height and men

[Anonymous]

My husband is almost exactly my height - I'm taller than average for a female, he's shorter than average for a male - but wow, it works out GREAT. One thing I never thought about that I now appreciate every day - no readjusting the driver's seat, or the mirrors, etc. when we switch cars/drivers. And many other great ways our shared height "fits" - it's fantastic. Not to say that it wouldn't be nice to have someone with freakishly long arms to reach the top shelf every once in a while, but a stepstool gets me there and I wouldn't trade my "short" husband for a tall shelf-reacher.

[Anonymous]

Holy crap, I am dumstruck.

People who are stuck on this height thing deserve to be married to men who will nag them about losing their baby weight "as quicly as possible" or worry if their children will marry someone of the "right" religion or race, or god forbid is a "cripple."

Immature. Truly. Time to get passed this if you are an actual adult.

You don't marry a measuring stick. You marry a person.

[Anonymous]

I've always been attracted to guys who are taller than me, but being short (another 5'2"-er here), that's been pretty much all guys. I do wonder if I'd have a different attitude if I was taller.

[Anonymous]

"Short women seem girlish. That would be a little too freaky, IMHO.
Well yeah and more so if they shave down there..."

Ew. I would be freaked out if I were in that situation and had daughters! Does a guy like that have weirdness?

Also, what about the couples with a huge height discrepancy? Isn't it a little freak show looking?

And as for the women who won't date "shorter" men, I can only imagine what they are missing in life. Daddy?

[Anonymous]

I knew a female who was 5 foot even who dated a guy who was 6'7". It looked hilarious, but cute.

I don't think women who won't date shorter men have daddy issues. I would think that would be reserved for women who date much older men.

[Anonymous]

Most of my family is tall but I am only 5'1". I always dated very tall guys but married a man who is 5'7".

[Anonymous]

What about the ones who are hung up on height, though?

Clearly, it's about something else.

The thing is, they have no idea if there is a short (GASP!) person in their family tree or their husbands family tree.

What if one comes out at like a wedding or funeral or something? You think they'll get divorced? Maybe put their kids up for adoption? After all, the kid won't get the basketball scholarship and that would really f*ck with them!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Holy crap, I am dumstruck.

People who are stuck on this height thing deserve to be married to men who will nag them about losing their baby weight "as quicly as possible" or worry if their children will marry someone of the "right" religion or race, or god forbid is a "cripple."

Immature. Truly. Time to get passed this if you are an actual adult.

You don't marry a measuring stick. You marry a person.

PP here - Yes, I cop to my one shallow requirement. However, let's get real, you don't go for the person with the "great personality" you go for the person you are attracted to. Hopefully, the person you marry has both - whatever package that comes in. If you asked me in college my type - it was this international, sophisticated man that spoke several languages and was this world traveler. Oh, and I went thru this hard/core street thug phase earlier (ahhh what was I thinking) Ask me who I married - about the only thing that is how I imagined it is that he is taller than me.

So anyway the OP asked people's preference and for the most part people said - yes they had a preference and maybe that who they fell in love with but maybe not. There are guys that like to date blondes, guys that wouldn't date a woman older than them, tall guys that like to date short women, guys that will only date within their race, guys that only like to date outside of their race. In general I think women have less requirements/physical preferences than guys and if you still follow the old-fashioned rules about letting the guy ask you out/chase you then you as a woman have far less power. You can say yes/no but you are still at the mercy of being that guys type and being asked out. So I'm not sure where the anger is coming from.

[Anonymous]

Agreed. I don't think men are inclined to let us off the hook on appearance-related issues, so I'm very pleased to stick just one to them. Traditionally, they could compensate for deficiencies (height or otherwise) by offering financial security, but now that they're largely relieved of this responsibility, I'm not in favor of giving them entirely free passes while we still face age/beauty/weight-- and now work 24/7 for pay and not for pay-- issues. Otherwise, sexual selection rules apply to women, but men must be accepted just as they are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you girlish at 5'4 to men?

question wasn't about women, it was about short men. You are most likely one of them, having a tantrum because someone said short men are boyish. They are boyish. I could not marry a man that could not protect me. Must be the animal instinct coming out in me. I want a lion.

[Anonymous]

I grew up in an area where almost all men are tall (obviously not DC) so I associated height with men. I married a really tall guy that I met in DC. I'm very short. We look silly together. Doesn't matter; he's my guy.

I think if I would have been raised in an area where men were shorter, I wouldn't have had that automatic association. I find shorter men attractive but they never worked out for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I grew up in an area where almost all men are tall (obviously not DC) so I associated height with men. I married a really tall guy that I met in DC. I'm very short. We look silly together. Doesn't matter; he's my guy.

I think if I would have been raised in an area where men were shorter, I wouldn't have had that automatic association. I find shorter men attractive but they never worked out for me.

Where are almost all men tall?