Is it ok for ex's new gf to post pics of my kids on social media?

[Anonymous]

If you are ok posting pictures of your kids, then she is too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If their father allows it, then she does have the right to post those on her social media.
Your children's father is as much their parent as you are and has the right to decide who your kids spend time with when he's in charge of them unless there's a court order in place against it. It may be fair to make a request with him that his new gf not post pictures of your kids but that's all it is ..a request.

It seems like you have had to go through some heart breaking things and that you're sad and hurt. If you don't already have one, maybe a therapist could really help you process your feelings?

She doesn’t have a “right.” It’s tacky that she’s doing this.

Yes she does because their father gave her permission.

Op, I am not sure of your financial capability but running this via a lawyer doesn't hurt. I am sure they could send a strong worded letter or may be bring this to the attention of the judge who might issue a gag-order to your ex and his new GF. BTW, kuddos to you for being protective of your kids. I am like this and would certainly have an issue with something like this.

You are delusional if you think lawyering up is the answer to every little quibble. A judge would look at this as a ridiculous waste of the court's time, if it even got that far. There is no case here. If the father (who also has just as important parental rights) has given permission there is nothing to complain about.

[Anonymous]

Courts look kindly to these kind of things, also if he has any prior behavior like this around kids. Transferring parental responsibilities is not good if he wants to keep the custody. Documenting everything does help and would prevent him in doing things like this in the future. BTW, I am a guy and have dealt with courts in these matters before.

[Anonymous]

Don't look kindly*

[Anonymous]

If you have joint legal custody, decisions about the kids' privacy should be jointly made. If he gave permission to her to post pictures without first having a discussion with you, I'd complain to him that it violates their privacy and you want him to tell her to stop posting pictures of your kids.

[Anonymous]

It’s uncool of her but. Nothing you can do. Block them both and move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you have joint legal custody, decisions about the kids' privacy should be jointly made. If he gave permission to her to post pictures without first having a discussion with you, I'd complain to him that it violates their privacy and you want him to tell her to stop posting pictures of your kids.

This is a very good point. Any decisions related with kids need to be joint and if he doesn't follow then either he take down the pics or take him to court.

[Anonymous]

My parents argued my entire childhood about this kind of petty nonsense. They all (parents and step-parents) regret it now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are ok posting pictures of your kids, then she is too.

Um what? This gf isn't their mom and has been in the picture for a few months. Totally poor boundary issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are ok posting pictures of your kids, then she is too.

The GF is NOT their mother. And she had an abusive ex who’s probably stalking her FB.

[Anonymous]

This actually happened to me with ex-h's last girlfriend. I called him, he had her delete the photo and I asked that he explain to her my concerns with social media/kids/privacy and ultimately, it's our decision (ex-h and I) if our child's images are on social, not hers. Not sure he said those words to her but no matter what, she deleted the image.

[Anonymous]

As others have mentioned, the gf clearly has boundary issues and I would have a conversation with ex about it sooner rather than later. Now it is social media but if she isn't told that these are not her children and she needs to myob, she will be inserting herself into other matters related to your dc's. Its great that she is nice to dc's and they all get along but your ex needs to make it clear that as a gf, she is not to interfere in co-parenting or jeopardize the peace between you and him.

[Anonymous]

If your ex have her permission to post then there is nothing you can do. You are jealous. Grow up.

[Anonymous]

No, the ex's permission has nothing to do with this but there is a risk on kids. Court decides whatever is in the benefit of kids. What OP is concerned about is legitimate.

[Anonymous]

I take it the kids live with your ex-husband?