They Left My Purse at the Table

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They didn't leave your purse at the table, you did.

Got it!

[Anonymous]

I always stay and watch a friend's purse, or take it with me (if I notice it's there), but I'll also put in a word for the people on the other side of the equation -- I've also been put in the position of having someone in our party stand up and go somewhere, leaving their purse, and then I'm stuck, trying to decide if they're going to be right back, or if I should take it with me? If they come back, and it's not there, will they panic and think it's been stolen? Meanwhile, I'm sitting there thinking about this, and pondering the practicality of walking around with two purses, while everyone else is off having a good time or going to the bathroom or whatever. Unless the entrees have just been served and you explain that you'll be back in a minute and ask them if they mind looking after your purse, it's actually kind of rude to just assume that you can stick your friends with the responsibility for your stuff. If the dinner is over and you just stand up and go the bathroom with no explanation and assume they'll sit there while you're gone? You kind of deserve what you get.

[Anonymous]

“OMG you left my purse?!!?!!” Runs away to get it. Friends fee bad. No one likes to feel bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Had you guys paid the check yet? It seems weird that everyone left the table unless y'all were done for the evening.

The check had been paid and I excused myself after boxing up my food and waiting for them to box theirs.

So dinner was over and you just assumed that they would sit and wait for you to get back before they could go to the bathroom?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Had you guys paid the check yet? It seems weird that everyone left the table unless y'all were done for the evening.

The check had been paid and I excused myself after boxing up my food and waiting for them to box theirs.

So what happenned to your food - was that left at the table too or did they take it with them?

I’d put my box of food in my bag. (Yeah, it’s that big.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They might not have noticed. When I leave my bag at the table with my kids I double check that at least one of them will stay there or take it with them if they had to leave. Lots of women bring their bags to the washroom so I wouldn't expect them to watch it unless you asked or mentioned you were leaving it. You might scan the table for bags but not everyone would.

I get your point and I already owned up to not asking anybody to watch it but trust me, it was visible. It was large enough to be seen across the room and one of the women had to actually lift it to get to her own purse as they’d been sitting in the same chair.

You are too hung up on this. Let it go. God forbid what you would be thinking if your purse went missing. Lesson learned. Move on. I'm sure it wasn't a group plan to try and get your purse stolen. There's no I'll intent but you're acting like there was. Relax.

[Anonymous]

^ ill intent

[Anonymous]

I think you were nuts to leave it. The only person you should be annoyed at is yourself.

I never ever leave my purse in ANY public place, unless DH is there, and then I hand it to him, and he tucks it under his leg until I'm back (mine is small).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Had you guys paid the check yet? It seems weird that everyone left the table unless y'all were done for the evening.

The check had been paid and I excused myself after boxing up my food and waiting for them to box theirs.

So what happenned to your food - was that left at the table too or did they take it with them?

I’d put my box of food in my bag. (Yeah, it’s that big.)

Sorry OP.

It is still 100% your fault. I feel for your friends.

[Anonymous]

Why are you dragging around a suitcase after work? No one wants to hurt their back carrying your HERMÈS trunk to the bathroom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Had you guys paid the check yet? It seems weird that everyone left the table unless y'all were done for the evening.

The check had been paid and I excused myself after boxing up my food and waiting for them to box theirs.

So dinner was over and you just assumed that they would sit and wait for you to get back before they could go to the bathroom?

We’d eaten, I’d boxed my food while they finished up their desserts. Boxes were there for them to pack their leftover entrees. We were definitely not sitting at an emptied table preparing to leave. They were still engaged in conversation and desserts. That’s the reason it didn’t occur to me they’d be getting up before I returned.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you dragging around a suitcase after work? No one wants to hurt their back carrying your HERMÈS trunk to the bathroom.

Funny! It’s not a suitcase but the small styrofoam box did fit with some room to spare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They might not have noticed. When I leave my bag at the table with my kids I double check that at least one of them will stay there or take it with them if they had to leave. Lots of women bring their bags to the washroom so I wouldn't expect them to watch it unless you asked or mentioned you were leaving it. You might scan the table for bags but not everyone would.

I get your point and I already owned up to not asking anybody to watch it but trust me, it was visible. It was large enough to be seen across the room and one of the women had to actually lift it to get to her own purse as they’d been sitting in the same chair.

You are too hung up on this. Let it go. God forbid what you would be thinking if your purse went missing. Lesson learned. Move on. I'm sure it wasn't a group plan to try and get your purse stolen. There's no I'll intent but you're acting like there was. Relax.

It’s a question on a message board and responses to questions that are being asked. That does not mean I’m hung up on it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you dragging around a suitcase after work? No one wants to hurt their back carrying your HERMÈS trunk to the bathroom.

Funny! It’s not a suitcase but the small styrofoam box did fit with some room to spare.

Don’t get worked up. Annoying yes. Friend evaluation? Probably not. Just point it out next time or lug that bag of bricks with you. Either way...spend more time and see if they are considerate friend material.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you dragging around a suitcase after work? No one wants to hurt their back carrying your HERMÈS trunk to the bathroom.

Funny! It’s not a suitcase but the small styrofoam box did fit with some room to spare.

Don’t get worked up. Annoying yes. Friend evaluation? Probably not. Just point it out next time or lug that bag of bricks with you. Either way...spend more time and see if they are considerate friend material.

Funny!