Husband wants to go on a ski trip when I’m 7 or 8 months pregnant
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Anonymous
Do you freak out like this every time your spouse gets in a car? Cause odds are he’s more likely to be injured and disabled that way. Cut the dramatics. |
Anonymous
| So? Have him go and take a buddy or two. And you can stay home, relax, and not listen to him complain. Sounds ideal! |
Anonymous
| I live in Colorado and am used to altitude. My obgyn advised me not to go above 9000 feet during later stages of my pregnancy. Coming from sea level, I imagine recommendations would be to avoid even lower altitudes. |
Anonymous
| Unless I already knew that I was at risk for premature labor or other complications, I'd have no problem letting him go without me. But I wouldn't want to go and deal with altitude sickness during pregnancy, especially just to sit around in the lodge or hotel all day. |
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Would he be willing to go alone?
My husband also got freaked out about all the upcoming changes when I was pregnant. Having a baby will radically upturn both your lives. But it does get easier -- I'm pregnant now with #2 and we have a 3-year-old and my husband just took a solo vacation that he's been dreaming of for years. It was fine and everyone was perfectly happy with the arrangement. Your husband may not get to go skiing again for a year or two, but it does get easier with each passing year to reclaim a bit more of your adulthood. Perhaps a prenatal parenting class would be useful so he could voice these fears and hear other parents struggling with the same thing? |
Anonymous
| It's June. Why couldn't he go on his ski trip in Fen/ March, when you could have managed a lot easier? And, you know... SNOW! |
Anonymous
| Send him by himself or with friends, as early as possible. Don’t go because while flying might be ok you’ll likely be bored out of your mind, you sure as shit aren’t skiing. Take full advantage of being pregnant w baby 1 and chilling because I am currently 34 wks w #2 and a young toddler and yea, there’s no rest. He still wants me to pick his little 27 lb butt up and carry him. I had my first at 36 weeks so recommend him going earlier rather than later! By the end you’ll probably also be in full nesting mode so a weekend to yourself is the perfect time to work on the nursery |
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Only have one kid and he can go skiing again in a few years. If you have two it's harder. My friends with one kid go all the time. They are also rich and love skiing so it's a priority for them.
I'd send him on his own or with a friend. Plan something nice for yourself at home that weekend. I do think it's good for him to go now than after the baby is born. Don't go with him if you aren't interested in other activities there. |
Anonymous
There's a lot of truth to this. |
Anonymous
+1. |
Anonymous
Disagree. Once the kid(s) is a bit older an easier, he can go on his own for a short trip. My husband and I each do an occasional weekend away (about 1x per year) and it's nbd. The hard part is choosing what you want to do - you get way fewer opportunities to get away so you cant do everything you want like you used to. OP, if I were you I would let him go and treat yourself to something fun that weekend. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
Yup. he goes. You stay home. Book a prenatal pregnancy massage. Hang out with friends. Watch movies he doesn't want to. Sounds great to me! |
Anonymous
It sounds like he wants to drag her along and take trips like they used to. I agree with the other posters - that part of life is pretty much over for many years. (Sure, you guys can cover for each other and take solo trips, but carefree couples weekends because you feel like it are done. There will be family trips and couple trips will be few and far between - AND they take TONS of planning for childcare.) |
Anonymous
| Send him sooner rather than later! |