Marry a man who brings you coffee in bed every morning

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ladies - marry a man like my husband who always puts his clothes in the hamper, puts the seat down, wipes the counter after he shaves, and washes dishes and picks up toys every night while I put the kids to bed. He comes home from work with milk or other staples “because I noticed we were running low”. He throws a load of wash in “becuase the hamper was full”. He powers through colds and back pain like a mom would.

You don’t have to put up with bumbling, incompetent men. There are men out there who are observant, capable and responsible adults who don’t have to be nagged to be contributing members of the household.

Oh yeah, he also makes coffee every morning.

How do I raise one of these. My ex husband is almost 60 and still ears Lean Cuisine for dinner. I fear fo my son's future.

Then why don't you teach him to cook?

[excuse, excuse]

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get up and make coffee every morning, make the kids' lunches and breakfasts and walk the dog three times a day. I do almost all laundry and dishes. My wife is annoyed that I don't also serve her coffee in bed every morning. Really.

Nights when I work late on a client deadline, she still expects me to get up to make her coffee, even if the kids don't have school and I'm exhausted. If I don't she makes sure to make as much noise as possible so that I know she's mad.

It would never occur to her to bring me coffee or anything else.

So you are probably kicking yourself for marrying her, no? You chose this. You can choose to stop it.

[Anonymous]

Wtf is wrong with these men? Now I know who puts up with no sex. I know one man that does this. His sons have the worst handshake I've ever encountered. I feel bad for those boys.

[Anonymous]

Have higher standards, ladies!

[Anonymous]

OP is a man. Only men say "ladies"

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My friend's H takes her car out in the evening if it is low on gas and fills it up.

My husband does this too. I am very appreciative of it

+1 mine as well--I'm very appreciative, too!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I leave the house at 5:00. If I brought my wife coffee then, she'd string me up.

You can't just leave it on her nightstand like mine does? It's the sweetest thing to wake up to!

wouldn't it be stone cold? I would rather he leave the pot on so there is a nice hot cup if I were the type to want this.

Yeah, this. "Hey, honey, here's something else for you to do this morning - carry this full cup of cold coffee downstairs to reheat. Have a good day!"

Moreover, OP, your post and attitude about this remind me of the facebook posters who incessantly proclaim how great their partners and marriages are. It's pretty clear they are overcompensating, and it's pretty clear you are trying to convince yourself that you are happy and have a great marriage. I hope it works out for you.

Wow, projecting much? A lot of Bitter Bettys on this thread. No wonder your DH's don't do sh*t for you. They get zero credit or gratitude for the small, thoughtful acts.

Bitter betty? Nice try, don draper.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is a man. Only men say "ladies"

We say, "Hi ladies" in work emails when no guys are included.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP is a man. Only men say "ladies"

We say, "Hi ladies" in work emails when no guys are included.

LuLa Roe corporate?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:LOL@ “short”comings

It’s gonna take more than coffee to make up for some short comings.

My husband used to bring me tea in bed each morning to keep me in my place. So I didn’t complain about his lack of affection, lack of intimacy etc. the first time someone suggested to me I balked. Over time I saw it was true. I am saving money to leave his sad, unmotivated, controlling self.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get up and make coffee every morning, make the kids' lunches and breakfasts and walk the dog three times a day. I do almost all laundry and dishes. My wife is annoyed that I don't also serve her coffee in bed every morning. Really.

Nights when I work late on a client deadline, she still expects me to get up to make her coffee, even if the kids don't have school and I'm exhausted. If I don't she makes sure to make as much noise as possible so that I know she's mad.

It would never occur to her to bring me coffee or anything else.

I’d pump-n-dump that woman.

[Anonymous]

My DH also brings me coffee every morning, scrapes ice and snow off my windshield, gasses up my car, does all manual labor around the house, packs school lunch each morning, and coaches and shuttles out kids to all their sports. I'm very grateful for all the thoughtful small things he does.

[Anonymous]

My husband brings me coffee, but that is literally all he does. He does zero house/lawn work. He does zero childcare. He does zero shopping/cooking (but he is a picky eater who expects a fresh, home-cooked meal every night).

On top of that, he is verbally, emotionally, and at times physically abusive.

He brings me coffee, and then expects to be waited on hand and foot. I’d rather make my own damn coffee, and have a better husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is a man. Only men say "ladies"

You clearly didn't go to catholic school. The nuns called us ladies...Ladies of the Academy, than you very much!

#LOTA

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP is a man. Only men say "ladies"

We say, "Hi ladies" in work emails when no guys are included.

LuLa Roe corporate?

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