Friends dropped us

[Anonymous]

who the heck is getting together to form a huddlle in the middle of a pandemic?

[Anonymous]

I left this behind in high school and I’m so glad I did. Maybe it was a blessing in disguise to learn the hard lessons of people-who-are-not-your-friends back then, because now I can see them coming from a mile away. The drama. The backstabbing. The gaslighting. No thank you. Except for exchanging pleasantries I avoid these people like coronavirus.

OP you said you felt your child was missing out socially. Do you really want your child learning this behavior? They will pick it up. Return this “friendship” to the shelf and keep shopping. This one is damaged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I left this behind in high school and I’m so glad I did. Maybe it was a blessing in disguise to learn the hard lessons of people-who-are-not-your-friends back then, because now I can see them coming from a mile away. The drama. The backstabbing. The gaslighting. No thank you. Except for exchanging pleasantries I avoid these people like coronavirus.

OP you said you felt your child was missing out socially. Do you really want your child learning this behavior? They will pick it up. Return this “friendship” to the shelf and keep shopping. This one is damaged.

Thank you. This is good advice.
I always like to take the high road
I’m also very busy and don’t have a lot of time for my family, let alone this drama
I want my kids to have good friends but I work a lot so I’m not around as much as most of the other moms to facilitate the play dates

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Personally, you are dodging a huge bullet here. Don't put up or give a second thought to this middle school behavior. Why did you even stick around when she was bad mouthing others to you?

OP
Yes I do believe this, but it’s also hurtful when people pretend they don’t see me or turn their backs so they don’t say hello

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry OP. It's difficult to feel excluded, even if you don't particularly like the people who are excluding you.

The only thing you can control in this situation is yourself. Take the high road.

I would stop trying to be friends with any of them, but I'd continue to be friendly.

Build a life with your family and friends that you enjoy. It's separate from your child's life.

Thanks
This is good advice

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, is there a reason people would be gossiping about you?

In this group I stand out as I’m an older mom and I have a big career

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, is there a reason people would be gossiping about you?

In this group I stand out as I’m an older mom and I have a big career

Maybe it’s because you describe yourself as having a big career that they’re put off by you...

- a woman who is at the top of her firm and makes very good money and is highly respected in her field but would never describe herself as having a big career

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Personally, you are dodging a huge bullet here. Don't put up or give a second thought to this middle school behavior. Why did you even stick around when she was bad mouthing others to you?

OP
Yes I do believe this, but it’s also hurtful when people pretend they don’t see me or turn their backs so they don’t say hello

Start doing the same
It will feel weird the first couple of times but it will also be empowering
Keep doing it even when the other person tries to engage you - they will btw

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, is there a reason people would be gossiping about you?

In this group I stand out as I’m an older mom and I have a big career

Maybe it’s because you describe yourself as having a big career that they’re put off by you...

- a woman who is at the top of her firm and makes very good money and is highly respected in her field but would never describe herself as having a big career

Stupid

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, is there a reason people would be gossiping about you?

In this group I stand out as I’m an older mom and I have a big career

Maybe it’s because you describe yourself as having a big career that they’re put off by you...

- a woman who is at the top of her firm and makes very good money and is highly respected in her field but would never describe herself as having a big career

LOL! Pot meet kettle! You can claim you’re at the “top” of your firm and “highly respected” but OP can’t say she has a big career?

You know exactly what she means. She’s likely a professional working 40+ hours a week while they are all SAHMs or part-time types. She doesn’t have the time or mental energy that they do to engage in petty shit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you care? And, why are you going to events with COVID. You are why we cannot reopen schools.

OP - there are several families that are in pods together

OP, do you think pods are magical? Do you think when SEVERAL families decide to join a pod that they are somehow immune? THAT'S NOT HOW THIS WORKS.

Honestly, you sound immature and stupid.

I invite this poster and all the others with similar comments to walk up and down Georgia Avenue and 14th Street and confront all the families gathering together like this and share their opinion on how stupid they are and see where it gets them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, is there a reason people would be gossiping about you?

In this group I stand out as I’m an older mom and I have a big career

Maybe it’s because you describe yourself as having a big career that they’re put off by you...

- a woman who is at the top of her firm and makes very good money and is highly respected in her field but would never describe herself as having a big career

LOL! Pot meet kettle! You can claim you’re at the “top” of your firm and “highly respected” but OP can’t say she has a big career?

You know exactly what she means. She’s likely a professional working 40+ hours a week while they are all SAHMs or part-time types. She doesn’t have the time or mental energy that they do to engage in petty shit.

OP
yes I actually work closer to 60+ hours a week right now