They Left My Purse at the Table

[Anonymous]

Did you specifically ask them to keep an eye on your bag? It doesn't sound like it. You don't have a right to be upset with your friends for not reading your mind.

Always take your bag with you. I don't feel it's fair to make other people take on the added responsibility of watching my stuff. In a social setting (a restaurant, a party, a nightclub), there's too much going on, too many distractions, to put people in charge of your items, anyway. Learn from this experience, and feel grateful that nothing got stolen.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, it was extremely thoughtless of them to leave your purse unattended!

Who does that??

You certainly didn't have to ask them to watch it. That's girl-code 101 stuff right there.

If they saw it and knew it was there, they shouldn't have left it alone. That's ridiculous, frankly.

Agree! I’m surprised by all these other responses. Since they knew it was there because they had to move it to reach their own purses, one of the women should have at least stayed at the table until you returned.

Absolutely.

I think some of the posts here are just piling on. I am pretty sure I don't have any friends who wouldn't grab the purse or stay at the table until I return.

I would have stayed or brought the purse, but I would have been annoyed. It was the end of the meal. Why do I have to sit here and wait while OP goes to the bathroom? What if I need to go to the bathroom? Then I have to take it with me (why do I have to carry YOUR purse to the bathroom because you didn't want to?) or cross my legs and wait, and then make everyone wait for me while I go (or better yet, get left behind because everyone else has already gone). Take care of your own stuff!

Are you serious? Why are you making this such a dramatic issue? You wait or take the purse with you. It's not a life-altering decision. Also, have you never in life had to hold your bladder? Have you never had to wait for another human being before? Are you worried about not making while you wait for 5 minutes for your friend's return?

How odd.

Yeah, it is odd that OP is considering not being friends with these people because they didn't cart her purse to the bathroom in the restaurant.

I'm not at all referring to the OP. I'm referring to the PP acting like this entire scenario is above her mental capacity.

Thanks for playing, though.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, it was extremely thoughtless of them to leave your purse unattended!

Who does that??

You certainly didn't have to ask them to watch it. That's girl-code 101 stuff right there.

If they saw it and knew it was there, they shouldn't have left it alone. That's ridiculous, frankly.

Agree! I’m surprised by all these other responses. Since they knew it was there because they had to move it to reach their own purses, one of the women should have at least stayed at the table until you returned.

Absolutely.

I think some of the posts here are just piling on. I am pretty sure I don't have any friends who wouldn't grab the purse or stay at the table until I return.

I would have stayed or brought the purse, but I would have been annoyed. It was the end of the meal. Why do I have to sit here and wait while OP goes to the bathroom? What if I need to go to the bathroom? Then I have to take it with me (why do I have to carry YOUR purse to the bathroom because you didn't want to?) or cross my legs and wait, and then make everyone wait for me while I go (or better yet, get left behind because everyone else has already gone). Take care of your own stuff!

Are you serious? Why are you making this such a dramatic issue? You wait or take the purse with you. It's not a life-altering decision. Also, have you never in life had to hold your bladder? Have you never had to wait for another human being before? Are you worried about not making while you wait for 5 minutes for your friend's return?

How odd.

Yeah, it is odd that OP is considering not being friends with these people because they didn't cart her purse to the bathroom in the restaurant.

I'm not at all referring to the OP. I'm referring to the PP acting like this entire scenario is above her mental capacity.

Thanks for playing, though.

I think you are OP, and I think pp hit a nerve. And it's not beyond anyone's mental capacity, but it is ok to think that your "friend" who assumes that you have time to sit around and baby sit her purse because she can't be bothered to take responsibility for her own stuff is very rude and entitled. I don't think you have to worry about cutting off your "friends," I think they'll take care of that for you.

[Anonymous]

OP, I think that all 3 of you are weird. If I were you, I would have taken my purse with me. If I were them, I wouldn't touch your purse, but I would have stayed at the table until you come back.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, it was extremely thoughtless of them to leave your purse unattended!

Who does that??

You certainly didn't have to ask them to watch it. That's girl-code 101 stuff right there.

If they saw it and knew it was there, they shouldn't have left it alone. That's ridiculous, frankly.

Agree! I’m surprised by all these other responses. Since they knew it was there because they had to move it to reach their own purses, one of the women should have at least stayed at the table until you returned.

Absolutely.

I think some of the posts here are just piling on. I am pretty sure I don't have any friends who wouldn't grab the purse or stay at the table until I return.

I would have stayed or brought the purse, but I would have been annoyed. It was the end of the meal. Why do I have to sit here and wait while OP goes to the bathroom? What if I need to go to the bathroom? Then I have to take it with me (why do I have to carry YOUR purse to the bathroom because you didn't want to?) or cross my legs and wait, and then make everyone wait for me while I go (or better yet, get left behind because everyone else has already gone). Take care of your own stuff!

Are you serious? Why are you making this such a dramatic issue? You wait or take the purse with you. It's not a life-altering decision. Also, have you never in life had to hold your bladder? Have you never had to wait for another human being before? Are you worried about not making while you wait for 5 minutes for your friend's return?

How odd.

Yeah, it is odd that OP is considering not being friends with these people because they didn't cart her purse to the bathroom in the restaurant.

I'm not at all referring to the OP. I'm referring to the PP acting like this entire scenario is above her mental capacity.

Thanks for playing, though.

I think you are OP, and I think pp hit a nerve. And it's not beyond anyone's mental capacity, but it is ok to think that your "friend" who assumes that you have time to sit around and baby sit her purse because she can't be bothered to take responsibility for her own stuff is very rude and entitled. I don't think you have to worry about cutting off your "friends," I think they'll take care of that for you.

Listen, moron, I’m not the OP. (You should stop thinkingif you’re always this wrong.)

I’m pretty certain you have no friends if you’re this annoying in real life. So, let me help you... Friends—hell, even strangers—often look out after each other, even at an inconvenience to themselves. This is what kind people do.

Now, go sit down and think about how to be a better person.

[Anonymous]

Well this has escalated.

OP - yes you should have asked for them to keep an eye out if they were visibly still eating and seated. Or alternately, you take your belongings.

If either of your coworkers had to physically move their purse to retrieve their own and left it, that was a very inconsiderate choice. One should as a kindness extended to anyone - but in particular someone you work with. You either wait or take - however annoying that might be - esp for a few moments.

No one act defines anyone - friendships between anyone should be based on a lot more, but character does reveal itself in repeated actions.

Your tone and verbage can rub some the wrong way. You’re probably nice and fun but we internet weirdos will never appreciate that part.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well this has escalated.

OP - yes you should have asked for them to keep an eye out if they were visibly still eating and seated. Or alternately, you take your belongings.

If either of your coworkers had to physically move their purse to retrieve their own and left it, that was a very inconsiderate choice. One should as a kindness extended to anyone - but in particular someone you work with. You either wait or take - however annoying that might be - esp for a few moments.

No one act defines anyone - friendships between anyone should be based on a lot more, but character does reveal itself in repeated actions.

Your tone and verbage can rub some the wrong way. You’re probably nice and fun but we internet weirdos will never appreciate that part.

19:15 here.

You’re right, and this is truly the best answer in this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok-So this is one of those ‘Am I being too sensitive’ posts.

To the chase:

Went out with 2 colleagues turned friends this evening. At one point I excused myself to use the restroom, leaving my purse behind on the empty chair.

A few minutes later they entered the restroom-leaving my purse behind! I though Girl Code dictates you take the other person’s bag with you (and take it to them) if it’s been left behind and you’re leaving the vicinity.

I have no intention of confronting them about it (when they walked in I said “You guys left my purse?” And went to retrieve it) but I would like to know if I’m being a bit overly sensitive here. Ive been trying to figure out if I can truly consider them friends, keep my distance anyway which is why I’m paying attention to such a minor (or not) thing.

You must be kidding me! You have to ask other people (including your family members) to keep an eye on your stuff while you stepped out. Girl Code? Are you in a middle school? It is time to grow up and to use Adult Code.

[Anonymous]

You need a husband. A husband is 100% responsible for watching their wife’s purse. Get busy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ok-So this is one of those ‘Am I being too sensitive’ posts.

To the chase:

Went out with 2 colleagues turned friends this evening. At one point I excused myself to use the restroom, leaving my purse behind on the empty chair.

A few minutes later they entered the restroom-leaving my purse behind! I though Girl Code dictates you take the other person’s bag with you (and take it to them) if it’s been left behind and you’re leaving the vicinity.

I have no intention of confronting them about it (when they walked in I said “You guys left my purse?” And went to retrieve it) but I would like to know if I’m being a bit overly sensitive here. Ive been trying to figure out if I can truly consider them friends, keep my distance anyway which is why I’m paying attention to such a minor (or not) thing.

You must be kidding me! You have to ask other people (including your family members) to keep an eye on your stuff while you stepped out. Girl Code? Are you in a middle school? It is time to grow up and to use Adult Code.

+1 There is no “Girl Code”. Take responsibility for your own things. People are not your purse babysitters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you say “hey, can you watch my purse while I’m in the restroom?”.

+1 I would’ve assumed you brought it with you. I’ve accidentally forgotten my own bag, I can hardly think it’s fair to expect others to keep track of my stuff if I don’t specifically ask them to.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did you say “hey, can you watch my purse while I’m in the restroom?”.

+1 I would’ve assumed you brought it with you. I’ve accidentally forgotten my own bag, I can hardly think it’s fair to expect others to keep track of my stuff if I don’t specifically ask them to.

Why does everyone keep saying that they might not have seen it when she said that a coworker had hers in the same chair and had to move it to get her own? I get personal accountability but is that not just a bit problematic? They work together and had dinner together. It’s really not cool.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t have left if I were your friend. Lesson learned though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're stupidity. Who leaves their purse on a chair?

Is this English? I have no idea what you are trying to say.

[Anonymous]

Why can’t we all just get along? It’s breaking my heart that we are tearing each other apart instead of building each other up. I start bawling when I read these types of postings