What’s wrong with being a whore?

[Anonymous]

I had some slutty years in my 20s and I actually think it helps me stay faithful to my DH now. I had lots of experiences, lots of flings, lots of relationships. I chose my DH will full knowledge of all these other men. I don’t wonder and long for that freedom now that I’m married because I already experienced it.

[Anonymous]

Yep, PP, I had a friend who seemed very happily married to her first serious sweetheart. She confessed to me one time that she'd had an affair because she wondered what it was like to be with another man, having only had the one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had some slutty years in my 20s and I actually think it helps me stay faithful to my DH now. I had lots of experiences, lots of flings, lots of relationships. I chose my DH will full knowledge of all these other men. I don’t wonder and long for that freedom now that I’m married because I already experienced it.

I know a woman that acted in a similar way in college, eventually married a dentist who was a virgin. Fast forward, 20 yrs later, he gets diagnosed with cancer & has to have part of his tongue, mouth, face removed. She can' t even look at him. The cancer doctor discussed that head, neck, throat cancer rates have increased dramatically due to the HPV virus.

As for needing freedom to act slutty as a requirement for being faithful - Oh Please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had some slutty years in my 20s and I actually think it helps me stay faithful to my DH now. I had lots of experiences, lots of flings, lots of relationships. I chose my DH will full knowledge of all these other men. I don’t wonder and long for that freedom now that I’m married because I already experienced it.

I know a woman that acted in a similar way in college, eventually married a dentist who was a virgin. Fast forward, 20 yrs later, he gets diagnosed with cancer & has to have part of his tongue, mouth, face removed. She can' t even look at him. The cancer doctor discussed that head, neck, throat cancer rates have increased dramatically due to the HPV virus.

As for needing freedom to act slutty as a requirement for being faithful - Oh Please.

Well thankfully I am STD free and me and DH were young enough to get the HPV vaccine

I never said sluttiness was necessary for fidelity. Only that it helps me. YMMV.

[Anonymous]

I guess the only time it would bother me is if her libido started to fade. Libido mismatch is going to cause trouble in the marriage no matter what. In moments of resentment, I'd inevitably magnify the resentment by reflecting on how eager she was in the past when other guys were involved. (Intellectually, I know this isn't fair -- she's not as young, bodies change, novelty is an aphrodisiac, etc.) But I know the way my mind works.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had some slutty years in my 20s and I actually think it helps me stay faithful to my DH now. I had lots of experiences, lots of flings, lots of relationships. I chose my DH will full knowledge of all these other men. I don’t wonder and long for that freedom now that I’m married because I already experienced it.

I know a woman that acted in a similar way in college, eventually married a dentist who was a virgin. Fast forward, 20 yrs later, he gets diagnosed with cancer & has to have part of his tongue, mouth, face removed. She can' t even look at him. The cancer doctor discussed that head, neck, throat cancer rates have increased dramatically due to the HPV virus.

As for needing freedom to act slutty as a requirement for being faithful - Oh Please.

That's still pretty rare, and most couples are going to have to deal with a health crisis at some point anyway. Everyone is getting heart disease or cancer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had some slutty years in my 20s and I actually think it helps me stay faithful to my DH now. I had lots of experiences, lots of flings, lots of relationships. I chose my DH will full knowledge of all these other men. I don’t wonder and long for that freedom now that I’m married because I already experienced it.

I know a woman that acted in a similar way in college, eventually married a dentist who was a virgin. Fast forward, 20 yrs later, he gets diagnosed with cancer & has to have part of his tongue, mouth, face removed. She can' t even look at him. The cancer doctor discussed that head, neck, throat cancer rates have increased dramatically due to the HPV virus.

As for needing freedom to act slutty as a requirement for being faithful - Oh Please.

Isn't the development of new vaccines awesome? Hooray!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess the only time it would bother me is if her libido started to fade. Libido mismatch is going to cause trouble in the marriage no matter what. In moments of resentment, I'd inevitably magnify the resentment by reflecting on how eager she was in the past when other guys were involved. (Intellectually, I know this isn't fair -- she's not as young, bodies change, novelty is an aphrodisiac, etc.) But I know the way my mind works.

Man here and yes totally this.

I analogize it to this:. If I took past girlfriends on great vacations to awesome locations and hotels and cooked great meals and gave thoughtful gifts and processed love, it's not a big deal to my wife if I do that for her now. But if I become a prude to her where I was bountiful before, she would be right to question my devotion to her

[Anonymous]

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it. I think we as women should support each other’s decisions whether it be many partners or none, or just one. I don’t like all the judgment surrounding what women do with their bodies.

[Anonymous]

Men are biologically programmed to spread their seed because they can have virtually limitless numbers of children. Women are biologically programmed to be selective about their mates because they can only have a few children.

A "whore" is fundamentally a woman who others (primarily other women) view as insufficiently selective in their mating choices and thus of low social status.

The male "equivalent" is a basement dwelling incel.

Hope that helps clear things up.

[Anonymous]

This one question has been asked about for generations over.

And will continue to be.....

As long as there is life on this planet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Technically there's nothing wrong with it, but from an evolutionary perspective, the aversion towards "whores" seems to be rather innate. You can behave as you wish, but realize that you will be judged harshly by even the most open minded among us.

This is just true, and facts don't care about feelings.

"A key that can unlock many locks is a valuable key; a lock that can be opened by many keys is not a desirable lock."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men are biologically programmed to spread their seed because they can have virtually limitless numbers of children. Women are biologically programmed to be selective about their mates because they can only have a few children.

A "whore" is fundamentally a woman who others (primarily other women) view as insufficiently selective in their mating choices and thus of low social status.

The male "equivalent" is a basement dwelling incel.

Hope that helps clear things up.

Lots of truth here.

[Anonymous]

Mental health
Disease
Unwanted pregnancy
Reputation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women who play fast and loose are more likely to get pregnant by men who have no interest in being a father, and often lack the resources to adequately provide for the child, and we all know women earn less than men doing the same jobs. That places a greater burden on society as a whole to support these children that were conceived after a few minutes of fun. That’s why.

Yep. Strong societies = choosey women and stable families