My mom hates the menu for my preschoolers birthday party

[Anonymous]

I would do hamburgers instead of hot dogs. Have the fixings. Add a salad.

I also am concerned that the hot dog is a choking hazard- and I would be annoyed at anytime serving it to my 3 year old. And please don’t put whole grapes in the fruit salad.


-physician.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most adults don't want hotdogs......

Agree. I haven't eaten a hot dog since middle school, when my science teacher told our class what they were made of.

Is it that hard to grab some fruit or salad or wait two hours to get home and eat?

No, not at all. But I'd be a little disappointed if my daughters didn't try to make ALL their guests comfortable and happy. If you're serving food, you serve food for ALL. Not just some. ESPECIALLY when someone is coming in from out of town.

Oh geez. The point of the party is to celebrate her grandchild. Grandma needs to get over herself and enjoy the party as a gracious guest. It’s not about grandma! I hope when it’s my time I don’t add more pressure to my daughters trying to throw birthday parties for their children. I will just be happy to be included and keep my criticisms to myself.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Everyone hates your menu.

It doesn't matter as long as the birthday child likes it. When it's your birthday, you can decide the menu.

Right, of course. Welcome to dcum, where 4 year olds call the shots.

No...the mom is calling the shots by being fine with birthday kid preference. See how that works?

It’s one meal. It’s a kid’s birthday party. It’s fine. Really.

4 year old birthday party means food the 4 year old likes. Or did in our house. You would have all had the vapors at our kid's parties.

Hot dogs, chips, soda, fruit tray. Cake and ice cream. Even the grandparents survived the one meal.

[Anonymous]

I have 3 kids. I find that adults rarely eat or drink much at kids birthday parties. Focus on what the kids want. Your mother can eat before or after. I never eat at my own parties, always after. Too busy entertaining and taking pics.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most adults don't want hotdogs......

Agree. I haven't eaten a hot dog since middle school, when my science teacher told our class what they were made of.

Is it that hard to grab some fruit or salad or wait two hours to get home and eat?

They are coming in from out of town, not from across town.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most adults don't want hotdogs......

Agree. I haven't eaten a hot dog since middle school, when my science teacher told our class what they were made of.

Is it that hard to grab some fruit or salad or wait two hours to get home and eat?

They are coming in from out of town, not from across town.

Is there no store in OPs town? Grandma can’t pack something she likes?
The food preferences and trying to accommodate everyone is one reason I hate entertaining anymore. If grandma is coming to a four year old party, she can deal with the menu or decline coming.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most adults don't want hotdogs......

Agree. I haven't eaten a hot dog since middle school, when my science teacher told our class what they were made of.

Is it that hard to grab some fruit or salad or wait two hours to get home and eat?

They are coming in from out of town, not from across town.

Is there no store in OPs town? Grandma can’t pack something she likes?
The food preferences and trying to accommodate everyone is one reason I hate entertaining anymore. If grandma is coming to a four year old party, she can deal with the menu or decline coming.

Grandma offered to make something and OP declined.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most adults don't want hotdogs......

Agree. I haven't eaten a hot dog since middle school, when my science teacher told our class what they were made of.

Is it that hard to grab some fruit or salad or wait two hours to get home and eat?

They are coming in from out of town, not from across town.

Is there no store in OPs town? Grandma can’t pack something she likes?
The food preferences and trying to accommodate everyone is one reason I hate entertaining anymore. If grandma is coming to a four year old party, she can deal with the menu or decline coming.

Grandma offered to make something and OP declined.

No one wants crockpot crap on a hot day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is not a big deal. "Mom, please bring salad, stop on the way and buy it for you and it would be great if you wanted to bring it for the rest of the adults too." Is she staying the night? If she is, I would definitely be a god host that had food for her mom to eat for that day. I also become sick after eating hotdogs, always have. Throwing up and similar. Those things are nasty, but I have a similar reaction to commercial sausages. I wonder why? Is it garlic or what... Might research that. I can't eat shade plants.

+1 Or buy a salad. Salad mix+grape tomatoes and some cucumber is easy. Or get a pre-made salad or a veggie tray.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone hates your menu.

No, we don't. I also have a 4yo, and I would serve this menu, because my kid likes it and it's their birthday. I would just slice the hotdogs in half before serving. Easy.

And Grandma needs to shut her mouth. She got to make the menu for her own 4 yo's parties-now it's mom and dad's turn! She can survive a child's party without a preferred meal.

[Anonymous]

This is weird to me. Your mom is coming to visit you and your daughter, right? Assuming the party is only a couple of hours. Why wouldn't you tell her, just nibble on the kids party food and we'll get some nice carryout afterwards, and relax with a glass of wine? Why so rigid?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is weird to me. Your mom is coming to visit you and your daughter, right? Assuming the party is only a couple of hours. Why wouldn't you tell her, just nibble on the kids party food and we'll get some nice carryout afterwards, and relax with a glass of wine? Why so rigid?

True, but by the same point, daughter is being rigid by not providing something other than hot dogs and mac and cheese. I just went to a toddler party in the park this weekend, and it was mac and cheese and cut up fruit and cut up vegetables. That's a far healthier menu that's more likely to please a wider set of palates.

[Anonymous]

Maybe not hotdogs. Kids get awfully excited at those parties.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is weird to me. Your mom is coming to visit you and your daughter, right? Assuming the party is only a couple of hours. Why wouldn't you tell her, just nibble on the kids party food and we'll get some nice carryout afterwards, and relax with a glass of wine? Why so rigid?

True, but by the same point, daughter is being rigid by not providing something other than hot dogs and mac and cheese. I just went to a toddler party in the park this weekend, and it was mac and cheese and cut up fruit and cut up vegetables. That's a far healthier menu that's more likely to please a wider set of palates.

Did you actually read the OP where she says also fruit and salad?

[Anonymous]

Ridiculous. 90% of kids birthday parties are pizza + cake, the other 10% are things similar to what you are serving, maybe adding some chicken nuggets or something. This isn't a party for adults it is a party for kids.