Friends dropped us

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get a real problem. And more importantly, stop having social gatherings, for christ sake.

you need help.

[Anonymous]

Op, please just stay at home and talk via phone with new friends. Your previous friends are selfish losers.

[Anonymous]

Do you have any other friends in the group that you trust and can confide in? Express the feeling that you’re having of being on the outside (or whatever) — without mentioning Mean Mom — and see what you get.. Everyone feels left out on occasion and it sucks, but if you don’t ask you’ll never know what’s up. I’m not super confrontational, but I’d totally speak up in this situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you have any other friends in the group that you trust and can confide in? Express the feeling that you’re having of being on the outside (or whatever) — without mentioning Mean Mom — and see what you get.. Everyone feels left out on occasion and it sucks, but if you don’t ask you’ll never know what’s up. I’m not super confrontational, but I’d totally speak up in this situation.

OP
This is good advice but I don’t know who to trust
Also I don’t want to bring others into it
After the next two weeks we won’t see any of these people for a year

[Anonymous]

Ignore, move on, get new (real) friends.

[Anonymous]

The others who are reporting what she says to you are trouble makers too. Don't trust them.

Also, stop going to events.

[Anonymous]

So it’s your turn as the target OP. You should have seen this coming from your own participation in the gossip over the years. And large events, multiple pods, etc? Just stop

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So it’s your turn as the target OP. You should have seen this coming from your own participation in the gossip over the years. And large events, multiple pods, etc? Just stop

this is (one of several) reason this "pod" thing is nonsense.

[Anonymous]

OP, a pod is an unchanging group of a few families. We pod with family—not our family, their friends, and their families.

[Anonymous]

If you were in a pod, these would be your only friends.

[Anonymous]

Pod police here, checking in.

A pod is NOT 6 families, plus cousins.

[Anonymous]

This is why the virus is spreading. OP "pods" aren't magic - just because you label one doesn't mean you are protected from the virus. These kinds of interactions seem dangerous. No one should be huddling in a corner in COVID times.

But to answer your larger question, I'd hang out with friends who are nice to you, treat you with respect, and don't get tangled up in drama. At some point, this is a choice you are making.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have any other friends in the group that you trust and can confide in? Express the feeling that you’re having of being on the outside (or whatever) — without mentioning Mean Mom — and see what you get.. Everyone feels left out on occasion and it sucks, but if you don’t ask you’ll never know what’s up. I’m not super confrontational, but I’d totally speak up in this situation.

OP
This is good advice but I don’t know who to trust
Also I don’t want to bring others into it
After the next two weeks we won’t see any of these people for a year

So what are you worried about? They’re not friends, they are just acquaintances with a similar interest (a kid’s activity). Stop being invested in something that really doesn’t matter. Socialize (at a safe distance) with people on your terms, and move along.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We were friends with another couple through our kids, we each have three kids the same age and go to the same camp.

The mom is definitely a mean girl but also very fake, over the winter I reached out to her a few times and didn’t hear back, which I assumed was just Covid insanity related. Turns out she and her husband are totally fading us, her DH avoids us and will barely say hello, she says hi but also we’ve heard from others that she’s trash talking us.

Today we were at an event for the kids and she and her friends were huddled in a corner and it was clear they were talking about us.
Also another mom had confirmed this last month.

We’ve no idea why they’re being like this, though they have a bunch of issues and so it’s also not a surprise, it’s a bit of a relief actually because she’s a drama queen. But it’s hard to know how to act at camp, especially as they’ve brought other moms into it. Also it makes me sad as all the parents socialize with the kids so we can tell our kids are being excluded from stuff.

WWYD?

OP, you answered your own question. These are mean girls who are stunted and will never grow up - they did it in high school, and they do it now, and they wonder why they are so miserable. If they do it with you, they will absolutely do it to you - it is just a matter of time. Don't you know any better than this? How old are you? These people are not your friends - they are not anyone's "friends". Find real people, not fake people who claim other people are fake.

[Anonymous]

Personally, you are dodging a huge bullet here. Don't put up or give a second thought to this middle school behavior. Why did you even stick around when she was bad mouthing others to you?