My mom hates the menu for my preschoolers birthday party

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Why not order in for her?

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t eat it either. But I wouldn’t judge or tell you about it.

You I like.

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Anonymous wrote:She is coming from out of town- presumably this is not a frequent occurrence.
You know her food preferences.
She is your mother and your child’s grandmother.
She is offering to make something.

I don’t understand why this is an issue

+1 to all of this but most of all SHE IS YOUR MOM!!! Wow.

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Anonymous wrote:Everyone hates your menu.

It doesn't matter as long as the birthday child likes it. When it's your birthday, you can decide the menu.

Right, of course. Welcome to dcum, where 4 year olds call the shots.

No...the mom is calling the shots by being fine with birthday kid preference. See how that works?

It’s one meal. It’s a kid’s birthday party. It’s fine. Really.

OP never specified that it was the kid's preference, just that she is "keeping it simple". So it's about what's easiest for mom. See how that works?

Yes, and? Even if that is 100% the case...good for her. I know I'm feeling a bit run down at the end of the school year, coming off of pretty busy time at work. Throw in months of dance classes and a recital and two hours of semi-parenting at a kid's birthday party at someone else's house and a hot dog with ketchup and relish sounds pretty good at the moment.

I like how there's no mention of dad at all on this thread. If the party menu is so freaking bad, maybe he can step up and cook a few things. Think he was the mom putting together the guest list, getting email addresses or phone numbers of the parents of any kid invitees, figuring out a time that would work for the majority of attendees, etc.?

It's a four-year-old's birthday party. And you're scoffing at the idea of a mom wanting to make it easy? Uh...yeah. There's a time to really put in entertaining effort. This ain't it. Kids are happy with a handful of M&Ms and the opportunity to bounce on a trampoline. Any parents looking for fine dining and ambiance at a child's birthday party can manage their disappointment and desperate hunger for a full two hours.

You really don't seem to get it but I'll try one more time. If extended family are going to the effort of coming in from out of town for this occasion, it's a little out there to feed them hot dogs and bag salad when they arrive. If not up to hosting, just send some cupcakes in to daycare or whatever and call it a day. Don't have people driving in from out of town.

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Anonymous wrote:Everyone hates your menu.

It doesn't matter as long as the birthday child likes it. When it's your birthday, you can decide the menu.

Right, of course. Welcome to dcum, where 4 year olds call the shots.

No...the mom is calling the shots by being fine with birthday kid preference. See how that works?

It’s one meal. It’s a kid’s birthday party. It’s fine. Really.

OP never specified that it was the kid's preference, just that she is "keeping it simple". So it's about what's easiest for mom. See how that works?

Yes, and? Even if that is 100% the case...good for her. I know I'm feeling a bit run down at the end of the school year, coming off of pretty busy time at work. Throw in months of dance classes and a recital and two hours of semi-parenting at a kid's birthday party at someone else's house and a hot dog with ketchup and relish sounds pretty good at the moment.

I like how there's no mention of dad at all on this thread. If the party menu is so freaking bad, maybe he can step up and cook a few things. Think he was the mom putting together the guest list, getting email addresses or phone numbers of the parents of any kid invitees, figuring out a time that would work for the majority of attendees, etc.?

It's a four-year-old's birthday party. And you're scoffing at the idea of a mom wanting to make it easy? Uh...yeah. There's a time to really put in entertaining effort. This ain't it. Kids are happy with a handful of M&Ms and the opportunity to bounce on a trampoline. Any parents looking for fine dining and ambiance at a child's birthday party can manage their disappointment and desperate hunger for a full two hours.

You really don't seem to get it but I'll try one more time. If extended family are going to the effort of coming in from out of town for this occasion, it's a little out there to feed them hot dogs and bag salad when they arrive. If not up to hosting, just send some cupcakes in to daycare or whatever and call it a day. Don't have people driving in from out of town.

I wonder how much of this is "having people drive in from out of town" vs. family assumes they must be part of any and all birthday celebrations and invite/insert themselves.

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Anonymous wrote:Tell her to bring what she wants to eat. End of story. Complaining? "I'm hanging up now," and do it.

Exactly, or say sure, you’re welcome to use my crockpot when you arrive.

It’s rude to invite a guest and make food you know they won’t eat and then tell them to make food themselves. Don’t host a party if you don’t have basic social graces.

Huh? Basic social graces would be refraining from telling the person whom has invited you into their home and telling them what and what not to serve! That is the height of rudeness.

It’s her mom, not an acquaintance from work FFS.

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Anonymous wrote:Tell her to bring what she wants to eat. End of story. Complaining? "I'm hanging up now," and do it.

Exactly, or say sure, you’re welcome to use my crockpot when you arrive.

It’s rude to invite a guest and make food you know they won’t eat and then tell them to make food themselves. Don’t host a party if you don’t have basic social graces.

Huh? Basic social graces would be refraining from telling the person whom has invited you into their home and telling them what and what not to serve! That is the height of rudeness.

It’s her mom, not an acquaintance from work FFS.

NP. Unless her mom owns the house or makes house payments, she's a G-U-E-S-T in OP's home, family or not.

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Show her where the refrigerator is and that’s it.

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Anonymous wrote:Tell her to bring what she wants to eat. End of story. Complaining? "I'm hanging up now," and do it.

Exactly, or say sure, you’re welcome to use my crockpot when you arrive.

It’s rude to invite a guest and make food you know they won’t eat and then tell them to make food themselves. Don’t host a party if you don’t have basic social graces.

Huh? Basic social graces would be refraining from telling the person whom has invited you into their home and telling them what and what not to serve! That is the height of rudeness.

It’s her mom, not an acquaintance from work FFS.

NP. Unless her mom owns the house or makes house payments, she's a G-U-E-S-T in OP's home, family or not.

If your own mom can’t level with you and tell you when you’re being a shitty hostess, who else is going to tell you?

And guess what a GUEST should feel welcome, so you shouldn’t invite a GUEST and serve them a pile of crap.

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Most adults don't want hotdogs......

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Anonymous wrote:Tell her to bring what she wants to eat. End of story. Complaining? "I'm hanging up now," and do it.

Exactly, or say sure, you’re welcome to use my crockpot when you arrive.

It’s rude to invite a guest and make food you know they won’t eat and then tell them to make food themselves. Don’t host a party if you don’t have basic social graces.

Huh? Basic social graces would be refraining from telling the person whom has invited you into their home and telling them what and what not to serve! That is the height of rudeness.

It’s her mom, not an acquaintance from work FFS.

NP. Unless her mom owns the house or makes house payments, she's a G-U-E-S-T in OP's home, family or not.

If your own mom can’t level with you and tell you when you’re being a shitty hostess, who else is going to tell you?

And guess what a GUEST should feel welcome, so you shouldn’t invite a GUEST and serve them a pile of crap.

Context, people. If it's a 70-year-old's retirement party, then yes, let's expect some adult food. For a four-year-old's birthday? Yeah, it might be hot dogs, mac and cheese. Are you that...hungry that you can't be pleasant with a non-ideal menu for two hours?

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So, let me get this straight...she offered to bring food, that she likes. And pay for it herself? Just for herself or enough for other adults or kids that might like it? Is her issue that she doesn't' eat this and she is only focused on herself or that she thinks your menu is going to be frowned upon by your guest and she is trying to save your face?

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Anonymous wrote:Most adults don't want hotdogs......

Agree. I haven't eaten a hot dog since middle school, when my science teacher told our class what they were made of.

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Anonymous wrote:Most adults don't want hotdogs......

Agree. I haven't eaten a hot dog since middle school, when my science teacher told our class what they were made of.

Is it that hard to grab some fruit or salad or wait two hours to get home and eat?

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Anonymous wrote:Most adults don't want hotdogs......

Agree. I haven't eaten a hot dog since middle school, when my science teacher told our class what they were made of.

Is it that hard to grab some fruit or salad or wait two hours to get home and eat?

No, not at all. But I'd be a little disappointed if my daughters didn't try to make ALL their guests comfortable and happy. If you're serving food, you serve food for ALL. Not just some. ESPECIALLY when someone is coming in from out of town.