Mom took apart my 6yr olds legos

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Anonymous wrote:I’d speak to my mother and if she continued this attitude, I’d tell her to leave. No-one comes into our home gets to treat my children this way; not even parents.

Wish I'd had a mom like you.

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“Hey, Mom...I realize you didn’t do this intentionally, but I need you to understand what a big deal this is. Not only did it take Larlo days to build them, but practically speaking they can’t simply be rebuilt since you mixed the pieces together. The reality is that the only way to fix this is to buy him new sets...which are expensive. I’m sure you realize you need to make this right. You need to apologize to him and then go online and order replacement sets—and you might want to let him pick an additional one just to show him how truly sorry you are. And next time, please don’t clean up after the kids or anyone else. I know your heart was in the right place, but this could have been avoided.”

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Anonymous wrote:I did ask her and her response was “how was I supposed to know!” She told me she would write him a note an apologize. Admitting to a mistake is not something my mom really does. My dad was pretty upset with her too. He offered to help my son sort them out and start putting some back together.

Good on your dad. I am not totally shocked that a grandparent wouldn’t understand the importance of not mixing the LEGO sets (legos were more free form when we were kids, so that might be their point of reference) but goodness I can’t believe she scolded him.

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Anonymous wrote:Grandma seems psycho. I would simply discard the whole thing and start fresh. And maybe send granny home.
I am a professional artist and something like this would make me livid.
However I have learned through the years that most people have little respect for things that are handmade. The housekeepers seem to want to destroy them. I lock everything in a cabinet before they come.

Maybe you are a terrible artist if everyone wants to discard your art!

HAHA no just the housekeeper. My friend who collects very valuable art ($$$$) had the housekeeper store her dirty cleaning supplies on it. Just a thing.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry, but she’s mean. If they had been on the middle of the floor and in the way (which it sounds like they weren’t), you pick them up assembled and move them to the table. It takes conscious effort to fully dismantle them.

I’d tell her - you apologize directly and now you will be spending all day rebuilding them. If you have any issues with that then it’s time for you to go home.

There is no way that this is not a hostile move by grandma. Who goes into first a play room and destroys a child’s work then the mothers bedroom and destroys a child’s work. Then says they are so sorry they will write a note to a 6 year old. Granny didn’t get enough love this holiday or something.

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Or grandma doesn’t “believe “ in LEGO’s.

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Sounds like she has OCD/ anxiety. Oh well. What’s done is done. Acknowledge your son’s sadness and show him a positive way to repair and move on.

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OP, what happened? Did you ask your mom to sort out the mixed-up Legos? And did she do it?

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Anonymous wrote:This is all great advice if you want your kid to grow up like a fragile and entitled child. Sheesh. Stuff happens. Grandma says sorry and buys him new legos and everyone gets on with their lives.

Or

Grandma gets a real scolding from mom and then apologizes and helps grandson rebuild precious precious LEGO creations, teaching him the he’s the center of the universe, that he doesn’t have the coping skills to move forward when life happens, and that grandma sucks and she owes him.

Which scenario do you prefer?

Choose wisely bc you’ll have to repeat it whenever a sibling, parent, young child, or play date accidentally breaks his legos or anything else he deems special. Hell of a way to live.

You are not a healthy person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is all great advice if you want your kid to grow up like a fragile and entitled child. Sheesh. Stuff happens. Grandma says sorry and buys him new legos and everyone gets on with their lives.

Or

Grandma gets a real scolding from mom and then apologizes and helps grandson rebuild precious precious LEGO creations, teaching him the he’s the center of the universe, that he doesn’t have the coping skills to move forward when life happens, and that grandma sucks and she owes him.

Which scenario do you prefer?

Choose wisely bc you’ll have to repeat it whenever a sibling, parent, young child, or play date accidentally breaks his legos or anything else he deems special. Hell of a way to live.

You are not a healthy person.

Ignore the troll, PP. Just trying to get a rise out of us all. Same one as upthread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is all great advice if you want your kid to grow up like a fragile and entitled child. Sheesh. Stuff happens. Grandma says sorry and buys him new legos and everyone gets on with their lives.

Or

Grandma gets a real scolding from mom and then apologizes and helps grandson rebuild precious precious LEGO creations, teaching him the he’s the center of the universe, that he doesn’t have the coping skills to move forward when life happens, and that grandma sucks and she owes him.

Which scenario do you prefer?

Choose wisely bc you’ll have to repeat it whenever a sibling, parent, young child, or play date accidentally breaks his legos or anything else he deems special. Hell of a way to live.

Eff that! Grandma didn’t do this accidentally. She went into someone else’s home and did something no-one requested. Accidentally breaking something is a very different situation and even then, you apologize. Children are as worthy of respect as anyone else, contrary to what you miserable b@tches believe. And then she had the effing nerve to scold him and you thin he’s the problem? Eff you!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Grandma seems psycho. I would simply discard the whole thing and start fresh. And maybe send granny home.
I am a professional artist and something like this would make me livid.
However I have learned through the years that most people have little respect for things that are handmade. The housekeepers seem to want to destroy them. I lock everything in a cabinet before they come.

Maybe you are a terrible artist if everyone wants to discard your art!

Hey, just because your life is miserable, don’t take your frustrations out on other people. It’s no wonder your husband won’t f@ck you. You sound like a nightmare! Anyone who can create art from nothing gets my admiration. Like this PP, I’ve also noticed that many people don’t respect handmade items.

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Anonymous wrote:I did ask her and her response was “how was I supposed to know!” She told me she would write him a note an apologize. Admitting to a mistake is not something my mom really does. My dad was pretty upset with her too. He offered to help my son sort them out and start putting some back together.

Ugh. Your mom needs some coaching. She needs to make the apology in person. Have her write the note but then make her say it in person. A 6 year old needs to hear this from his grandmother. A note will not cut it. And she needs to be the one to help him re-sort the pieces.

Your son wants his pieces sorted.
He doesn't care less about the apology without that action.

Really? He can sort them. They're his Legos.

So fragile.

Funny how this didn’t come into play when grandma decided to destroy them.

What if the grandson had decided to undo all of grandma’s cross stitch because it looked messy? Or if he’d decided to put her (hand wash only) China in the dishwasher to be helpful and damaged ALL of it? Would you still be saying the grandma was being “fragile” for being upset? Would the grandson be exempt from apologizing?

Huh? I'm saying that you people who think Grandma should sort the pieces are nuts.

And this is a good time to teach DS how to handle being upset appropriately. Not making it into a bigger issue than it already is.

You’re missing the point. Would it still be no big deal to you if the grandson had destroyed something valuable to his grandmother?

I’m sure the grandmother would recognize it as an accident and get over it! You think she would demand an apology and demand the offending party sit there with her and glue china back together? Of course not. It’s a setback. Teach your child the skills to move on.

Hmmm...I want to visit your home and completely trash it. I’m sure you won’t mind.

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Anonymous wrote:I’d speak to my mother and if she continued this attitude, I’d tell her to leave. No-one comes into our home gets to treat my children this way; not even parents.

Wish I'd had a mom like you.

Aw. Sending hugs. I’m this way because my parents never stood up for my siblings and me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is all great advice if you want your kid to grow up like a fragile and entitled child. Sheesh. Stuff happens. Grandma says sorry and buys him new legos and everyone gets on with their lives.

Or

Grandma gets a real scolding from mom and then apologizes and helps grandson rebuild precious precious LEGO creations, teaching him the he’s the center of the universe, that he doesn’t have the coping skills to move forward when life happens, and that grandma sucks and she owes him.

Which scenario do you prefer?

Choose wisely bc you’ll have to repeat it whenever a sibling, parent, young child, or play date accidentally breaks his legos or anything else he deems special. Hell of a way to live.

You are not a healthy person.

Ignore the troll, PP. Just trying to get a rise out of us all. Same one as upthread.

You are correct. By definition, people who are trolls are not healthy people. Who gets their jollies by being intentionally aggravating to strangers?