My son is short - help me get over it please

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH is 5'6 had a PHd and is married to ME! I am 5'2 and our son is over 6ft!

Genetics are weird. My mom mom is 5-1 and so are my sister and I My dad is 5-7 and my brother is 5-10, which is a giant for males in our family.

My adult male cousins are all around 5-5, even the one whose father is 6-2.

My 5-1 sister and her 6-2 husband have a 5-8 daughter, who by far,far is the giant female in the family.

It's fascinating! Please stop projecting what you want / plan your children to be, and just let them be.

[Anonymous]

My niece, like my sister and I, was always the shortest girl in class. I had hated lining up by size; I was always in the front of the line. The front of the line didn't bother me(helped me develop leadership skills) , it was the obvious shortness. The always-picked-last in gym class kind of thing.

Watching my niece (5th percentile on the growth chart) always being the shortest in class brought back those insecure memories. Then came high school. By graduation she was 5'7". By the end of the first year of college she was 5-9" and going strong in her modeling career. Not runway (she said you need to be 5'11" now) but lots of print modeling and "girl in the music video" and independent films stuff.

Agree with previous poster. You may have plans and schemes for your future kids, but Nature has her own plans.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your son is SEVEN!!!! Please get help for your anxiety. The fact that you can't love him is unbelievable.

she is a typical woman. most deny they want tall mates, but she can't even deny it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:One of my kids is really short. 7th percentile for height. I’ve taken him for medical testing and there’s no hormonal problem, so he doesn’t qualify for growth hormone. I’ve focused on dietary supplements, but he’s a terrible eater. My other three kids are average height with one being very tall. I am short myself, but I always thought the “short genes” only ran with the women in our family since the men are all over 5’9” and my dad is 6’2”. My husband is 6’0”.

My son who is short is only 7 years old. But, at this point, with no medical problem and with his growth remaining around the 10th percentile for four years, I’m coming to realize I need to accept the fact that he’s just really small. If he stays at this percentile, the doctor predicts he will be 5’6”. It makes me feel really sad and anxious when I see him with the other boys his age and he’s a lot smaller than them. He’s also not really athletic.

He’s very smart, adorable, funny, kind. He’s an incredible kid and I feel like a total jerk for not being able to accept the blessing of a healthy child and instead feeling so upset inside about his height. There are a lot of societal stereotypes about short people and dating is hard for short men. I’m worried about teasing and him being made fun of, even as an older man.

Can someone please provide me with any helpful thoughts or wisdom to work my way through this? I hate feeling this way and just want to give him the love he deserves.

It really is a drawback, but smart/adorable/funny/kind help ameliorate it, and have a great deal of long term value. Better short with those good qualities, than tall, but dumb/hateful/boring/mean. My one suggestion is that you continue to push the athletic side - he might not be great at baseball/basketball/etc, but being at least marginally competent will improve his social life markedly, at least through high school.

The short kid who grows up to make a seven figure salary will fare better than the short kid who was the high school varsity baseball star. Push academics, not athletics (to the extreme)

Well, sure, but PP here - I'm male, short, making a pretty good salary, and my parents let me opt out of sports. My childhood would've probably been a great deal more pleasant if they hadn't. Hence my lines about "minimal competency", not "devote eight hours a day into making him a star athlete".

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you everyone for the comments, encouragement, and examples. of short stature not being an impediment. I’m going to work hard to make sure my anxieties don’t turn into a negative influence on him. I really appreciate everyone’s support.

You should be ashamed of yourself. You are a terrible person and mother.

Man there are some weird people on the internet. (And I’m not talking about OP)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son is in the 1.7th percentile for height.
Not 17th.
1 . 7

It sucks completely.

My son is about there too, and so far, it doesn’t suck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please stop indulging her. Her DS is 7! That is why I called OP mentally ill.

Don’t confuse cultural indoctrination for mental illness. There is no parent out there who hasn’t wished their small child confirmed more to the norms of society, whether it be height, weight, appearance, intelligence, etc. It’s just one of many personal issues parents have to work on.

[Anonymous]

Dr. Fauci.

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[Anonymous]

My 7 year old is also short. I think he was at the 1 or 2 percentile at his last check up. But here’s something I’ve never told anyone, not even my spouse. He penis is of above average size. It’s actually quite large for his age. And for some reason, that gives me some reassurance.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DH is 5'6 had a PHd and is married to ME! I am 5'2 and our son is over 6ft!

wow.. what happened there? There must be tall people on someone's side of the family.

NP here. My mom is 5'7, dad 5'9 and my brother is 6'3. My mom's side of the family is tall.

[Anonymous]

Don't get why y'all are piling on OP. There are MANY things that are non-medical that we do worry about regarding our kids, whether we admit it or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dr. Fauci.

End Thread.

My god that man is sexy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't get why y'all are piling on OP. There are MANY things that are non-medical that we do worry about regarding our kids, whether we admit it or not.

Well sure as hell don't project those things on your kids!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 7 year old is also short. I think he was at the 1 or 2 percentile at his last check up. But here’s something I’ve never told anyone, not even my spouse. He penis is of above average size. It’s actually quite large for his age. And for some reason, that gives me some reassurance.

The shortest guy I dated was about 5'8'. But had the largest thang I have ever seen in person. Bigger than my 6'3' boyfriends. I mean, it could have been studied by scientists as an aberration of nature for a guy of 5'8". I truly loved him.

[Anonymous]

Brad Pitt, George Clooney and Tom Cruise are all short too. Hasn’t stopped them from being heartthrobs.

I’m a tall woman, which tends to be the reverse effect, and while plenty of men don’t like tall women, there are enough who see past it that I’ve managed to live a decent life, get married, and have children.

Maybe this is a lesson you have to learn about what is really important.