Husband wants to go on a ski trip when I’m 7 or 8 months pregnant

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think many people do things - one last time - before the first child comes as they don't yet know what that life will look like and there is some trepidation that they will they will be able to do the things they enjoy or that life will become all about the baby.

It really depends on your mindset. I know people whose lives have barely skipped a beat and they continue to enjoy most of the same activities but with kids or in a kid version way and I know other people who haven't done anything for themselves or for fun for years and have given up hobbies and interests. Personally, I think the first is much healthier and continue to do what you enjoy makes you a better parent and it is good for the kids to see their parents as people with interests and hobbies.

Meh or sometimes you get a hard kid and you may not have the ability to pursue interests because you lack the family support, finances for care, or other resources (ie sure if I had a live in au pair and a DH who didn’t travel I could work out and go see my girlfriends regularly instead of manically racing around all the time being a full time employee and mom). Also, I can’t run any more due to incontinence and pelvic issues, so sometimes physical changes can mean you have to stop things you love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think many people do things - one last time - before the first child comes as they don't yet know what that life will look like and there is some trepidation that they will they will be able to do the things they enjoy or that life will become all about the baby.

It really depends on your mindset. I know people whose lives have barely skipped a beat and they continue to enjoy most of the same activities but with kids or in a kid version way and I know other people who haven't done anything for themselves or for fun for years and have given up hobbies and interests. Personally, I think the first is much healthier and continue to do what you enjoy makes you a better parent and it is good for the kids to see their parents as people with interests and hobbies.

Meh or sometimes you get a hard kid and you may not have the ability to pursue interests because you lack the family support, finances for care, or other resources (ie sure if I had a live in au pair and a DH who didn’t travel I could work out and go see my girlfriends regularly instead of manically racing around all the time being a full time employee and mom). Also, I can’t run any more due to incontinence and pelvic issues, so sometimes physical changes can mean you have to stop things you love.

+1 Some people struggle more with parenthood than others. Those who wonder why parenthood is so easy for them and not for others should count their blessings that they got and easy kid and likely have financial/family resources that others don't.

[Anonymous]

OP here - so I expressed my concerns over an extended trip and a high elevation location and I basically was told that I never let him do anything and that he won't get to do fun trip like this after the kid is born. He totally blew it out of proportion. Did I make a mistake by getting pregnant? We've always butted heads on leisure activities and how much to spend on them, but this feels really ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - so I expressed my concerns over an extended trip and a high elevation location and I basically was told that I never let him do anything and that he won't get to do fun trip like this after the kid is born. He totally blew it out of proportion. Did I make a mistake by getting pregnant? We've always butted heads on leisure activities and how much to spend on them, but this feels really ridiculous.

Sounds like he has a point. You're now being a drama queen and acting like a victim. Why can't he just go on one last short trip by himself? Good grief!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well truthfully, he won’t ever go skiing like this again. Gurstvyou’ll Have a small child, then you’ll have another small child, then yes you can do ski school but it’s a LOT of work to get kids out the door and to ski school and then to eventually ski with him, and you guys will question if you want to spend two months of daycare money on. 3-day ski weekend. Then eventually they are older and it’s easier and you have money, and now you are 48 and your knees hurt. So, yeah, if he wants a carefree easy ski weekend this is it. Let him go. You go have a spa weekend. If you are not used to altitude you shouldn’t go really high at that point in the pregnancy (think above 7000 feet) as it can be worse for pre eclampsia.

This isn’t true. You’ll ski again once your youngest is 5-6 and can be in ski school all day.

It’s fun! Expensive but fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - so I expressed my concerns over an extended trip and a high elevation location and I basically was told that I never let him do anything and that he won't get to do fun trip like this after the kid is born. He totally blew it out of proportion. Did I make a mistake by getting pregnant? We've always butted heads on leisure activities and how much to spend on them, but this feels really ridiculous.

It sounds like you married a man-baby. This is just the beginning. Don’t have any more kids.

[Anonymous]

Plenty of men want a last hurrah before baby is born because they recognize their life is about to be radically altered and they aren’t going to have the freedom they once enjoyed for the next 18 years. You are overreacting OP. Let him go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Plenty of men want a last hurrah before baby is born because they recognize their life is about to be radically altered and they aren’t going to have the freedom they once enjoyed for the next 18 years. You are overreacting OP. Let him go.

Cool, when do the women carrying the babies get their last hurrah?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Plenty of men want a last hurrah before baby is born because they recognize their life is about to be radically altered and they aren’t going to have the freedom they once enjoyed for the next 18 years. You are overreacting OP. Let him go.

Cool, when do the women carrying the babies get their last hurrah?

Before you get pregnant, obv.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Plenty of men want a last hurrah before baby is born because they recognize their life is about to be radically altered and they aren’t going to have the freedom they once enjoyed for the next 18 years. You are overreacting OP. Let him go.

Cool, when do the women carrying the babies get their last hurrah?

Before you get pregnant, obv.

Makes sense since we know exactly when we’re getting pregnant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Plenty of men want a last hurrah before baby is born because they recognize their life is about to be radically altered and they aren’t going to have the freedom they once enjoyed for the next 18 years. You are overreacting OP. Let him go.

Cool, when do the women carrying the babies get their last hurrah?

Before you get pregnant, obv.

Makes sense since we know exactly when we’re getting pregnant.

I took a big trip before I started trying.

[Anonymous]

Why is everyone ignoring that OP could deliver early? I can't believe the responses on here! My son was born at 35 weeks!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Plenty of men want a last hurrah before baby is born because they recognize their life is about to be radically altered and they aren’t going to have the freedom they once enjoyed for the next 18 years. You are overreacting OP. Let him go.

He should plan this earlier. 36 weeks is dumb and selfish.

[Anonymous]

7 months is fine. 8 months is stupid! My husband would never go on vacation a month before I am due. He understands that baby come early.

[Anonymous]

To the OP, you have every right to be irritated. He should be more sympathetic to the fact that you will be too far along to participate, and simultaneously too far along to leave you home alone if he were to go without you. It is selfish of him, but he probably isn't looking at it from the same perspective as you.

To all the ladies making rude, presumptuous comments about what kind of wife she is for having a problem with this...just wow. I would love to see any of you say any of this to someone's face. You are like little middle school trolls who sit behind your computers is anonymity and bully people. It's really ridiculous to read your comments.