If you are very happily married w kids 10+ yrs , tell what you think is the main that makes it work.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, we have little financial stress. Don’t have to stress about money, taking care of aging parents, kid’s tuition, or retirement.

We can afford to do a lot of fun stuff like vacations.

And yes, we love and genuinely like and respect each other. My DH is the kindest person I know and a true gentleman.

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Anonymous wrote:What was his family situation growing up? Influences a lot! In my experience (obviously there are exceptions!) men from stable families with parents married 30+ years have an easier time with lifelong commitment.

Agreed.

This is OP and I have to say this seems to be the big takeaway. I guess we need to be encouraging our daughters to place extremely high priority on this for their own lives and choices. I just thought he was the example of wanting to be the opposite of his parents and he was for about 10-12 years but now he's completely reverted to the lifestyle he witnessed growing up. This is heartbreaking for me of course but I am now terrified of what this divorce will do to my kids.

My parents were married 55 years before my Dad died and my IL's were married 66 years. Each of my children's in-laws have been married between 40 and 50 years and we've been happily married 40 years. Not that it is a guarantee of success because both of my siblings have been divorced. But I do believe it creates an aspiration to follow suit.