Husband wants to go on a ski trip when I’m 7 or 8 months pregnant

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Anonymous wrote:OP here - so I expressed my concerns over an extended trip and a high elevation location and I basically was told that I never let him do anything and that he won't get to do fun trip like this after the kid is born. He totally blew it out of proportion. Did I make a mistake by getting pregnant? We've always butted heads on leisure activities and how much to spend on them, but this feels really ridiculous.

Did you offer that he go without you?

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Anonymous wrote:I think many people do things - one last time - before the first child comes as they don't yet know what that life will look like and there is some trepidation that they will they will be able to do the things they enjoy or that life will become all about the baby.

It really depends on your mindset. I know people whose lives have barely skipped a beat and they continue to enjoy most of the same activities but with kids or in a kid version way and I know other people who haven't done anything for themselves or for fun for years and have given up hobbies and interests. Personally, I think the first is much healthier and continue to do what you enjoy makes you a better parent and it is good for the kids to see their parents as people with interests and hobbies.

Meh or sometimes you get a hard kid and you may not have the ability to pursue interests because you lack the family support, finances for care, or other resources (ie sure if I had a live in au pair and a DH who didn’t travel I could work out and go see my girlfriends regularly instead of manically racing around all the time being a full time employee and mom). Also, I can’t run any more due to incontinence and pelvic issues, so sometimes physical changes can mean you have to stop things you love.

+1 Some people struggle more with parenthood than others. Those who wonder why parenthood is so easy for them and not for others should count their blessings that they got and easy kid and likely have financial/family resources that others don't.

And people have different mindsets and philosophies about child rearing. There are lots of people who make life a lot more difficult for themselves than it needs to be because they worry pointlessly about all kinds of things, or the child is the center of their world, or they feel they need to be super mom martyr and never do anything for themselves. You see people posting those views on here all the time.

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Anonymous wrote:To the OP, you have every right to be irritated. He should be more sympathetic to the fact that you will be too far along to participate, and simultaneously too far along to leave you home alone if he were to go without you. It is selfish of him, but he probably isn't looking at it from the same perspective as you.

To all the ladies making rude, presumptuous comments about what kind of wife she is for having a problem with this...just wow. I would love to see any of you say any of this to someone's face. You are like little middle school trolls who sit behind your computers is anonymity and bully people. It's really ridiculous to read your comments.

+1

36 weeks is cutting it close!

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Anonymous wrote:OP here - so I expressed my concerns over an extended trip and a high elevation location and I basically was told that I never let him do anything and that he won't get to do fun trip like this after the kid is born. He totally blew it out of proportion. Did I make a mistake by getting pregnant? We've always butted heads on leisure activities and how much to spend on them, but this feels really ridiculous.

It sounds like you married a man-baby. This is just the beginning. Don’t have any more kids.

He married a woman baby. They should put this kid up for adoption, divorce, and get on with their lives.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here - so I expressed my concerns over an extended trip and a high elevation location and I basically was told that I never let him do anything and that he won't get to do fun trip like this after the kid is born. He totally blew it out of proportion. Did I make a mistake by getting pregnant? We've always butted heads on leisure activities and how much to spend on them, but this feels really ridiculous.

Did you offer that he go without you?

Why don't you express your concerns about a freaking early baby? Seriously I can't believe this hasn't came up. Flying at 36 weeks is dumb.

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Anonymous wrote:Plenty of men want a last hurrah before baby is born because they recognize their life is about to be radically altered and they aren’t going to have the freedom they once enjoyed for the next 18 years. You are overreacting OP. Let him go.

Cool, when do the women carrying the babies get their last hurrah?

Before you get pregnant, obv.

Makes sense since we know exactly when we’re getting pregnant.

You’re actually really dim.

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Anonymous wrote:Plenty of men want a last hurrah before baby is born because they recognize their life is about to be radically altered and they aren’t going to have the freedom they once enjoyed for the next 18 years. You are overreacting OP. Let him go.

Cool, when do the women carrying the babies get their last hurrah?

Before you get pregnant, obv.

Makes sense since we know exactly when we’re getting pregnant.

You’re actually really dim.

Thanks!

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Anonymous wrote:OP here - so I expressed my concerns over an extended trip and a high elevation location and I basically was told that I never let him do anything and that he won't get to do fun trip like this after the kid is born. He totally blew it out of proportion. Did I make a mistake by getting pregnant? We've always butted heads on leisure activities and how much to spend on them, but this feels really ridiculous.

Did you offer that he go without you?

Why don't you express your concerns about a freaking early baby? Seriously I can't believe this hasn't came up. Flying at 36 weeks is dumb.

THIS.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here - so I expressed my concerns over an extended trip and a high elevation location and I basically was told that I never let him do anything and that he won't get to do fun trip like this after the kid is born. He totally blew it out of proportion. Did I make a mistake by getting pregnant? We've always butted heads on leisure activities and how much to spend on them, but this feels really ridiculous.

Did you offer that he go without you?

Why don't you express your concerns about a freaking early baby? Seriously I can't believe this hasn't came up. Flying at 36 weeks is dumb.

THIS.

OP here, I did. That was the original reason I had an issue. So, it was raised already.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here - so I expressed my concerns over an extended trip and a high elevation location and I basically was told that I never let him do anything and that he won't get to do fun trip like this after the kid is born. He totally blew it out of proportion. Did I make a mistake by getting pregnant? We've always butted heads on leisure activities and how much to spend on them, but this feels really ridiculous.

Did you offer that he go without you?

Why don't you express your concerns about a freaking early baby? Seriously I can't believe this hasn't came up. Flying at 36 weeks is dumb.

THIS.

OP here, I did. That was the original reason I had an issue. So, it was raised already.

I don't remember ever seeing that issue raised by you. You asked in a round about way if something could happen. I think maybe 1-2 people raised the premature issue.
Your husband sounds like an inconsiderate idiot.