First day of school mom mimosa parties

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do the nannies and aupairs get invited?

Are they friends or employees of friends? Because most employees do not want to be seen drinking by their employers' friends.

They do play dates with the SAHM's and watch their kids when they "volunteer".

Why is it different for an aupair/nanny to drink while watching kids and a mom?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This seems to be a trend I’m seeing on social media this year. After putting the kids on the bus for the first day of school, moms gather in someone’s house or on a driveway and drink mimosas to celebrate sending their kids back to school. There are hashtags like #tagyoureitteachers and #momsfinallyfree and #momsfirstdayofschool. It leaves a bad taste in my mouth. Some of them are SAH, but others have flexible schedules and can drink mimosas on a Monday to celebrate not having to be with their kids.

I get it when teachers get to the end of the year and are done with the twenty something kids they’ve been in charge of all year. They deserve a break and need to recharge. The kids don’t belong to the teachers and schools, they belong to the parents. But parents who chose to have these children celebrating not being to handle spending a little extra time with their own kids for around 10 weeks is a different story. Most of these parents sent their kids to camp for a lot of the summer, so it’s not even like they had them at home all day but even if they did it’s just distasteful in my opinion. These are the same moms who bemoan how they’re just so busy and don’t get to have any quality family time due to school, homework and activities. Own your choices. And don’t treat schools and teachers like they’re your babysitters so you can “mom life” it up on social media.

Have you seen this as well, or is it just my social media circle?

Addicted to fake outrage, OP?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah, I don't know these types of people. I know that #winemoms is a thing, but I also know that alcoholism among 30 and 40 year old women has been increasing because of this "let's drink wine to escape from our lives" culture. Get hobbies, ladies.

This. It's not a good look, and not just for women. It's just a newer thing for women to do openly. And yes, it's unfair to criticize them MORE than criticizing men-- but drinking as much and as openly as men is a rare example of equality being a bad thing.

I say this as someone who has about 4-5 (actual, standard) drinks per week, so not at all a teetotaler.

But I did go through a couple of years drinking way too much after my kid was born because 1) I was somewhat bored/anxious, but moreso 2) it was becoming more socially acceptable to drink 1-2 drinks every night, mimosa brunch, wine at a playdate (yes, most of my friends were white), etc. and that led to 3) "a (wo)man takes a drink, the drink takes a drink." You drink every day, and you start to become dependent, and it starts to creep up into 2 drinks a day, maybe even 3, and the size of the wine glasses or the beer ABV increases, etc., etc. Because that's just how it works. I was at no point non-functional, but it was still WAY too much.

This OBVIOUSLY does not apply to everyone! And good for you if it doesn't. Only a (significant) minority of even people who would post about #momosas get to that point. I mean-- seriously, have a glass of champagne when you drop your kid off at school... if that's all it really is for you.

It's just that... I went to a school-related meeting at someone's house after I cut way back on my drinking. All moms. 7 of us. I thought to myself, I'm going to pass on that proffered pitcher of sangria, because I don't want drinking to be an everyday thing anymore, and it's a Tuesday. Because I wasn't drinking, and it was a little tough for me, I was much more aware at how much everyone else was drinking and... it was a lot. Not just sangria, but beer came out, so I could tell how much everyone was drinking, and it was 2-5 standard alcoholic drinks for everyone there. On a Tuesday.

And sure, maybe that's only a very occasional thing for absolutely all of them, but... I kind of doubt it. Not all of them. And even if it is, I'm not sure how good a look (or even just a personal plan) it is to go to a class moms meeting and have 4 beers. On a Tuesday.

I think it's a bit like anything else that can be addictive and that a large swath of people are in denial about. Like screen time. I think a LOT of people are honestly able to set some sort of limit for their kids, like 1 or 2 hours a day (or even set no limit, but that's how much their kids use screens), and it works just fine for them, never creeps up, and is not a problem. That's awesome! And I'm sure that group is quite large!

But I think a significant number of people say that, say they are all about "moderation"... but are in denial. Because moderation is not based on objective reality, it's based on your peer group. So if your peer group is drinking at the drop of every hat...

It sounds like you have borderline alcoholic tendencies. Realize that not everyone is wired like you.

Counting and observing and noting and judging what others are consuming, by the way? Is a borderline alcoholic tendency. Normal people don't count other people's drinks, unless they literally are becoming sloppy drunk.

You...do also realize that alcohol has the exact same effect on a human body any day of the week, right? So it...honestly doesn't matter that much if it is OMG ON A TUESDAY. A TUESDAY. A TUESSSSSDDAAAAAYYYY!

I thought that post was odd too. Unless someone is like, pounding vodka alone or puking on the table, I'm totally not noticing how much any particular person is drinking, whether I am or not.

Uhhhhh I thought it was clear that I DO have borderline alcoholic tendencies. I didn't really notice until all the beer bottles were lined up, but yes, eventually, I noticed. And of course not everyone is wired like me. Not even the majority. But a lot of people are, and a lot of those people are in denial.

Eh, I offered about a billion disclaimers about how this isn't everyone, just maybe worth noting, considering the objective statistical evidence that this is an increasing problem... but hey, it's DCUM. Definitely the fact that I used the word "Tuesday" repeatedly means that I clutch my pearls about any refined lady having anything but the merest sip of a hot toddy at the Flegelmanns' Annual Christmas Party.

Drinking on a Tuesday! Slatterns! Lushes!

Indeed, you nailed it. Well done.

OK, you're obviously triggered by this, but that isn't even the point of the post. Have an herbal tea and settle down.

I see that PP hit your nerves.

[Anonymous]

Why is it different for an aupair/nanny to drink while watching kids and a mom?

Why is it ok to have a drink in your free time but not while at work? Does that really need to be asked?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like fun. I couldn't do it because I have to go to work after dropping off my kid, and my job frowns on morning drinking.

You can’t go to work an hour late one day a year with a month notice?

I get that you don’t want to use your time that way, but you probably CAN.

Do you typically go to work after having a drink? I don't.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like fun. I couldn't do it because I have to go to work after dropping off my kid, and my job frowns on morning drinking.

You can’t go to work an hour late one day a year with a month notice?

I get that you don’t want to use your time that way, but you probably CAN.

Do you typically go to work after having a drink? I don't.

You can just drink coffee or OJ.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do the nannies and aupairs get invited?

Are they friends or employees of friends? Because most employees do not want to be seen drinking by their employers' friends.

They do play dates with the SAHM's and watch their kids when they "volunteer".

Why is it different for an aupair/nanny to drink while watching kids and a mom?

Go post on the nanny page that one of the perks of working for you is that you encourage your nanny to drink on the job.

[Anonymous]

I’m sitting here on my phone hiding from my kids. I cannot wait for summer to be over. My kids would much rather be with other children all day at camps, but since I’m not working right now (starting a new job next month) I couldn’t justify paying for camp all summer. My kids are bored and whiny, and I’m tired of having to entertain them all day long. Gone are the days of sending children outside to play with the rest of the neighborhood I don’t drink, but I will be celebrating when school starts!

[Anonymous]

I would love to be invited to a mom mimosa party. I would like more opportunities to hang out with moms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would love to be invited to a mom mimosa party. I would like more opportunities to hang out with moms.

If it’s non judgmental moms, sign me up too. I’d rather laugh with the sinners than bitch with the saints.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can I come? I'll bring the weed.

-SAHD

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:#tacky

Exactly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would love to be invited to a mom mimosa party. I would like more opportunities to hang out with moms.

If it’s non judgmental moms, sign me up too. I’d rather laugh with the sinners than bitch with the saints.

I would love to go but work. (Shrugs)

We have had a couple of rough years so vacation time is non-existent right now so I can’t take the day off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This seems to be a trend I’m seeing on social media this year. After putting the kids on the bus for the first day of school, moms gather in someone’s house or on a driveway and drink mimosas to celebrate sending their kids back to school. There are hashtags like #tagyoureitteachers and #momsfinallyfree and #momsfirstdayofschool. It leaves a bad taste in my mouth. Some of them are SAH, but others have flexible schedules and can drink mimosas on a Monday to celebrate not having to be with their kids.

I get it when teachers get to the end of the year and are done with the twenty something kids they’ve been in charge of all year. They deserve a break and need to recharge. The kids don’t belong to the teachers and schools, they belong to the parents. But parents who chose to have these children celebrating not being to handle spending a little extra time with their own kids for around 10 weeks is a different story. Most of these parents sent their kids to camp for a lot of the summer, so it’s not even like they had them at home all day but even if they did it’s just distasteful in my opinion. These are the same moms who bemoan how they’re just so busy and don’t get to have any quality family time due to school, homework and activities. Own your choices. And don’t treat schools and teachers like they’re your babysitters so you can “mom life” it up on social media.

Have you seen this as well, or is it just my social media circle?

Oh please. Just a bunch of Moms getting together after an exhausting summer. Your judgment is what's wrong. Are you annoyed you weren't invited? Oh and these Moms are just taking a couple hours break before the homework, school activities, and different schedules for each kid kicks in. They deserve it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would love to be invited to a mom mimosa party. I would like more opportunities to hang out with moms.

If it’s non judgmental moms, sign me up too. I’d rather laugh with the sinners than bitch with the saints.

I would love to go but work. (Shrugs)

We have had a couple of rough years so vacation time is non-existent right now so I can’t take the day off.

I would love to go and work. So I...take a work from home day or an hour or two off sometimes. (Shrugs)