Granger Smith's 3-year old dies in pool accident

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Feel sorry for the kids for being raised by such irresponsible parents. I guess the pool fence ruined the design of their mansion.

They do have a wrought iron pool fence around their pool. Those fences are less difficult to scale than mesh fences are but I'm going to guess that the gate was left open for some reason or they were out playing in the pool when this happened.

Those parents adored that precious little boy. You can see in the pictures and videos how much they loved him. What a heartbreaking loss. Your judgment of them is beyond bizarre, have some basic decency.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is there any uglier trait than filling in smug judgment where your heartfelt sympathy is supposed to be?

The only person who deserves sympathy is the child who this lazy narcissist and her loser husband let drown because they needed to show off with a house pool. Go cry elsewhere.

Please tell me you’re not a parent, I pray to God that he protects your children if you are... because you are an idiot and I have no hope for any of your dependents

[Anonymous]

Heartbreaks for the little boy and his parents. No one wants this scenario and it can happen in a matter of seconds.

For parents and loved ones of non swimmers, remember drowning is silent. If your child is in proximity of a pool or water, you must stay with them, do not count on gates and alarms until you VERIFY they are locked/working, and also teach your little ones of staying away from water when mom and dad aren’t around.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Horrible tragedy.

We have a pool with a locking automatic cover. The key to unlock it is kept in a place out of reach of children.

I think this is the only precaution that would make me feel safe with a pool and young children. Along with an alarmed gate.

We don't know any details about this tragedy but I do think, even with every precaution, these kinds of accidents can happen very fast. I'm so sad for this family, can't imagine the kind of pain they're in right now.

We had this. I still worried about someone leaving the cover off. Or a malfunction. Or a child slipping through somehow. Or drowning during a party or while people were over. That is when these things happen.

Our cover is strong enough that even an adult can walk on it without breaking (but it may stress the mounting hardware so not recommended). We've had kids here for non-pool birthday parties accidentally walk across it when playing outside and it holds up fine. Our rule is the pool cover is always on unless one of us is there observing and/or swimming. Pool parties are tricky -- we close it up as soon as people are out of the pool eating, so no kid can wander over while we're eating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Horrible tragedy.

We have a pool with a locking automatic cover. The key to unlock it is kept in a place out of reach of children.

I think this is the only precaution that would make me feel safe with a pool and young children. Along with an alarmed gate.

We don't know any details about this tragedy but I do think, even with every precaution, these kinds of accidents can happen very fast. I'm so sad for this family, can't imagine the kind of pain they're in right now.

We had this. I still worried about someone leaving the cover off. Or a malfunction. Or a child slipping through somehow. Or drowning during a party or while people were over. That is when these things happen.

Our cover is strong enough that even an adult can walk on it without breaking (but it may stress the mounting hardware so not recommended). We've had kids here for non-pool birthday parties accidentally walk across it when playing outside and it holds up fine. Our rule is the pool cover is always on unless one of us is there observing and/or swimming. Pool parties are tricky -- we close it up as soon as people are out of the pool eating, so no kid can wander over while we're eating.

That is what we had. I walked across it once to test it and it was fine. I still could not relax. Having a pool is more dangerous than not having a pool. Even if you take all kinds of precautions. For me, it just was not worth it.

[Anonymous]

Not dismissing the loss of a sweet child, but it boggles my mind that celebs (although I have no idea who these people are) with all of their money and high-end things don't have practical pool perimeter safe-guards.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not dismissing the loss of a sweet child, but it boggles my mind that celebs (although I have no idea who these people are) with all of their money and high-end things don't have practical pool perimeter safe-guards.

We don't know how this accident even happened. They do have a pool fence but the child somehow got into the pool anyway. For all we know his mom could have been right there in the water with him. It only takes minutes for something like this to happen and it could happen in any body of water.

I'm betting that this little guy could swim, too, because his parents had him around water a lot. But even swimmers can drown. You have got to keep a close eye on your kids when they are in any body of water.

[Anonymous]

I honestly don’t understand how this happens. I’m a nanny and work 12-16hrs a day and I’m always behind the kids like a helicopter. Whenever I see YouTube videos of kids covered in flour or painting on the walls, I don’t understand how that happens- unless you’re lazy and not following your kids around? I’ve been a nanny for 22 years and I’ve never had a broken bone or major fall or big mess, because I’m always supervising the kids. If I had my own, I’d be doing the same. It’s lazy parenting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I honestly don’t understand how this happens. I’m a nanny and work 12-16hrs a day and I’m always behind the kids like a helicopter. Whenever I see YouTube videos of kids covered in flour or painting on the walls, I don’t understand how that happens- unless you’re lazy and not following your kids around? I’ve been a nanny for 22 years and I’ve never had a broken bone or major fall or big mess, because I’m always supervising the kids. If I had my own, I’d be doing the same. It’s lazy parenting.

Things happen. One of my kids fell and broke her arm while I was standing approximately 6 inches from her. Another one tumbled down the stairs head over heels. I was holding his hand when the fall started. Things can happen in a split second. Lives change forever. There but for the grace of God.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I honestly don’t understand how this happens. I’m a nanny and work 12-16hrs a day and I’m always behind the kids like a helicopter. Whenever I see YouTube videos of kids covered in flour or painting on the walls, I don’t understand how that happens- unless you’re lazy and not following your kids around? I’ve been a nanny for 22 years and I’ve never had a broken bone or major fall or big mess, because I’m always supervising the kids. If I had my own, I’d be doing the same. It’s lazy parenting.

eh, parents are never "off duty". For all you know this could have happened first thing in the morning while the mom was in the shower getting ready for the day. When my kids were 3 they used to lay on the bed in the master bedroom watching cartoons while I got ready in the bathroom. It was our normal routine and they, thankfully, never varied from it.

I followed my kids around like a hawk and I am also having a hard time understanding exactly what happened but that isn't because I'm blaming the parents for this tragedy. Obviously, something went terribly wrong and out of plan that day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I honestly don’t understand how this happens. I’m a nanny and work 12-16hrs a day and I’m always behind the kids like a helicopter. Whenever I see YouTube videos of kids covered in flour or painting on the walls, I don’t understand how that happens- unless you’re lazy and not following your kids around? I’ve been a nanny for 22 years and I’ve never had a broken bone or major fall or big mess, because I’m always supervising the kids. If I had my own, I’d be doing the same. It’s lazy parenting.

You never went to the bathroom without them? Or had to take an important phone call? Or ran outside to get the mail. I suspect you have left them unattended for short amounts of time and just got lucky. Most parents do the best they can. Sometimes you don’t realize a dangerous situation until something happens. Sometimes luck is just not with you. Whatever happened that day, you can be sure those parents regret every second of it and wish for for a do over more than anything else.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I honestly don’t understand how this happens. I’m a nanny and work 12-16hrs a day and I’m always behind the kids like a helicopter. Whenever I see YouTube videos of kids covered in flour or painting on the walls, I don’t understand how that happens- unless you’re lazy and not following your kids around? I’ve been a nanny for 22 years and I’ve never had a broken bone or major fall or big mess, because I’m always supervising the kids. If I had my own, I’d be doing the same. It’s lazy parenting.

You never went to the bathroom without them? Or had to take an important phone call? Or ran outside to get the mail. I suspect you have left them unattended for short amounts of time and just got lucky. Most parents do the best they can. Sometimes you don’t realize a dangerous situation until something happens. Sometimes luck is just not with you. Whatever happened that day, you can be sure those parents regret every second of it and wish for for a do over more than anything else.

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The smugness of some here is sickening.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I honestly don’t understand how this happens. I’m a nanny and work 12-16hrs a day and I’m always behind the kids like a helicopter. Whenever I see YouTube videos of kids covered in flour or painting on the walls, I don’t understand how that happens- unless you’re lazy and not following your kids around? I’ve been a nanny for 22 years and I’ve never had a broken bone or major fall or big mess, because I’m always supervising the kids. If I had my own, I’d be doing the same. It’s lazy parenting.

You never went to the bathroom without them? Or had to take an important phone call? Or ran outside to get the mail. I suspect you have left them unattended for short amounts of time and just got lucky. Most parents do the best they can. Sometimes you don’t realize a dangerous situation until something happens. Sometimes luck is just not with you. Whatever happened that day, you can be sure those parents regret every second of it and wish for for a do over more than anything else.

+1
The smugness of some here is sickening.

And we all should be grateful for the near misses, the accidents somehow avoided, the days when our lives weren’t upended by a choice we made. You can sit here and judge this family, but I instead just try to be grateful that so far, luck has been with me and we have been spared this terrible result. No one deserves for this to happen and the smugness exhibited here does not actually insulate your children from potential harm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I honestly don’t understand how this happens. I’m a nanny and work 12-16hrs a day and I’m always behind the kids like a helicopter. Whenever I see YouTube videos of kids covered in flour or painting on the walls, I don’t understand how that happens- unless you’re lazy and not following your kids around? I’ve been a nanny for 22 years and I’ve never had a broken bone or major fall or big mess, because I’m always supervising the kids. If I had my own, I’d be doing the same. It’s lazy parenting.

You never went to the bathroom without them? Or had to take an important phone call? Or ran outside to get the mail. I suspect you have left them unattended for short amounts of time and just got lucky. Most parents do the best they can. Sometimes you don’t realize a dangerous situation until something happens. Sometimes luck is just not with you. Whatever happened that day, you can be sure those parents regret every second of it and wish for for a do over more than anything else.

+1
The smugness of some here is sickening.

And we all should be grateful for the near misses, the accidents somehow avoided, the days when our lives weren’t upended by a choice we made. You can sit here and judge this family, but I instead just try to be grateful that so far, luck has been with me and we have been spared this terrible result. No one deserves for this to happen and the smugness exhibited here does not actually insulate your children from potential harm.

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Smug nanny, you really need to check your perception on reality, because these kinds of tragedies can and do happen in seconds, and it’s not always due to neglect or whatever you want to frame it as.

I’m a bit of a helicopter (okay, by DCUM standards, a smothering helicopter). DD, now 2.5, is pretty much in my direct reach or line of sight at all times. I can probably count the number of times I’ve been in the bathroom alone since her birth if I think about it hard enough.

We were at a friend’s house for the evening, and as it often happens, the men settled in one room, and the women in another. The rooms were separated by one stair rise into another room. The kids, of similar age and older, were going in between the two rooms. DD was in the room with me, went to see DH, came back less than 30 seconds later in an absolute blood bath. She had tripped somewhere along the path, and seriously bit her lip and damaged two teeth. I guess I could have followed her back and forth the hundred times that she went, like all the kids were doing, but the house was child proofed and you really can’t be there all the time. 30 seconds is all it took, and in that 30, she had been with DH some of it. There were more than 15 adults around between the three rooms, none of us drinking more than a single glass of wine or beer, and everyone (including the host’s parents) keeping an eye out for all the kids in general.

This past weekend, a friend had her 4 year old out on her bike in their driveway. I wasn’t there, but know enough that she is VERY cautious and would have been within arms reach. As it was, her daughter fell, knocked out several teeth requiring emergency surgery, and despite correct use of a helmet, a head injury was suspected (more due to the jaw impact).

Cautiousness and smugness doesn’t out bid the laws of physics, luck, and physiology of the human body.

I feel for this family. Her comments about being child free for her honeymoon are now going to be misrepresented. Her ability to care for a child while her husband travels will come into question. But let’s be honest : what parent doesn’t revel to be by themselves once in a while, and how many posts do we see on this board alone about parents who even have to do ONE night or week of bedtime alone feeling overwhelmed and challenged? If she didn’t work on her abs, every magazine and blog would be calling her out for letting herself go, next time she walks the red carpet with her husband.

We should be supporting Heringa her time of grief, but instead everyone is going to take her down for being the partner of a celebrity, and it’s sickening.

[Anonymous]

No one with any decency is going to take that mother down. Those of us who have actually parented small children totally understand how you can not watch them 100% the time. We have ALL looked away at times while our attention was distracted by something else. Every single one of us, including that know it all nanny.