Anyone else with kids who make "hate posters"??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, this is quite disturbing. Therapy for the child?

+1 I would be distraught if my kid felt so negatively about me. The issue isn’t that they’re writing it down. The issue is the feelings themselves. FWIW I have two teens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, this is quite disturbing. Therapy for the child?

+1 I would be distraught if my kid felt so negatively about me. The issue isn’t that they’re writing it down. The issue is the feelings themselves. FWIW I have two teens.

Feelings are never an issue in and of themselves. Kids and people feel different things.

[Anonymous]

The last time I heard of this the kid was really disturbed. You need to consult a reputable therapist.

[Anonymous]

I haven't read the replies, but my first thought is some type of abuse (even if you refuse to see it) combined with being raised in a house where the child is punished for saying what they think or what really happened.

I think the child needs therapy, but I wouldn't be surprised if the outcome comes back that the real problem is with the family, not the child. It could go either way.

Poor kid though, obviously suffering.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I already know the majority of parents would say, yeah that's disturbing, my kid would never do something like this, this kid needs therapy. I'm already aware my kid is different.

I want to talk to the parents who have kids like this and if they cope in this manner, or if not, maybe share some other better ways of coping. I am talking about the kids who are intense, ultra sensitive, emotionally dysregulated, with the inappropriate anger responses to run of the mill events.

While it seems helpful to talk to other parents who seem to be in the same boat, OP, please get professional advice ASAP. What works with someone else's child might work with yours, or might not work, or might backfire spectacularly and cause more serious issues.

Please consider seeing someone yourself first to describe the drawings and behaviors and then work on getting your DD seen by someone. While it IS good that she channels her intense feelings into drawings and not into tantruming, lashing out, etc., please think about this: If she made similar drawings in school and they were seen by any adult there, you would be getting calls from the school counselor that very same day, and possibly being asked to come in, and getting referrals to further counseling. I say this because it's what happened when my friend's son made drawings VERY similar to what you describe (parent being killed). I'm not saying "try to avoid anyone seeing these things." I"m saying the content is at a point where it would definitely concern a counselor who would be telling you your DD very possibly needs some help beyond just home and school.

Like I said -- she has a channel for feelings and that is good, as far as it goes. It's the equivalent of punching a pillow, for some people, I guess. But she also has gone very dark for what are a LOT of years out of her short, young life so far. It is not bad or wrong for a kid to be "intense" and "ultra sensitive" but as she gets older she may need a lot more help in dealing with the emotions before she gets to the "drawings that blow up mom" stage.

If I missed your saying at some point that she is in therapy or whatever, I do apologize. You use terms like "emotionally dysregulated" and "inappropriate anger responses" which sound like maybe a professional has told you that or diagnosed her somehow but I'm not quite sure.

We talked to a child therapist a few months back, but have not had her evaluated or seen a professional beyond that. But I have just done a lot of "research" on how to best help her. I will probably get her to a therapist at some point in the future, because I'm aware that things may become more difficult for her as she gets older and into the middle school years. And yes, I would really like to give her the tools she needs to cope.

I had the same thought as you, in regards someone else from her school seeing her drawings and reporting it. So we've had very clear discussions with her about that - that there would be serious consequences. I think she understands the line there.

Don't make her sit through therapy if that's not the issue. Get a proper evaluation from a neuropsych
BTW, my son once told me he wanted to cut my eyelids off with scissors because he was mad at me. He never said anything so mean or creepy ever again and that was 10 years ago. Much later, I read that sort of thing is pretty normal for kids still learning to express themselves.
But he DOES have adhd.
Get the evaluation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op is only listening to people who tell her she's fine. The other 99% of is are wasting our typing energy.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven't read the replies, but my first thought is some type of abuse (even if you refuse to see it) combined with being raised in a house where the child is punished for saying what they think or what really happened.

I think the child needs therapy, but I wouldn't be surprised if the outcome comes back that the real problem is with the family, not the child. It could go either way.

Poor kid though, obviously suffering.

You are an idiot.

According to your terrible judgment, the child is punished for saying what they think... yet they feel free enough to draw horrible posters and hang them?

If you do not have anything to add, don't type anything. Stop discouraging people from seeking help.

You are the kind of ignorant person who would have concluded that autism was caused by "cold" mothers.

[Anonymous]

I think what pp was trying to say was that mom may have made this the ONLY acceptable way to express negative feelings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
What? I get allowing a kid to vent, but your kid seems to have outsized anger issues. Drawing pictures of mommy eating tnt and blowing up because you made a comment about her focus? What is your relationship like? I would dig deeper into relationship issues here and whether your kid has anger issues.

+1. Everyone saying it's okay to "vent" is correct, but missing the point that if there is so much anger towards someone that you draw a picture of blowing her up, that wouldn't be ok with me.....