Mom took apart my 6yr olds legos

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This is intentionally taking down a creation and making it difficult to rebuild. It’s malicious.

You really need to get a grip.

It’s Legos.

Really, just Legos. How hard do you think a kid worked to make that structure?
We try to instill a hard work effort in kids, then say oh, it's just a toy. Oh, they are only a kid.
It's art and hard work. If it was on a work table in kids room, it shouldn't be taken apart.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP posted an update several pages back. Sounds like Grandma realized she screwed up. Grandpa was going to help the boy reassemble.

So many people on here saying that Grandma was just trying to help clean up and the boy is coddled are missing the point. Cleaning up? Yes, a mistake. Scolding the boy? How dare she. Out of line on so many levels. That's the sticking point with me.

The thought of that happening to my (now grown, previously Lego-obsessed) son hurts my heart. Those sets were his prized possessions.

This child is going to remember what happened forever.

Grandma is not willing to even apologize face-to-face with the child. She wrote a note. That tells me she doesn’t realize the depth of the hurt she caused.

Or doesn’t care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Come on, how do people actually think this was a mistake? Who sees a completed lego set on the table and thinks it's a mess that needs to be cleaned up? If grandma really thought she was helping I'd be concerned for her cognitive function.

+1

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I have to stay I am pretty laid back about most things but the thought of this happening to my kid's Lego creation makes me almost hyperventilate. She spends so much time and effort on these and is so proud of them, she would be crushed.

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OP, is there an update? Did grandpa help the kid sort and rebuild the sets? Did grandma ever directly apologize to your kid?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My parents are staying this week and this morning I hear my son 6 start crying(he isn’t a crier.) Before anyone woke up she decided to “clean” the playroom” and took apart all of sons LEGO sets and mixed them together. When she saw how upset he was, she scolded him for not cleaning them up. He was mostly upset about the brand new Minecraft legos that he got for Christmas that he has worked for days on. They were on a kid table, so they certainly weren’t in her way, I can’t figure out why she felt the need to take apart already put together legos. Wasn’t like it was a bunch of scattered legos on the floor.

My dad once stole my sons legos.
Dad was visiting and did not like the way my son left his legos- disorganization and on the floor.
He took a card box and put a large bunch of legos in there. He took the box home with him.
My son never noticed and neither did I.
A few years later, dad nails the legos back? Explaining what he had done.

I believe he was trying to teach my son a lesson.
The lesson he taught my son was not about neatness or being organized or taking care of your things.
The lesson he taught my son is that his grandfather is a petty, passive aggressive old fool who doesn't understand his own role in his grandchildren 's lives.
I suspect your mother is doing the same thing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is soooo extra.

Op, if you think your mom was just trying to help and clean up, dial back the hysteria and teach your kid life happens and here is how to deal with adversity. We can’t all live or die and destroy relationships bc he is bummed about his LEGO. What if a younger sibling did something like this- right? You have to move on.

If she was malicious, I mean, she’s nuts and you have bigger problems.

I think it’s the former bc if you think it’s the latter you would have indicated she has done crazy mean stuff before. Most likely this is just a mom who was trying to help by riding up. (My own mom is guilty of this).

Are you kidding?
Her mom's so nuts that she's on an anonymous board trying to deal with it vs talking to her own mother.
Of course the grandma is a malicious granny!

If this happened to most people, they would say "oh no! Mom.. he worked so hard on that" and granny would say "oh no!! I had no idea! How can I fix my mistake??"
That's what people with normal relationships do.

[Anonymous]

“It’s art.”

[Anonymous]

why on earth was your mother cleaning your house? the whole thing pisses me off for you and your son.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My parents are staying this week and this morning I hear my son 6 start crying(he isn’t a crier.) Before anyone woke up she decided to “clean” the playroom” and took apart all of sons LEGO sets and mixed them together. When she saw how upset he was, she scolded him for not cleaning them up. He was mostly upset about the brand new Minecraft legos that he got for Christmas that he has worked for days on. They were on a kid table, so they certainly weren’t in her way, I can’t figure out why she felt the need to take apart already put together legos. Wasn’t like it was a bunch of scattered legos on the floor.

My dad once stole my sons legos.
Dad was visiting and did not like the way my son left his legos- disorganization and on the floor.
He took a card box and put a large bunch of legos in there. He took the box home with him.
My son never noticed and neither did I.
A few years later, dad nails the legos back? Explaining what he had done.

I believe he was trying to teach my son a lesson.
The lesson he taught my son was not about neatness or being organized or taking care of your things.
The lesson he taught my son is that his grandfather is a petty, passive aggressive old fool who doesn't understand his own role in his grandchildren 's lives.
I suspect your mother is doing the same thing

This made me angry. Who does something so moronic?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My parents are staying this week and this morning I hear my son 6 start crying(he isn’t a crier.) Before anyone woke up she decided to “clean” the playroom” and took apart all of sons LEGO sets and mixed them together. When she saw how upset he was, she scolded him for not cleaning them up. He was mostly upset about the brand new Minecraft legos that he got for Christmas that he has worked for days on. They were on a kid table, so they certainly weren’t in her way, I can’t figure out why she felt the need to take apart already put together legos. Wasn’t like it was a bunch of scattered legos on the floor.

My dad once stole my sons legos.
Dad was visiting and did not like the way my son left his legos- disorganization and on the floor.
He took a card box and put a large bunch of legos in there. He took the box home with him.
My son never noticed and neither did I.
A few years later, dad nails the legos back? Explaining what he had done.

I believe he was trying to teach my son a lesson.
The lesson he taught my son was not about neatness or being organized or taking care of your things.
The lesson he taught my son is that his grandfather is a petty, passive aggressive old fool who doesn't understand his own role in his grandchildren 's lives.
I suspect your mother is doing the same thing

The only other thing I can see a child learning from that is that he had too much stuff. While most kids are (understandably) resistant to purging or downsizing, that’s not a good way to teach it, nor was it the grandparent’s place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:From this:






To This:


This is intentionally taking down a creation and making it difficult to rebuild. It’s malicious.

You really need to get a grip.

It’s Legos.

Really, just Legos. How hard do you think a kid worked to make that structure?
We try to instill a hard work effort in kids, then say oh, it's just a toy. Oh, they are only a kid.
It's art and hard work. If it was on a work table in kids room, it shouldn't be taken apart.

I agree. We were trying to put together a spaceship lego from my childhood. My mom had maintained the instructions to all the lego sets and had organized the pieces by color. There were probably 10 different lego sets mixed into the boxes. Rebuilding this ship that should take no more than about 30-45 minutes took me SIXTEEN HOURS across three days. Never underestimate how hard it is to find particular specialized pieces mixed in with bunches of others. It would sometimes take five minutes to locate just one lego piece. Multiply this by 1,000 for a medium size lego set for a worst case scenario. After doing this, I would never again try to put together anything with more than 100 pieces (i.e., nothing) from a pool of mixed legos.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:From this:






To This:


This is intentionally taking down a creation and making it difficult to rebuild. It’s malicious.

You really need to get a grip.

It’s Legos.

Really, just Legos. How hard do you think a kid worked to make that structure?
We try to instill a hard work effort in kids, then say oh, it's just a toy. Oh, they are only a kid.
It's art and hard work. If it was on a work table in kids room, it shouldn't be taken apart.

I agree. We were trying to put together a spaceship lego from my childhood. My mom had maintained the instructions to all the lego sets and had organized the pieces by color. There were probably 10 different lego sets mixed into the boxes. Rebuilding this ship that should take no more than about 30-45 minutes took me SIXTEEN HOURS across three days. Never underestimate how hard it is to find particular specialized pieces mixed in with bunches of others. It would sometimes take five minutes to locate just one lego piece. Multiply this by 1,000 for a medium size lego set for a worst case scenario. After doing this, I would never again try to put together anything with more than 100 pieces (i.e., nothing) from a pool of mixed legos.

THIS. It’s hard enough when the pieces are sorted for the project. I would just discard and start over.

[Anonymous]

This reminds me of my second grade science project. We were given a piece of bread in a petri dish and were told to grow as much mold as we could in a week. I remember carefully soaking the bread with milk and sprinkling sugar on it, etc... and putting it on the sunny windowsill above the kitchen sink. The day before it was due, my first-generation grandma came to visit saw the moldy bread, thought gross, scraped it out and washed the petri dish. I was devestated but my grandma apologized and we all moved on. I think the problem here was the grandmother's reaction to the realization she made a mistake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This reminds me of my second grade science project. We were given a piece of bread in a petri dish and were told to grow as much mold as we could in a week. I remember carefully soaking the bread with milk and sprinkling sugar on it, etc... and putting it on the sunny windowsill above the kitchen sink. The day before it was due, my first-generation grandma came to visit saw the moldy bread, thought gross, scraped it out and washed the petri dish. I was devestated but my grandma apologized and we all moved on. I think the problem here was the grandmother's reaction to the realization she made a mistake.

Wait what?

Your grandmother saw moldy food in the kitchen and didn’t realize it was a science project for school. Total tome was under 5 minutes, and it was an easy mistake to make.

OP’s mom went into the kids’ playroom to dismantle sets that were built. Total time was probably around 5+ minutes per set, and it wasn’t a mess.