Middle school gossip page on Instagram

[Anonymous]

Middle School was ands always been Lord of the Flies. Nothing has changed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Middle School was ands always been Lord of the Flies. Nothing has changed.

Typing on an i phone leads to typos.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Such ridiculous comments. Gossiping about or talking about another kid isn't bullying. Being picked on one time isn't bullying. Snowflakes raising snowflakes. Have you forgotten what hell MS was when you were all there? These IG pages are at every school. If you think a public school principal will do anything about someone being mentioned on these pages you are insane. It's happening on Tiki's Tok and Snapchat. You don't even want t know what is happening on snap. And for those delusional parents who check your kid's phone and don't see these things, there is a reason why. Be more suspicious if you don't. You can hide apps and photos and videos on your phone.

Every kid has been picked on doing their lifetime it's prime season in MS. Get over it.

If you make accusations about someone being sexually active, giving blowjobs, etc or if you talk about wanting to F a teacher at the school or make sexual accusations of what teacher is Fing what teacher that can fall into the realm of sexual harassment. The whole "ship" thing can also go into bulling. Often they take a child who is not popular and will match that person with someone who is so people can mock it. Boys who are well liked have felt embarrassed and humiliated by things girls have posted that they want to do to them. It is bullying.

Our principal has been veryr eceptive as are principals around the country. When the principal ignores it, sometimes angry parents get the authorities involved. You don't want that happening. I suggest you take your head out of the sand because these are all stepping stones to worse things and there are far too many kids who now have police records because of what their parents considered harmless fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Middle School was ands always been Lord of the Flies. Nothing has changed.

One thing has changed, now kids are stupid enough to do these things creating a digital trail. It's is easier to catch them and have serious sometimes life altering consequences. That is very good for the victim.

Some workplaces won't just google your kid's name, but will do a deep dive. This means things that your kid thought he deleted come back to haunt him in adulthood.

[Anonymous]

Here's an MCPS presentation about cyberbullying - seems much more serious to me than an off-hand, mean comment to a classmate in person.

https://www.montgomeryschoolsmd.org/uploadedFiles/departments/special-education/events/Internet%20Safety%20Presentation%20May%202014.pdf

[Anonymous]

I didn’t let my sons get Instagram accounts until HS. My 7th grade son doesn’t have one which may be why he is happy.

Read the studies on social media and tween/teen depression. I do think it’s worse with girls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Middle School was ands always been Lord of the Flies. Nothing has changed.

One thing has changed, now kids are stupid enough to do these things creating a digital trail. It's is easier to catch them and have serious sometimes life altering consequences. That is very good for the victim.

Some workplaces won't just google your kid's name, but will do a deep dive. This means things that your kid thought he deleted come back to haunt him in adulthood.

Yep. We tell our boys this all of the time and we practice what we preach. Both of us have an almost zero Internet presence. We both never had Facebook accounts and I am the only one in the family with Instagram with my siblings and extended family as only followers.

[Anonymous]

after reading this thread i started looking for "tea" pages for my kids' schools. While most are private, they also all had zero posts. Seems more like a half hearted effort than anything else, so i am glad about that. The only public one had a "no longer active" notice after 5 posts, one of which was awful.
thanks for bringing this to our attention. something to monitor in the future when kids are back in school.

[Anonymous]

As other have said, MS has always been Lord of the Flies. It just now has a digital component. If parents want this to stop, simple stop giving these kids smart phones and social media. How many organizations have to tell parents that these things are not appropriate for this age group before folks really start listening. Otherwise, prepare kids that this will likely happen and how to deal with this both through official channels and learning to ignore it.

[Anonymous]

Why does a middle schooler have enough access to the internet or a phone to have this as a problem. No access no issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why does a middle schooler have enough access to the internet or a phone to have this as a problem. No access no issues.

You must not have teens. If they don't have their wn device they have school computers. You do know that friends give their old phones away or sell them for cheap right. You need wifi and can find it anywhere. You're clueless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why does a middle schooler have enough access to the internet or a phone to have this as a problem. No access no issues.

You must not have teens. If they don't have their wn device they have school computers. You do know that friends give their old phones away or sell them for cheap right. You need wifi and can find it anywhere. You're clueless.

No not clueless. I set expected boundaries.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Middle School was ands always been Lord of the Flies. Nothing has changed.

It certainly won’t change if everyone accepts this as normal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Such ridiculous comments. Gossiping about or talking about another kid isn't bullying. Being picked on one time isn't bullying. Snowflakes raising snowflakes. Have you forgotten what hell MS was when you were all there? These IG pages are at every school. If you think a public school principal will do anything about someone being mentioned on these pages you are insane. It's happening on Tiki's Tok and Snapchat. You don't even want t know what is happening on snap. And for those delusional parents who check your kid's phone and don't see these things, there is a reason why. Be more suspicious if you don't. You can hide apps and photos and videos on your phone.

Every kid has been picked on doing their lifetime it's prime season in MS. Get over it.

If you make accusations about someone being sexually active, giving blowjobs, etc or if you talk about wanting to F a teacher at the school or make sexual accusations of what teacher is Fing what teacher that can fall into the realm of sexual harassment. The whole "ship" thing can also go into bulling. Often they take a child who is not popular and will match that person with someone who is so people can mock it. Boys who are well liked have felt embarrassed and humiliated by things girls have posted that they want to do to them. It is bullying.

Our principal has been veryr eceptive as are principals around the country. When the principal ignores it, sometimes angry parents get the authorities involved. You don't want that happening. I suggest you take your head out of the sand because these are all stepping stones to worse things and there are far too many kids who now have police records because of what their parents considered harmless fun.

authorities don't get involved unless there is a crime committed and none of what you describe is criminal. Principals at public school also have to balance first amendment rights (which apply to public school students) as well as the fact that they have zero investigative power. A smart kid using a pseudonymous account who refuses to answer questions won't and probably can't be punished in a public school

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:after reading this thread i started looking for "tea" pages for my kids' schools. While most are private, they also all had zero posts. Seems more like a half hearted effort than anything else, so i am glad about that. The only public one had a "no longer active" notice after 5 posts, one of which was awful.
thanks for bringing this to our attention. something to monitor in the future when kids are back in school.

Would it show up in the number of posts if they just did stories that have now disappeared?