Tell me I am Wrong: Woman secure resources and financial stability through marriage

[Anonymous]

I’m sure a lot of that is the combination of the two incomes and the fact that statistically men out-earn women across the board in most jobs. Work women do isn’t valued as highly as men’s work and women are more likely than men to have to take time off after children are born.

[Anonymous]

My trust fund will prove you wrong.

[Anonymous]

OP, it's a mixed bag. I was born a peasant. My dad was a whacky inventor, but none of his inventions really took off. Despite being rather bookish, I wasn't earning much. Thanks to my good looks and great personality, I ended up married to a really rich guy. He was gruff in the beginning, and -- I hate to say, because looks aren't everything -- he was basically a walking dog. But over time he softened and opened up and things are going great. We even have a full staff -- maid, cook, etc. So yeah, my circumstances have definitely improved. But, it goes both ways. I have a girlfriend who was raised a real princess and had everything you could ask for (including exotic animals as pets!), but she ended up married to a real street rat with sticky fingers. IDK, they seem happy when we all get together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My trust fund will prove you wrong.

Are you the trust fund baby who works part-time at a non-profit?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, it's a mixed bag. I was born a peasant. My dad was a whacky inventor, but none of his inventions really took off. Despite being rather bookish, I wasn't earning much. Thanks to my good looks and great personality, I ended up married to a really rich guy. He was gruff in the beginning, and -- I hate to say, because looks aren't everything -- he was basically a walking dog. But over time he softened and opened up and things are going great. We even have a full staff -- maid, cook, etc. So yeah, my circumstances have definitely improved. But, it goes both ways. I have a girlfriend who was raised a real princess and had everything you could ask for (including exotic animals as pets!), but she ended up married to a real street rat with sticky fingers. IDK, they seem happy when we all get together.

Is this Belle from beauty and the beast?

[Anonymous]

No way is that number 95 percent nowadays. Now that we have access to education and many of us work outside the home, many of us want a man but do not need one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, it's a mixed bag. I was born a peasant. My dad was a whacky inventor, but none of his inventions really took off. Despite being rather bookish, I wasn't earning much. Thanks to my good looks and great personality, I ended up married to a really rich guy. He was gruff in the beginning, and -- I hate to say, because looks aren't everything -- he was basically a walking dog. But over time he softened and opened up and things are going great. We even have a full staff -- maid, cook, etc. So yeah, my circumstances have definitely improved. But, it goes both ways. I have a girlfriend who was raised a real princess and had everything you could ask for (including exotic animals as pets!), but she ended up married to a real street rat with sticky fingers. IDK, they seem happy when we all get together.

Is this Belle from beauty and the beast?

And then Jasmine and Aladdin!

[Anonymous]

Much of this has to do with the fact that it is still easier for men to get ahead - and faster - in America.

In my case I have family money so financially his life got better after marrying me and he was better off than he would have been even after we divorced.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, it's a mixed bag. I was born a peasant. My dad was a whacky inventor, but none of his inventions really took off. Despite being rather bookish, I wasn't earning much. Thanks to my good looks and great personality, I ended up married to a really rich guy. He was gruff in the beginning, and -- I hate to say, because looks aren't everything -- he was basically a walking dog. But over time he softened and opened up and things are going great. We even have a full staff -- maid, cook, etc. So yeah, my circumstances have definitely improved. But, it goes both ways. I have a girlfriend who was raised a real princess and had everything you could ask for (including exotic animals as pets!), but she ended up married to a real street rat with sticky fingers. IDK, they seem happy when we all get together.

Is this Belle from beauty and the beast?

And then Jasmine and Aladdin!

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[Anonymous]

I'm sure people would say that about me since I was a legal assistant and married a lawyer (though I had switched careers by marriage). What they don't know is that I had been pining away for a male legal assistant, but he wasn't interested in me. I had already turned down another lawyer because I wasn't interested in him. I wasn't thinking about future security at 25. I was (perhaps naively) thinking about who I liked. We worked so many hours the only people I knew were people at the firm. All the legal assistants and lawyers hung out together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Since the dawn of time women have used marriage to improve their prospects. Even now, it is relatively rare to find a couple where the wife is the higher earner. 95% of women significantly improve their wealth and lifestyle through marriage to a higher status/wealthier man.

Among all of my friends who married, none of them lived nicer lives than they did after marriage. Their husbands are all well to do.

Yes, what's the point? I have a friend who married into a family who's worth $50 million. They're in real estate and own so many properties in the DC area it's crazy. She was living off a $50k salary 12 years ago. Now, she's a SAHM with one kid in a $1.7m house. Her husband makes $400k a year. They have two weekend homes and both drive $50k SUVs.

Lucky her

Eh. I am divorcing a guy who make >$500K/year. I will get nothing because prenup. It all depends on the relationship not the income.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The OP’s premise is wrong.

Among heterosexual couples, 38% of women earned more than their men. It’s a significant fraction.

https://fivethirtyeight.com/features/how-many-women-earn-more-than-their-husbands/

This was an interesting article. Did you read the part that when women earn more money, these women still do more work at home to compensate for bruised men's ego? I did not expect that to be the case.

In terms of cheating, men are more likely to cheat if women make more money or if a woman makes substantially less money. It's like Goldilocks: women have to make just the right amount of money vis a vis the men so that there's not a higher chance of cheating.

It's so much about the ego for men.

[Anonymous]

This is such an old fashioned view!