What’s wrong with being a whore?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men love whores.

They don't marry them though.

Untrue. Where do you get this nonsense? And why?

[Anonymous]

I think the real issue is, when people have many casual partners, it follows that sex becomes devalued. So when they are in a committed relationship, and there is a temptation or bad times in that relationship, they may have sex with another person to get them through the tough time. And since sex is purely a relatively risk-free easy thing, they may have an easier time rationalizing cheating. Because sex is no special big deal.

That is why men in particular might want a woman who had only previously had sexual in committed relationships. Because it shows they respect the value of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is one of the most degrading threads I have ever seen.

Why I would ever need to disclose to any of my partners how many I've had before is beyond me. Women who do are stupid. It's NONE OF ANYONE'S BUSINESS.

Actually, it is very much the business of anyone who wants to have a serious relationship with you.

NP and male. I don't give a rat's tail about women's sexual history and I don't ask them. Women are the sex police, not men.

found the White Knight

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men love whores.

They don't marry them though.

Untrue. Where do you get this nonsense? And why?

DP

It's not about truth, PP. It's about trying to fill that bottomless hole inside, the one where you have to find ways to put down others in order to feel better about yourself, however temporarily? Never lasts.

If you really feel good about yourself, if your sense of worth is strong and from within, then you don't need to chase around public places to try to denigrate others. You make private judgements, sure, but you don't need to make others feel bad.

So, truth? Irrelevant. It's about putting bandaids over black holes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is one of the most degrading threads I have ever seen.

Why I would ever need to disclose to any of my partners how many I've had before is beyond me. Women who do are stupid. It's NONE OF ANYONE'S BUSINESS.

Actually, it is very much the business of anyone who wants to have a serious relationship with you.

NP and male. I don't give a rat's tail about women's sexual history and I don't ask them. Women are the sex police, not men.

Thank you for being the voice of reason.

If I had an STD and could potentially infect my partner, I'd absolutely disclose. Other than that, it's none of anyone's business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men love whores.

They don't marry them though.

Not true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the real issue is, when people have many casual partners, it follows that sex becomes devalued. So when they are in a committed relationship, and there is a temptation or bad times in that relationship, they may have sex with another person to get them through the tough time. And since sex is purely a relatively risk-free easy thing, they may have an easier time rationalizing cheating. Because sex is no special big deal.

That is why men in particular might want a woman who had only previously had sexual in committed relationships. Because it shows they respect the value of it.

I don't support cheating because of the dishonesty and breach of trust it represents. But, I think it might be better for us all if we "devalued" sex. As a society, we have all kinds of dysfunctional views about sex. It's a stain of dishonor upon women who should avoid it at all costs until they're married at which time they should have it as frequently as their husbands want it, but maybe just for procreation. It's a badge of honor for men whose worth in society is based on the number and quality of women he's able to have sex with. Etc. Maybe if we just downgraded sex as something that's really fun to do with someone else and which feels good, which helps bond you to your partner, and which is activity you should probably reserve to one person when in a committed relationship (absent an agreement to open things up) -- maybe if that's all sex was to us, we'd all be happier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the real issue is, when people have many casual partners, it follows that sex becomes devalued. So when they are in a committed relationship, and there is a temptation or bad times in that relationship, they may have sex with another person to get them through the tough time. And since sex is purely a relatively risk-free easy thing, they may have an easier time rationalizing cheating. Because sex is no special big deal.

That is why men in particular might want a woman who had only previously had sexual in committed relationships. Because it shows they respect the value of it.

I don't support cheating because of the dishonesty and breach of trust it represents. But, I think it might be better for us all if we "devalued" sex. As a society, we have all kinds of dysfunctional views about sex. It's a stain of dishonor upon women who should avoid it at all costs until they're married at which time they should have it as frequently as their husbands want it, but maybe just for procreation. It's a badge of honor for men whose worth in society is based on the number and quality of women he's able to have sex with. Etc. Maybe if we just downgraded sex as something that's really fun to do with someone else and which feels good, which helps bond you to your partner, and which is activity you should probably reserve to one person when in a committed relationship (absent an agreement to open things up) -- maybe if that's all sex was to us, we'd all be happier.

+1!!

I had a fairly large number of casual sex partners in my youth, but that in no way makes me more likely to cheat on my spouse now, because those things aren't related. No one is faithful to their partner because they "value" sex. They are faithful to their partner because they are ethical beings who act with honesty and respect. I was an ethical being who acted with honesty and respect when I was sleeping around, too.

[Anonymous]

One person’s whore is another’s sexually liberated woman. Is a woman who swings or is polyamorous a whore? Is it all about honesty? Or the reasons behind all the partners? Is it all really just the wording?

[Anonymous]

This polyamorous throuple met at church, and live together despite scrutiny from their religious community.

“I never opted in into monogamy...it was automatically assigned to me.”

Polyamory Works for Them: https://www.nytimes.com/2019/08/03/style/polyamory-nonmonogamy-relationships.html

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the real issue is, when people have many casual partners, it follows that sex becomes devalued. So when they are in a committed relationship, and there is a temptation or bad times in that relationship, they may have sex with another person to get them through the tough time. And since sex is purely a relatively risk-free easy thing, they may have an easier time rationalizing cheating. Because sex is no special big deal.

That is why men in particular might want a woman who had only previously had sexual in committed relationships. Because it shows they respect the value of it.

I don't support cheating because of the dishonesty and breach of trust it represents. But, I think it might be better for us all if we "devalued" sex. As a society, we have all kinds of dysfunctional views about sex. It's a stain of dishonor upon women who should avoid it at all costs until they're married at which time they should have it as frequently as their husbands want it, but maybe just for procreation. It's a badge of honor for men whose worth in society is based on the number and quality of women he's able to have sex with. Etc. Maybe if we just downgraded sex as something that's really fun to do with someone else and which feels good, which helps bond you to your partner, and which is activity you should probably reserve to one person when in a committed relationship (absent an agreement to open things up) -- maybe if that's all sex was to us, we'd all be happier.

Scootches over to sit next to this person

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women who play fast and loose are more likely to get pregnant by men who have no interest in being a father, and often lack the resources to adequately provide for the child, and we all know women earn less than men doing the same jobs. That places a greater burden on society as a whole to support these children that were conceived after a few minutes of fun. That’s why.

I have the same view of men who have multiple partners. No respect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One person’s whore is another’s sexually liberated woman. Is a woman who swings or is polyamorous a whore? Is it all about honesty? Or the reasons behind all the partners? Is it all really just the wording?

A man or woman is sexually stupid if they sleep around. A lack of respect for their body, and health.

"sexually liberated" LMAO

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One person’s whore is another’s sexually liberated woman. Is a woman who swings or is polyamorous a whore? Is it all about honesty? Or the reasons behind all the partners? Is it all really just the wording?

A man or woman is sexually stupid if they sleep around. A lack of respect for their body, and health.

"sexually liberated" LMAO

No one is telling you to sleep around with multiple partners. You do you.

It is quite liberating to have options and to not feel oppressed (sexually or otherwise).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women who play fast and loose are more likely to get pregnant by men who have no interest in being a father, and often lack the resources to adequately provide for the child, and we all know women earn less than men doing the same jobs. That places a greater burden on society as a whole to support these children that were conceived after a few minutes of fun. That’s why.

I have the same view of men who have multiple partners. No respect.

Actually the best way to not get pregnant is to use birth control.