Is it ok for ex's new gf to post pics of my kids on social media?

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry...just read she is in 3rd grade. Whether it's a bra or her first pair of roller skates, my opinion is the same.

That’s a really crappy attitude. As the step, and not the mom, you should have showed basic decency and asked the mom whether it was fine with her first. Especially because you thought she’d decline. Not asking is just really crappy behavior. And yes, if she got her first period OF COURSE the right thing to do would be to ask the mom first if she wants to take first swing at this one. You are not the child’s parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am the OP. You may think I made up a dramatic story, but this actually happened. I am not trying to stick it to my ex. He should date if he wants. All I'm asking is to keep it away from the kids unless it's serious. It obviously wasn't very solid, since they broke up after 6 months. Plus I now find out the gf wasnt even divorced from her last husband throughout most of the relationship. Yet she was telling my kids she considered herself their stepmom, buying bras for my barely developed daughter, posting family type pics of my kids on social media, and ex letting her pick up/drop off my kids at daycare during his custody time. Now ex is telling me she is totally out of their lives, and my kids are still asking if the gf can dye their hair purple during a future visit.

I get it.... my kids are not belongings or pawns. More love is good. I need to get over residual jealousy that they will one day have a stepmom figure in their lives. I would just like ex to do so in a thoughtful, responsible manner. I've been dating a good, stable, mature guy, and I have zero desire to bring either of our kids into the relationship at this point.

Op, first of all you are a good mother and what you are feeling is a lot of insecurity which is also normal. Most important thing is to acknowledge it. You can't control anyone and what your ex's gf should do because from her perspective she was trying to be helpful and she didn't know either that they would break up after 6 months. All women are not mean that are there to get your kids away from you. You need to process your insecurity on your own and stop looking for a validation here. Think about your strengths and the good strong bond you have with your kids and that noone could replace you. Self-validation is the best way to overcome it, in my opinion.

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This is excellent, pp.

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Why such drama about a bra? They were probably at a store like Justice and they have racks of bralettes right next to the PJs. My dd begged for one of their “training bras” when she was shopping with a friend and her mom. She used her own allowance to buy a whole outfit- she was so happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am the OP. You may think I made up a dramatic story, but this actually happened. I am not trying to stick it to my ex. He should date if he wants. All I'm asking is to keep it away from the kids unless it's serious. It obviously wasn't very solid, since they broke up after 6 months. Plus I now find out the gf wasnt even divorced from her last husband throughout most of the relationship. Yet she was telling my kids she considered herself their stepmom, buying bras for my barely developed daughter, posting family type pics of my kids on social media, and ex letting her pick up/drop off my kids at daycare during his custody time. Now ex is telling me she is totally out of their lives, and my kids are still asking if the gf can dye their hair purple during a future visit.

I get it.... my kids are not belongings or pawns. More love is good. I need to get over residual jealousy that they will one day have a stepmom figure in their lives. I would just like ex to do so in a thoughtful, responsible manner. I've been dating a good, stable, mature guy, and I have zero desire to bring either of our kids into the relationship at this point.

Maybe it depends on the state, but my friend's ex isn't allowed to have any girlfriends stay the night over. Or be alone with their kids. I would check with your lawyer. Then I would tell him not to have her around your kids. He can see her on his time when the kids are with you. What a horrible woman. And creepy!