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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the real issue is, when people have many casual partners, it follows that sex becomes devalued. So when they are in a committed relationship, and there is a temptation or bad times in that relationship, they may have sex with another person to get them through the tough time. And since sex is purely a relatively risk-free easy thing, they may have an easier time rationalizing cheating. Because sex is no special big deal.

That is why men in particular might want a woman who had only previously had sexual in committed relationships. Because it shows they respect the value of it. [/quote]

I don't support cheating because of the dishonesty and breach of trust it represents. But, I think it might be better for us all if we "devalued" sex. As a society, we have all kinds of dysfunctional views about sex. It's a stain of dishonor upon women who should avoid it at all costs until they're married at which time they should have it as frequently as their husbands want it, but maybe just for procreation. It's a badge of honor for men whose worth in society is based on the number and quality of women he's able to have sex with. Etc. Maybe if we just downgraded sex as something that's really fun to do with someone else and which feels good, which helps bond you to your partner, and which is activity you should probably reserve to one person when in a committed relationship (absent an agreement to open things up) -- maybe if that's all sex was to us, we'd all be happier. [/quote]

+1!!

I had a fairly large number of casual sex partners in my youth, but that in no way makes me more likely to cheat on my spouse now, because those things aren't related. No one is faithful to their partner because they "value" sex. They are faithful to their partner because they are ethical beings who act with honesty and respect. I was an ethical being who acted with honesty and respect when I was sleeping around, too. 
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