Men only want one thing

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sex is like money. When you have lots of it, its 10% of the relationship. When you have none, its 90%.

Those diminishing the power of sex, the glue, are those in the 10% category. I am rich, and I don't pretend to know what it's like to be poor.

So sex is the most important thing.

It’s a required thing for a happy relationship.

I’m not the OP but this really does come down to sex. It sounds like sex is the most important thing for a man. Good to know for advice to next generation of women. It sounds like you can give on other things if sex is good.

Riiight, because sex being important has been such a secret up till now.

Sorry but you misunderstand. Point is that sex is the most important thing for a man in a relationship. I think this means that you shouldn’t worry about having the most organized home or proper meals or anything else with kids. Those things can be forgiven if sex is good. Men won’t miss those things as much and your relationship with your spouse will be good.

I think this is an important message to get across. I didn’t realize even though my marriage is good. It’s a learning.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^ I don’t know about that. I see plenty of men post. I mean isn’t it worth it to exchange ideas even if we don’t agree?

NP: At the very least, it's a way to pass the time while we aren't having sex.

Maybe it’s ok if you don’t post. Your voice has been heard here before (generically speaking). Just kidding.

[Anonymous]

Men want to be fathers

Men want wealth

Men want to be successful at work

Men want love and to be loved

Men want good food

Men want beer and alcohol and a good party

Men want to hang with their friends at a sports game or bar

Men want naps

(I took this from another discussion board that asked a similar question - I eliminated the sex answers as they have been covered here)

[Anonymous]

Yes for men sex is most important by far. After that general companionship and what they want there varies by the guy. They really don’t care that much about kids and expect the wife to take care of that- particularly the day to day- but would never admit it out loud. I’ve yet to meet a man who truly cares about household matters beyond not pissing his wife off. For women this list is basically reversed (with kids as #1) and voila- the reason so many people are unhappily married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men want to be fathers

Men want wealth

Men want to be successful at work

Men want love and to be loved

Men want good food

Men want beer and alcohol and a good party

Men want to hang with their friends at a sports game or bar

Men want naps

(I took this from another discussion board that asked a similar question - I eliminated the sex answers as they have been covered here)

Yes but what i understand from posters here is that sex is the first line item in that list . Then comes all of the other items you noted such as work, kids, food, alcohol and naps. Wonder if items listed above are in order of importance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men want to be fathers

Men want wealth

Men want to be successful at work

Men want love and to be loved

Men want good food

Men want beer and alcohol and a good party

Men want to hang with their friends at a sports game or bar

Men want naps

(I took this from another discussion board that asked a similar question - I eliminated the sex answers as they have been covered here)

But without sex he could have all those things and still divorce or cheat on you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men want to be fathers

Men want wealth

Men want to be successful at work

Men want love and to be loved

Men want good food

Men want beer and alcohol and a good party

Men want to hang with their friends at a sports game or bar

Men want naps

(I took this from another discussion board that asked a similar question - I eliminated the sex answers as they have been covered here)

Yes but what i understand from posters here is that sex is the first line item in that list . Then comes all of the other items you noted such as work, kids, food, alcohol and naps. Wonder if items listed above are in order of importance.

I don't think they are mutually exclusive. They want sex but not only sex. They want sex and some of the other things. Even with Tinder/Grindr and sex at people's fingertips, even really attractive guys who could get a lot of sex if they stayed single - still get married and have kids etc. They don't only want a life of sex. Including gay guys who aren't needing to deal with a wife / woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes for men sex is most important by far. After that general companionship and what they want there varies by the guy. They really don’t care that much about kids and expect the wife to take care of that- particularly the day to day- but would never admit it out loud. I’ve yet to meet a man who truly cares about household matters beyond not pissing his wife off. For women this list is basically reversed (with kids as #1) and voila- the reason so many people are unhappily married.

short... succinct... and on point. End thread.

-signed a woman, married about 20 years, two kids.

[Anonymous]

^LOL. This is the education that girls should get about men. Not sure if men will agree but what I’m reading on here.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As a male married 22 years I’m happy to have sex 2-3 times a week and that takes up about 1 or 2 hours in a week. There are 168 hours in a week, less 50 hours for sleeping for a net of 118 hours less 60 hours for working/commuting for a net, net of 58 hours. So I’ve got 58 hours of available family time and sex only takes up 1-2 hours. There is a ton I want in the other 56 hours - if I’m not happy and enjoying myself with my wife and children for many of those hours sex for 1-2 hours is not going to make up for it. Yes, those 2 hours are great but if the other 54 hours suck my life will not be good. Fortunately I have a wonderful wife and great but at times challenging children so those other hours make for a very happy life. And, those happy other hours make the 1-2 hours of sex even better.

So no, men do not only want one thing.

I think you’re a unicorn on this site.

I typically hear the opposite on this forum: sex makes those other 50 something hours better. Conclusion is that sex is the most important for men. I also hear that most men cheat, regardless of whether he has sex at home. Again, conclusion is that sex is the most important thing to a man.

Most of what you hear on this site about men comes from women. If you read on reddit - that has a mostly male audience, you get a very different perspective. Not that sex isn't important but that life and success and happiness and meaning is about a lot more than sex.

The above male poster sounds like my husband and we’ve been married 34 years. I know sex is very important to him but it is not the only thing that matters. There is a lot more to him than just a very nice penis.

Stop giving him sex and see if he's OK with it because "it's not the only thing that matters".

If I started being a bitch I’m pretty sure that would matter! Why would I want to stop having sex with him when I enjoy it?

To prove your claim that sex is not the only thing that matters to him.

[Anonymous]

Not sure why so many women here are struggling with the logical concept of "necessary but not sufficient".

Men regard sex as necessary to ensure a good marriage (fun fact: so do women).

Men do not regard sex as sufficient to ensure a good marriage (fun fact: neither do women).

No, men don't "only" want sex - they want other things too - but they think it is necessary, and if you take it away, the marriage will fall apart.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes for men sex is most important by far. After that general companionship and what they want there varies by the guy. They really don’t care that much about kids and expect the wife to take care of that- particularly the day to day- but would never admit it out loud. I’ve yet to meet a man who truly cares about household matters beyond not pissing his wife off. For women this list is basically reversed (with kids as #1) and voila- the reason so many people are unhappily married.

short... succinct... and on point. End thread.

-signed a woman, married about 20 years, two kids.

So....you're ok with a guy that doesn't "care that much about kids"???

My DH cares a lot about me and our kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sex is like money. When you have lots of it, its 10% of the relationship. When you have none, its 90%.

Those diminishing the power of sex, the glue, are those in the 10% category. I am rich, and I don't pretend to know what it's like to be poor.

So sex is the most important thing.

It’s a required thing for a happy relationship.

Nope sex doesn't carry a marriage alone. Must have good communication and compromise. Sex is important but so are the other aspects to make it to old age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not sure why so many women here are struggling with the logical concept of "necessary but not sufficient".

Men regard sex as necessary to ensure a good marriage (fun fact: so do women).

Men do not regard sex as sufficient to ensure a good marriage (fun fact: neither do women).

No, men don't "only" want sex - they want other things too - but they think it is necessary, and if you take it away, the marriage will fall apart.

Not really struggling. Just summarizing. Sex is the most important thing. Other things like work, food, alcohol, kids can be important. Women should prioritize sex over any other item for happy relationship. Men may be more forgiving if women don’t do those other things if sex is good.

This is what men and women need to teach their daughters based on many of the threads on this board.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sex is like money. When you have lots of it, its 10% of the relationship. When you have none, its 90%.

Those diminishing the power of sex, the glue, are those in the 10% category. I am rich, and I don't pretend to know what it's like to be poor.

So sex is the most important thing.

It’s a required thing for a happy relationship.

Nope sex doesn't carry a marriage alone. Must have good communication and compromise. Sex is important but so are the other aspects to make it to old age.

Are you DW?