Artificial insemination and very insensitive wife (and MIL)....

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Neither the doctors nor the lawyer that wrote the contract required by the clink said there was any sort of counseling requirement. The OBGYN, Urologist, or the ART doctor mentioned or required any of that. The only thing they cared about was getting contracts signed because they would not accept delivery of the donor sperm until after those were given to the clinic.

I'm going to say that dcum lives up to its reputation of having a lot of judgmental jerks that make a lot of assumptions in ignorance. Some of your comments are actually quite hurtful but I think the pp that make them know that.

Boo hoo OP. You won't be happy until you really internalize the fact that the world isn't going to be sensitive to you automatically. Brush most people off and communicate with the people you love. You have some internal work to do. Good luck.

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Anonymous wrote:You need to work hard on your communication issues. Tell her how you feel. She needs to respect your feelings.

No, no, no. Men are supposed to let women emote all over them, but women hate, hate, hate it when men emote on women. Talk about your feewings and she will despise you, not respect you. Tell your shrink if you want but if you tell DW she will regard you as weak, pouty, and butthurt.

Uh...you are nuts. This is how adults act:
DH: could you please cool it with speculating about what the donor will make the baby look like.
DW: Oh I'm so sorry, I didnt mean to hurt your feelings

The end.

Thank you, PP.

You live in a fantasy world.

My DH tells me when I have hurt his feelings, and it doesn't make me love him less or less attracted to him. Probably because it is infrequent and he has a lot of other masculine qualities and is not a pouty baby. If you are a solid person and present as one, it is perfectly ok (and advisable!!) to express vulnerable emotions in a marriage, no matter if you are a man or a woman.