to a niece for her wedding? We are very set financially, but do not want sister in law to feel she has to reciprocate equally when our children marry. Just wondering what a nice amount would be.

$100.00 is plenty.

If you actually attend the wedding- $100 is so cheap. You’re likely costing the bride and groom a lot to attend, especially if you bring your family.

If when I throw a wedding for either of my children, it will be my pleasure to spend the money on the party for the special occasion. I certainly would not expect the guests to think that they need to pay for themselves based on what the party cost. They are guests! Of course, right now ds says he’s never getting married and dd wants a destination wedding lol. Of course, whatever they do or don’t do is fine with me. They have many years before this will be a discussion. We teach our kids that any gift of any amount is appreciated. The posters calling others cheap are completely inappropriate. People do not throw a wedding to make money or to make back their costs. If they can’t afford the level of party, they need to scale it back rather than expect to rely on gifts to pay for the event.