Is it overstepping to ask family members to help move?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am from another country so maybe it’s cultural but it’s almost a given that friends offer their help with moving.
Asking is also ok but you are supposed to offer and not wait to be asked.
In fact, I was in shock when two people whom I considered friends didn’t offer, though they knew I was a single mom. I ended up asking my ex for some help and he helped but it was so stressful. I let him go early and just hired a service.
I still can’t get over the two friends not offering. But at least I know where we stand in terms of friendship now

What culture is this? I cannot imagine an entire culture takes advantage of people this way. I am assuming this is your family culture and not your ethnic culture. You sound really self-absorbed and you should not use your culture as an excuse for this.

#whiteprivilege

Uh no, not white privilege, just total privilege in general to ask people you are about to risk serious injury to help you. Even worse, to expect them to help you.

#entitled #spoiled #rude

Some people need to travel more. It's not that an entire culture is taking advantage of people. Its that sometimes communities have to work together to help and support one another. It's how you stay afloat when you otherwise don't have access to (or government doesn't provide) certain services. People take so much for granted here in the US - particularly when it comes to how easy life is. Going to move? Hire movers. That's an expense that can often be filled by family/friends when you don't have the means. So yea, white privilege to not even recognize that.

I’m not white nor rich and I agree the expectation of help suggests some type of entitlement. I’d never think less of a friend who didn’t offer to help unless they physically witnessed me struggling.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How old are you? Can you afford to hire movers?

We’re middle-aged and can afford to pay movers.

Then you don’t. Pay for movers.