First day of school mom mimosa parties

[Anonymous]

I get being excited about sending your kid back to school and wanting to celebrate...whatever way you want! But....what if your kid sees the picture of you celebrating them being gone? I'd think that would hurt their feelings (maybe even give them a complex?). I don't think kids are generally mature enough to understand that it's okay for mom/dad to be happy the kid is gone for a bit.

I say celebrate away but be careful what your kid sees and how that makes them feel!

[Anonymous]

It's fine. I get it. Taking care of kids all day long during the summer is tiring and it's often all about THEM 24/7 and it's nice to get back to a routine that has a consistent allotted time to attend to non-kid related things. I'll drink to that, even though no one's handing me a Momosa when I sit down at my desk after first day drop-off. What rubs me the wrong way is when there's an assumption that it's like that for everyone - even our school's PTO Facebook page posts "#tagyoureit" and other celebratory end of Summer memes like "Moms - Only 7 Days Until Solo Trips to Target!". It seems sexist and exclusionary, especially for a school where I'd estimate the majority of kids have two working parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's fine. I get it. Taking care of kids all day long during the summer is tiring and it's often all about THEM 24/7 and it's nice to get back to a routine that has a consistent allotted time to attend to non-kid related things. I'll drink to that, even though no one's handing me a Momosa when I sit down at my desk after first day drop-off. What rubs me the wrong way is when there's an assumption that it's like that for everyone - even our school's PTO Facebook page posts "#tagyoureit" and other celebratory end of Summer memes like "Moms - Only 7 Days Until Solo Trips to Target!". It seems sexist and exclusionary, especially for a school where I'd estimate the majority of kids have two working parents.

That would INFURIATE me. So inappropriate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's fine. I get it. Taking care of kids all day long during the summer is tiring and it's often all about THEM 24/7 and it's nice to get back to a routine that has a consistent allotted time to attend to non-kid related things. I'll drink to that, even though no one's handing me a Momosa when I sit down at my desk after first day drop-off. What rubs me the wrong way is when there's an assumption that it's like that for everyone - even our school's PTO Facebook page posts "#tagyoureit" and other celebratory end of Summer memes like "Moms - Only 7 Days Until Solo Trips to Target!". It seems sexist and exclusionary, especially for a school where I'd estimate the majority of kids have two working parents.

That would INFURIATE me. So inappropriate.

I feel the same way in the reverse situation- when moms post about the upcoming lazy summer days when school Is ending and what am I gonna DO with these kids at home?
Please.
I have a job and kids go to camp. This ain’t the fifties.

[Anonymous]

I haven't heard of this, but I'd celebrate finishing my back to school shopping and to do list!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, I don't know these types of people. I know that #winemoms is a thing, but I also know that alcoholism among 30 and 40 year old women has been increasing because of this "let's drink wine to escape from our lives" culture. Get hobbies, ladies.

This. It's not a good look, and not just for women. It's just a newer thing for women to do openly. And yes, it's unfair to criticize them MORE than criticizing men-- but drinking as much and as openly as men is a rare example of equality being a bad thing.

I say this as someone who has about 4-5 (actual, standard) drinks per week, so not at all a teetotaler.

But I did go through a couple of years drinking way too much after my kid was born because 1) I was somewhat bored/anxious, but moreso 2) it was becoming more socially acceptable to drink 1-2 drinks every night, mimosa brunch, wine at a playdate (yes, most of my friends were white), etc. and that led to 3) "a (wo)man takes a drink, the drink takes a drink." You drink every day, and you start to become dependent, and it starts to creep up into 2 drinks a day, maybe even 3, and the size of the wine glasses or the beer ABV increases, etc., etc. Because that's just how it works. I was at no point non-functional, but it was still WAY too much.

This OBVIOUSLY does not apply to everyone! And good for you if it doesn't. Only a (significant) minority of even people who would post about #momosas get to that point. I mean-- seriously, have a glass of champagne when you drop your kid off at school... if that's all it really is for you.

It's just that... I went to a school-related meeting at someone's house after I cut way back on my drinking. All moms. 7 of us. I thought to myself, I'm going to pass on that proffered pitcher of sangria, because I don't want drinking to be an everyday thing anymore, and it's a Tuesday. Because I wasn't drinking, and it was a little tough for me, I was much more aware at how much everyone else was drinking and... it was a lot. Not just sangria, but beer came out, so I could tell how much everyone was drinking, and it was 2-5 standard alcoholic drinks for everyone there. On a Tuesday.

And sure, maybe that's only a very occasional thing for absolutely all of them, but... I kind of doubt it. Not all of them. And even if it is, I'm not sure how good a look (or even just a personal plan) it is to go to a class moms meeting and have 4 beers. On a Tuesday.

I think it's a bit like anything else that can be addictive and that a large swath of people are in denial about. Like screen time. I think a LOT of people are honestly able to set some sort of limit for their kids, like 1 or 2 hours a day (or even set no limit, but that's how much their kids use screens), and it works just fine for them, never creeps up, and is not a problem. That's awesome! And I'm sure that group is quite large!

But I think a significant number of people say that, say they are all about "moderation"... but are in denial. Because moderation is not based on objective reality, it's based on your peer group. So if your peer group is drinking at the drop of every hat...

[Anonymous]

It's the most wonderful time of the year.....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's the most wonderful time of the year.....

That commercial has been running through my mind as I read this thread.

[Anonymous]

I don't mean to be an idiot but aren't most school-aged kids in camp over the summer? Do any kids just stay home with mom all day at that age? I mean I'm sure there are SOME but it's not like every mom in town is dragging kids to Target as implied here. And if you're at the pool with elementary-age kids (yes, I have two) it's not exactly backbreaking labor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's fine. I get it. Taking care of kids all day long during the summer is tiring and it's often all about THEM 24/7 and it's nice to get back to a routine that has a consistent allotted time to attend to non-kid related things. I'll drink to that, even though no one's handing me a Momosa when I sit down at my desk after first day drop-off. What rubs me the wrong way is when there's an assumption that it's like that for everyone - even our school's PTO Facebook page posts "#tagyoureit" and other celebratory end of Summer memes like "Moms - Only 7 Days Until Solo Trips to Target!". It seems sexist and exclusionary, especially for a school where I'd estimate the majority of kids have two working parents.

That would INFURIATE me. So inappropriate.

I feel the same way in the reverse situation- when moms post about the upcoming lazy summer days when school Is ending and what am I gonna DO with these kids at home?
Please.
I have a job and kids go to camp. This ain’t the fifties.

NP. I'm a WOHM, and I'm not bothered by other people posting about THEIR lives or experiences. I'm sure if I were a SAHP, I'd at least have a little chuckle to myself about it. Who cares? No parent posting *about their own life* is saying anything globally insulting like, "OK, it's officially summer: ALL MOMS are now tearing their hair out with these kiddos home from school! ALL MOMS are really in for it now!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, I don't know these types of people. I know that #winemoms is a thing, but I also know that alcoholism among 30 and 40 year old women has been increasing because of this "let's drink wine to escape from our lives" culture. Get hobbies, ladies.

This. It's not a good look, and not just for women. It's just a newer thing for women to do openly. And yes, it's unfair to criticize them MORE than criticizing men-- but drinking as much and as openly as men is a rare example of equality being a bad thing.

I say this as someone who has about 4-5 (actual, standard) drinks per week, so not at all a teetotaler.

But I did go through a couple of years drinking way too much after my kid was born because 1) I was somewhat bored/anxious, but moreso 2) it was becoming more socially acceptable to drink 1-2 drinks every night, mimosa brunch, wine at a playdate (yes, most of my friends were white), etc. and that led to 3) "a (wo)man takes a drink, the drink takes a drink." You drink every day, and you start to become dependent, and it starts to creep up into 2 drinks a day, maybe even 3, and the size of the wine glasses or the beer ABV increases, etc., etc. Because that's just how it works. I was at no point non-functional, but it was still WAY too much.

This OBVIOUSLY does not apply to everyone! And good for you if it doesn't. Only a (significant) minority of even people who would post about #momosas get to that point. I mean-- seriously, have a glass of champagne when you drop your kid off at school... if that's all it really is for you.

It's just that... I went to a school-related meeting at someone's house after I cut way back on my drinking. All moms. 7 of us. I thought to myself, I'm going to pass on that proffered pitcher of sangria, because I don't want drinking to be an everyday thing anymore, and it's a Tuesday. Because I wasn't drinking, and it was a little tough for me, I was much more aware at how much everyone else was drinking and... it was a lot. Not just sangria, but beer came out, so I could tell how much everyone was drinking, and it was 2-5 standard alcoholic drinks for everyone there. On a Tuesday.

And sure, maybe that's only a very occasional thing for absolutely all of them, but... I kind of doubt it. Not all of them. And even if it is, I'm not sure how good a look (or even just a personal plan) it is to go to a class moms meeting and have 4 beers. On a Tuesday.

I think it's a bit like anything else that can be addictive and that a large swath of people are in denial about. Like screen time. I think a LOT of people are honestly able to set some sort of limit for their kids, like 1 or 2 hours a day (or even set no limit, but that's how much their kids use screens), and it works just fine for them, never creeps up, and is not a problem. That's awesome! And I'm sure that group is quite large!

But I think a significant number of people say that, say they are all about "moderation"... but are in denial. Because moderation is not based on objective reality, it's based on your peer group. So if your peer group is drinking at the drop of every hat...

It sounds like you have borderline alcoholic tendencies. Realize that not everyone is wired like you.

Counting and observing and noting and judging what others are consuming, by the way? Is a borderline alcoholic tendency. Normal people don't count other people's drinks, unless they literally are becoming sloppy drunk.

You...do also realize that alcohol has the exact same effect on a human body any day of the week, right? So it...honestly doesn't matter that much if it is OMG ON A TUESDAY. A TUESDAY. A TUESSSSSDDAAAAAYYYY!

[Anonymous]

Do the nannies and aupairs get invited?

[Anonymous]

" .. and Mom and Dad can hardly wait for school to start again"

It's beginning to look a lot like Christmas ~ song written 1951

[Anonymous]

Mommy alcoholism is in these days

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, I don't know these types of people. I know that #winemoms is a thing, but I also know that alcoholism among 30 and 40 year old women has been increasing because of this "let's drink wine to escape from our lives" culture. Get hobbies, ladies.

This. It's not a good look, and not just for women. It's just a newer thing for women to do openly. And yes, it's unfair to criticize them MORE than criticizing men-- but drinking as much and as openly as men is a rare example of equality being a bad thing.

I say this as someone who has about 4-5 (actual, standard) drinks per week, so not at all a teetotaler.

But I did go through a couple of years drinking way too much after my kid was born because 1) I was somewhat bored/anxious, but moreso 2) it was becoming more socially acceptable to drink 1-2 drinks every night, mimosa brunch, wine at a playdate (yes, most of my friends were white), etc. and that led to 3) "a (wo)man takes a drink, the drink takes a drink." You drink every day, and you start to become dependent, and it starts to creep up into 2 drinks a day, maybe even 3, and the size of the wine glasses or the beer ABV increases, etc., etc. Because that's just how it works. I was at no point non-functional, but it was still WAY too much.

This OBVIOUSLY does not apply to everyone! And good for you if it doesn't. Only a (significant) minority of even people who would post about #momosas get to that point. I mean-- seriously, have a glass of champagne when you drop your kid off at school... if that's all it really is for you.

It's just that... I went to a school-related meeting at someone's house after I cut way back on my drinking. All moms. 7 of us. I thought to myself, I'm going to pass on that proffered pitcher of sangria, because I don't want drinking to be an everyday thing anymore, and it's a Tuesday. Because I wasn't drinking, and it was a little tough for me, I was much more aware at how much everyone else was drinking and... it was a lot. Not just sangria, but beer came out, so I could tell how much everyone was drinking, and it was 2-5 standard alcoholic drinks for everyone there. On a Tuesday.

And sure, maybe that's only a very occasional thing for absolutely all of them, but... I kind of doubt it. Not all of them. And even if it is, I'm not sure how good a look (or even just a personal plan) it is to go to a class moms meeting and have 4 beers. On a Tuesday.

I think it's a bit like anything else that can be addictive and that a large swath of people are in denial about. Like screen time. I think a LOT of people are honestly able to set some sort of limit for their kids, like 1 or 2 hours a day (or even set no limit, but that's how much their kids use screens), and it works just fine for them, never creeps up, and is not a problem. That's awesome! And I'm sure that group is quite large!

But I think a significant number of people say that, say they are all about "moderation"... but are in denial. Because moderation is not based on objective reality, it's based on your peer group. So if your peer group is drinking at the drop of every hat...

It sounds like you have borderline alcoholic tendencies. Realize that not everyone is wired like you.

Counting and observing and noting and judging what others are consuming, by the way? Is a borderline alcoholic tendency. Normal people don't count other people's drinks, unless they literally are becoming sloppy drunk.

You...do also realize that alcohol has the exact same effect on a human body any day of the week, right? So it...honestly doesn't matter that much if it is OMG ON A TUESDAY. A TUESDAY. A TUESSSSSDDAAAAAYYYY!

I thought that post was odd too. Unless someone is like, pounding vodka alone or puking on the table, I'm totally not noticing how much any particular person is drinking, whether I am or not.